>be me, autistic
>"its ok, ily anon"
>has breakdowns + reduced functionality
>"you're a gross pos toxic loser"
>wtf.jpg

god forbid someone is actually mentally disabled and not just some quirked-up wholesome chungas ffs

stability is monotony, instability is a hell like no other.

It's hard to tell if someone is genuine about their feelings or not, so you can get hurt easily if you actually open up

This one is really evident in friendships

When they need you to be there for them every single time they talk about their problems (which is every single day) and when you give them advice or try to help them, they say "I know" but doesn't listen which ends up to you giving everything that you can offer but no improvements seen from the person which traps you in a loop...

you tend to worry whether youre doing enough/being a good partner

I know it's a bit much , I'm an only child , no I don't wanna share a room , give up half my closet space , or see you everyday 

when you have to do everything for them but they do nothing for you

When one is too like I love you I miss you talk to me and your not really that and like to have like a good middle ground of being with each other but also not only spending time together and but spending time serpent from eachother.  

Have to share my grommit mug

When they start to feel too comfortable to the point of bore. Just makes u wish when it was new and fun

That you end up wasting months of your life on a person who promises equality but all the effort is one sided and you've pretty much become a trophy and form of emotional validation and not a loved and appreciated partner

definitely the overthinking. nothing to do with my partner, but i've been cheated on before and it sucks. my partner reassures me that she won't cheat bc she thinks its an absolutely disgusting behavior, but somehow it is still in the back of my mind. i really do hate being an overthinker lol. 

i find peeps who are usually 1-sided always turn out to be a controllin coverted narcissists that have both unrealistic high ass standard + expectations to where they act hella entitled that they then act hella offended / pissed off when you stand your ground rather than givin into their bs.

For me... I am really clingy and stuff, and I don't notice it until they hint at me being too clingy. Then, I try to distance myself from them.. and they're all like "What happened to you? Do you not have feeling for me anymore?" It just leads to a big fight afterwards...

if you end up finding a toxic guy/girl, have fun with the attachment issues and cheating lol

When they force you to do things you do not wanna do (going out ect) and when you're saying your honest opinions and they tell you to shut up

myself

The anxiety for sure- never knowing if you are doing good enough and the one-sidedness that happens more often than it should leaving you feeling worse than you would have felt hat you just stayed alone

Ooo this is actually a really good thread, open up my thoughts late at night

For me personally, it's definitely just never being in a relationship before. I don't like admitting but I've never really been in a relationship (at present). I don't know what my approach would be, I don't really know if I'm doing the right or wrong thing. It can be seen in many ways, which you know under my circumstances of pursuing other things and priorities has somewhat limited me to not pursue one for now. I don't want to get heartbroken just yet, I feel like I'm not ready for that challenge just yet, I see it as a disadvantage :P 

WORSE PART 4 ME IS LIKE WHEN UR DATING SOMEONE AND THEN THEY DROP SOME INFO THATS LIKE A TOTAL DEALBR8KER AND NOW YOUR WHOOOOOLE IDEA OF THEM HAS CHANGED SO NOW U HAVE 2 THINK OF HOW TO BRING UP LEAVING SOMEONE WHO YOU HAVE GENUINE FEELINGS 4. :0(((

Just got out of a relationship, the worst part is that I genuinely disliked her... I mean the first like 4 months were blissful but as time went on I started to notice things that annoyed me so much, after some time I just though: "Well with that approach this ain't going anywhere" and I broke up with her. I felt no emotion when doing that, little sad the next day but the day after that it went away. She wanted me to think that it didn't bother her but I had an appointment with a preist in her church to fix some radio equipment and she was there and wanted me to talk to her, I didn't obviously, but she wanted to start a conversation sooo bad. So the moral is that if you start seeing flaws in your partner, rethink and reconsider if you want to be with them.

