How do I go about finding a new group of friends in the modern age?

I know two ways to make friends. 

1. Working on projects together with people. That can look like all sorts of things. Volunteer somewhere. Get involved in political action. Grow food with people in community gardens or guerrilla gardens. Start a band. Pick a sport and join a team. Learn martial arts. Take a pottery class. Find a group that does local hikes. Start a book club. Help someone with their homework or things they struggle with due to disability or whatever. Just do anything that gets you into a group of people with a shared goal and/or common interests, where you're doing an activity together.

2. Get some housemates / roommates. Preferably in a situation where you're ALL on the lease, so nobody has power over anybody else.

edit: just realized I responded to this 4 months ago with pretty much the same advice, but this has some slightly different suggestions so I guess I'm gonna leave it.

I highly recommend getting into some sport. From my experience, you meet lots of people that way and people are generally social because it IS a social activity. At the very least you'll get experience talking to people even if it's not immediate friendship. Something like ping pong or badminton is recommended because you don't need a whole group to play with.

You can ask people to play with you, how long they've been playing, how often they play where you're at, and generally keep asking questions! And then you can add each other on whatever platform you please to keep in touch

Antes creí saber el como hacer amigos, pero ahora que entre a la u, me di cuenta que no se hacer un grupo de amigas reales y no toxico, además me entere que en el colegio a las personas que considere amigos, pues en realidad no querian juntarse conmigo porque era "complicada" Entonces no lo se :c

If you're in school, ask someone next to you a question about the material. Complain about the teacher or the workload. Ask them for a favor. If you notice someone alone, ask if you can sit next to them. COMPLIMENT PEOPLE, genuinely it helps so much and even if you never talk beyond that, it'll leave a good impression of you on that person.

If you aren't in school, it's best to meet people by simply going out and enjoying your hobbies. Sadly "third spaces" (places other than home and work) are less accessible now. Still, try practicing conversation with people whenever you can. Have small talk with your server or something. Take a class for something you enjoy. And just.. get out and touch grass and you'll find someone who's nice

Srry if this reply is late and bthers you, but I made a couple of new friends last year through simply talking more and going to new spaces like work, clubs, school. It always works w just being nice and giving a compliment or just greeting them!

Hello, Bee. I see you're struggling with the friendship heebee jeebies in the 21st contemporary century. Firstly, I recommend popping a sweet tab of E, and let the sweet lullabies of the night blissfully carry you away. Movie recommendation while popping a sweet tab of E: The Exorcist. E for Exorcist. Also, Lucy, if you're reading this, fuck Inverness, you cunty ass little sweaty slimy bitch!

I hope you make some good friends, Bee! (Just not ones like Lucy).

Sincerely,

Fiend

You rlly js have to talk to people that have the same interests as you, or have something in common it might sound like a lot of work but I promise it's not. Friendships don't always work out and that's okay! Not everyone is going to like you or have the same interests and that's totally normal!

Friendships tend to form organically through mutually shared activities. All the friends I have now are people I met because we did stuff together. Get involved politically - attend local marches, rallies, organizing meetings, political spaces, etc. Take martial arts or a sport. Start a band (if you don't know any musicians, you can find people at open mics or put up posters at places like the library seeking bandmates). And so on. Whatever appeals to you. I did all of the above and I made so many friends I don't know what to do with them all.

If you have a pretty defined set of interests, see if there are any clubs/groups/meetups in your area related to that thing. Then on top of meeting new people you already have a built-in conversation starter. If there's nothing like that available locally, you may try just getting involved in your community in general. See if you can volunteer somewhere, or advocate for an issue that's important to you.

Conversationally, getting curious about others can help a lot in building the foundation for an eventual friendship. Listening well when people tell you about themselves, and following your natural curiosity in your conversations. Other than that... I dunno!

Share fun stories and insights and see if you can catch a glimpse at what someones fav interests are, usually even very quiet people have something theyre obsessed with so ask open ended questions on that. Artists and people who decorate their stuff alot usually show alot of interests yo can ask abt!!

what i do if i want to start a conversation is to find a useful topic first, for example compliment them on their outfit and then ask where they got it from, once they answered your question you can choose to follow up with another question or add a piece of your own information. just make sure to get them to keep speaking. if they answer really short then theyre probably not interested in talking to you or feel akward. 

for example:

p.1: hey i like your outfit

p.2.: thank you

P.1.: where did you buy your clothes, i like them

P.2.: oh i got it from....

P.1.: oh i heard that that store ... is that correct?

etc.. etc...

i get that starting a conversation can be really hard but in the end it will feel really rewarding!! just make sure to have a "reason" to talk to them and to start the convo, otherwise it will get akward, it helps a lot to talk to people you know have the same interests as you, or a person you know more information about, this makes keeping a converstation going easier.

u can always ask things like "i heard you (like/do/know) *add interest, hobby or anything else" and from there start to ask questions about the topic or about the answer they gave you.

hope this helps! 

In pursuit of happiness or in pursuit of your personal interests you are bound to run into people. Reach out with your metaphorical hand to people when you meet them. The rest is a game of chances. Some will extend the metaphorical hand.

After graduating from school, the finding friends difficulty is automatically set to "very high" so ye... ik not motivational at all! I got one single friend after school, the rest are people i know for 20+ years

I want to get old technology i am tired of new tech

I have the same problem here too. I really think that other social media's had damage humanity as a whole. Is really sad that now we as humans we can't even have other humans as friends. I wish I can really be understood as a person. I love painting, and make music. If anyone will like to be my friend I'll really appreciate it 

its hard for me to say cause most of my friends approached me, but if your in school joing clubs is literally a life savor, or finding any chance to talk to people in classes works too! even just offering people candy in class helps (it sounds stupid ik but its a great convo starter sometimes)

from experience, at lunch I just kinda went up to someone who was alone and asked if I could sit with them. i asked for there name, gave mine, asked what they were drawing, it was something from my fav game, we became friends.

another experience, i was at the park and someone had on a shirt of my all time fav anime, and they were alone. asked if I could sit with them, they said sure, I complimented the shirt, and we began talking abt the anime. then we got each other's discord after they happens to ask (i was gonna, they beat me to it lol)

rlly, u just gotta find someone who isn't gonna get annoyed by ur presence (ie, there already in a big group and looks like they're about to do something so youd be kinda inconvenient) like both of those people were alone. another tip is to try and tell what they like, maybe through merch, that is a common interest, so you can start conversation like that. if you wanna know how to start conversation, complimenting something like I did with that persons shirt always works, to further it if there shy you could ask why they like the thing, where they bought the merch, what else do they like, and more

I basically made like 100s of friends by just going to clubs/raves/parties. Most friends I make are the extremely drunk ones in the bathrooms or the ppl taking a smoke break outside, they're always the most kind people in the world + u get big ass confidence booosts from them even if ur extremely ugly drunk ppl always find a way to compliment u n really mean it!!

You receive the energy you put out. To approach friendship with desperation is something people will unfortunate as it is, sense. If you learn to love and value yourself and develop your own interests and passions, the friendships will come to you.

Well..I'll be honest. I have social anxiety so it's not easy for me. And I really don't get out much, so for me online is way easier! 

I understand though, very much. If you're more comfortable than I am in social situations, google events in your area. Anything you're interested in could be promising. I'm quite subtle but I find myself studying demeanor, etc. A bit of observation goes a long way!

I would think about your interests and see if there is some kind of event or convention, could be a show, just some kind of social event maybe a game night? like-minded people to connect in one way and the rest will hopefully come. <3

idk i wish i knew how.

online its ez yk but irl its another thing. especially in germany where i live bc people here are like so shut in yk,like you talk to them and they stare through you and make it awkward

I struggle too. I can't really find friends, I don't have any besides my bf and two friends that I never see, because they live far away. So most of my days are lonely too. It's actually quite sad, but I got used to it, that most people didn't live the same reality as me and we don't have anything in common. I still try to be nice to everyone and help others if I can. I tried to find internet friends, but it never really works out. :(

honestly, finding a group or just talking to people who look/sound cool n give off good vibes - there's also an interesting thing with finding people with shared interests ^^

Whatever your interests, go to places where people meet and talk about it.

Cosplay events, ren fairs, concerts, gamer conventions, wherever.

Find or start an online group for your interests, but for people local to you. After a time, you'll find out who's cool, they probably have meet ups or you can probably start on. Make SURE if you're going to a meet up for the first time, that it's in an openly public place, preferably daytime, and with other people about. 

"To have a friend, you must be one."

-Fran Striker, Lone Ranger's creed

I struggle a lot with this, too. I'm a terrible conversation starter but a pretty good conversation carry-er-oner (lol). If anyone is looking for friends with similar interests as me, hmu.... We'll play MineCraft together or something.

join social clubs of interests such as drawing

Find something that you like about a person and compliment them about it. It may or may not lead into a conversation which leads to a friendship, but it definitely beats staring at them like a weirdo.

same here :/

wear things ur interested in!!!! i wore a demon slayer hoodie and my now best friend complimented me :3 dont b scared to come up to ppl!!

to everyone: i understand where u all r coming from, if u need to talk/vent to me feel free to do so!! ive been struggling myself a lot so i probably will understand u and wont judge u<3

to everyone: i understand where u all r coming from, if u need to talk/vent to me feel free to do so!! ive been struggling myself a lot so i probably will understand u and wont judge u<3

literally nobody at my school has the same fashion as me but like whatevs. i couldn't give a shit about those basic lululemon girls.

Honestly I made the best friends I had while I was in college, but most of us moved away from each other so we drifted apart. Honestly if you can make decent friends with your coworkers and then make friends with their friends you can probably get somewhere there.

me too :’( the only reason i have friends is bc i got lucky and an extrovert came up to me first -u-

i’ve found that giving people compliments is always a great conversation starter e.g on a bus or when you’re walking past someone, you could always ask for their socials afterwards.

I wish I knew.

I remember how easy it was to make friends in primary school especially kindergarten-2nd grade lol all you had to do was ask to be friends or randomly start playing together. 

Consider, at first, what kind of people you want to hang out with and meet. Also make sure you've got some interesting stuff to talk about once in a while, don't make other people carry the entire weight of a conversation with you! 

I’m sorry this is kind of generic but, slowly do it.

i struggle with the same, however, if you want to be friends i am absolutely welcome to that idea !!!1

im still trying to figure that out

I find that just talking to as many people as you can until you click works. Usually cool people know other cool people so gaining one friend can lead to more

I enjoy socializing and make friends & acquaintances (learn the difference) rather easily. Here's some advice:

damn idk i got social anxiety

Mutual interests grow some pretty big bonds

I had to move schools a year ago. And it was very difficult going from having classmates I shared a decade of history with to not having any friends at all. But honestly the best thing that worked for me was being patient and talking to people I sat near.

be talkative, compliment people, and just try to be a nice person - also, ill be your friend , lmk if you need anything :)