Thank you for reading, I just needed to get that off my chest

Being ignored. Don't ever ignore me. You can tell me you don't wanna talk. You can tell me you need space. Whatever the case... Radio Silence is a hard limit for me. It touches a very vulnerable place in me.

omg when they use their mental health as an excuse for everything

In my experience, I feel like nobody ever really wants to get to know me. Like, they really only want to talk about themselves and their interests. I feel like nobody ever takes the time to get to really know me, and instead they project what they want onto this blank slate of a person that they never truly bothered to get to know. 

I also feel like I always take this motherly position in my relationships. I'm always doing all the cleaning, cooking, and emotional labor. I'm tired of being used. 

Not knowing if they're faking it.

Like if they lost feelings how long would it take them to tell me??

Once I had an ex who got arrested and cheated on me which was a little sucky tbh

Not being able to trust them !! mby its cuz hes a boy but its so hard to trust him !! (tips?)

Falta de atencion y comunicacion

probably a tie between feeling like you're the one who's more in love & dealing with retroactive jealousy. i have it SOOO bad and it's hard to find support online when the content more often than not seems to be oriented towards men who are dealing with the societal misogynistic idea that their girlfriend isn't supposed to have previous sexual experiences, and that's just not relatable or applicable to my own relationship :(

when you have to be away from them and do ldr temporarily T-T

Knowing that both of us had mental issues that were getting in the way

How hard it is to let go of your first LOVE.

that my partner is not Jang Ki yong :(

lo peor es cuando confias en que todo es demasiado perfecto y de la nada te responde seco, o no se pueden ver por unos días.

que se enojen y te echen la culpa sin serlo para que despues vengan y te traten bien 

That the automatically everything you repost/post is about them espically if its one of those "Being alone>>" or when they want to be with you constantly to the point you have no free time or have no time being alone, i just really like my space  

When they hit you cuz u didnt agree with their opinion

When they don't let you leave 

WHEN THEY GUILT TRIPPPPPPP

y'all are VICTIMMS who are these trashy ass men

I'm in a LDR (long distance relationship) and the MOST worst part is the distance... Obviously me and my bf have balls of steel and we are still tg for around 3 yrs now. 

the distance does ruin a lot of experiences, usually when I go out to a cute cafe, i see couples who are together and being happy... meanwhile i'm there like ಥ‿ಥ.... and since I'm in college it is almost hard to have free time to talk to him via facetime/calling. The only thing i can do is text him #rip. but we have been seeing each other once a year and goddddd we are the most impatient people ever.

That is the only worst thing about the relationship... and yes there is fear about one not being faithful, but me and him are both losers so there is no way we would do that (￣▽￣)

when they can't leave my side for 5 seconds.

sometimes i need personal space.

I think the worst part of a relationship is when there is no good communication or emotional responsibility, communication is everything in the relationship and problems should never be kept silent, you should always look for a solution no matter how big the problem and the Having emotional responsibility is knowing how your decisions can affect your partner. When that is not the case, the relationship begins to die and sometimes there is a way back, but most of the time there is not. If your partner broke up with you and there is no way back, it will happen. It is better to let him go, because getting back with someone is a decision between two people and cannot be made unilaterally.

When everything is calm,and looks like flowers this cool...but We need a little of fire to make this Truly memorable! XDDDDDDDDD

for an LDR specifically, but totally the distance </3 im not a big huge talker most days and i feel so bad if i end up ghosting or something bc i wanna talk so bad because i love them so badd but it's just such a heartbreaker. like i wanna run my fingers through their hair and stfu

Depends on what type of relationship both parties have agreed upon. Communication is key. If there is no communication then you are merely acquaintances. Just my honest opinion.

My decisions don't only affect me but also my partner.

I try to show all the affection I can to give them and try to give them the best day where they're their worst but when I need it back, they call me selfish or when they don't listen to me but expect me to listen to them maybe its just me being dramatic tho TTwTT 

When they become toxic and start trying to keep you away from your friends and family, i fucking hate my ex oh my god :,,v

wanting to be the most special to him always ):