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The worst part about being in a relationship?

What is the worst part of a relationship to you?


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Reply by Xx ItzMikey xX

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How one-sided they tend to be


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Reply by Alyssa Nicole

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I think it’s more of a me problem but I get aggravated super easy and then I feel like garbage lol


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Reply by Junky Punky Patrick

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They take up a lot of free time, and if it's not with the right person, it really sucks.




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Reply by xdoomsayerx

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They don't like taco Tuesday..


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Reply by Satan`s lapcat

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The worst part of being in a relationship for me is when the emotional vocabulary is not developed enough so it creates conflict and miscommunication and when people dont understand that we all have som sort of trauma (childhood, earlyer relationships etc) that needs to be adressed and worked on so its not projected into the relationship. More open communicaton and shadow-work plz <3


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Reply by Regular Ass Raymond

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Keeping yourself grounded because your decisions effect more than just yourself.


 Sometimes you want to fly off the seat of your pants and make the mature decision but also incur inner turmoil for a few hours because "I COULDNT DO WHAT I WANTED WAHHH


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Reply by Megz

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Everything. Just don't do it. LOL 


I'm getting a divorce and it has just been so exhausted. You spend so much time and energy trying to do everything and keep everything together and always being emotionally alone. Then when you finally create boundaries you get told, "You're being cold. Did you find someone else? Why you wanna be alone so much? Who you trying to impress?." And then you say hey I'm done and then they bombard you with all their emotions.

So probably I think just how much they can emotionally drain you.


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Reply by D e v i N

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Oh god. It's most definitely how emotionally draining relationships can be, and how you don't truly know someone until you realize that you're the only one trying to improve yourself for that person. How much that truly drains you.

For me, it was always feeling like I was doing or saying something wrong. I always felt as if I would have to walk on eggshells because she adamantly refused to take responsibility for how she processed and projected her trauma. I was a horrible person before her, and being with her had changed who I was for the better. However, she didn't put the same energy into me as I did to her, and then I almost felt like I was being victimized, manipulated.

When I was finally done with it, she just threw all of her emotions on to me to get me to stay. She continues to do so, and I had to cut her out of my life. Never want someone to live through something like that.


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Reply by DevCam

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I think when the other person isn’t willing to put in the same amount of effort as you do to them. It could be a distraction problem for me but I like to put in my all and everything to that person but when they don’t reciprocate, it just makes me feel resentment and when I try to communicate that to them, they think I’m just being too needy. All I ask is for a compromise where we can meet in the middle so we can both speak each other’s language. 


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Reply by Inshanity666

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For me, it's been feeling let down by my needs not being met. Not having the stresses and chores etc.  shared. Basically trying to run my own life, another adults and a child. Too common I've seen as well.


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Reply by badwolf

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The relationship I was in was doing ok but the distance between us was a pain n the ass we did visit each others cities and her parents were pretty toxic deep down.

They didn't consider me a "Real Man" because I didn't have a job.
But that is Anglo-Indians for you, money money money... and you think those stereotypes are just jokes you see on Family Guy but they're real.

At the end of the day she dumped me for her fugly ass work colleague.... and that was the end of that.

It's not all bad you meet new people in life and the memories become more and more faded and it doesn't hurt as much.


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Reply by Amoni Warren

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Not knowing if someone is serious about you or if they just are lonely. 


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Reply by Cynanne

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The worse thing about being in a relationship for me is expectations. 


I expect my partner to match me or at least close. 

Another is sex. I don't understand why when your in a relationship people become selfish. 


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Reply by blu🕷maggit

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that apparently i’m psycho or whatever


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Reply by Miranda & Esme

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Differences are hard to deal with. 


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Reply by Birdwallpaper

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Them taking up the entire bed lol


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Reply by AubreyNolan97

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Worst part hands down is vulnerability. IMHO For a successful relationship at some point you have to be at your most vulnerable with someone whether that’s physically, mentally, emotionally, or all three. And then when that vulnerability is taken for granted and tainted, you want to do everything you can to keep what you have or rebuild what you had all while doing your best not to build strong barriers to ensure you aren’t cutting them out or becoming too distant unyi either you decide to stay or go. 


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Reply by Seeker

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There's less room in general, my cats take up a lot of bed and so do my plushies. I can't share all the space with them all and now another person? Need a neko girl to blend in with the other cats so it feels more normal around here.


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Reply by Fabian Dee

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if u dont want to socialise just with them, then y r u in a relationship with them? if they want you to just hang out with them, or their lame friends all the time, rather than ur own m8s ok that sucks ass. what about when it gets to the stage when you are expect to have joint friends? haha then they cant be honest with you and it gets all very political.


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Reply by Rita

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Being in a relationship with someone who is possessive, doesn't communicate and is boring. I like to have fun and live life to the fullest.


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Reply by Shawn Bergmann

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When it inevitably ends


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Reply by Chunky Monkey

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They bite too much > w <


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Reply by Chunky Monkey

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They bite too much > w <


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Reply by kay

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the relationship slowly becoming toxic and they still expect you to treat them like you normally would even though they're draining you mentally


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Reply by Jay

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that sometimes it feels like me or any other person is the real one having feelings while the other is just doing this for "fun" or just using you


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Reply by ✯ emmaline ✯

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“iTs nOt aLL aBoUt sEx” says the man posting cinemascope ratio images of women projectile squirting into the camera on a site shared by minors but ah yes where are the real wamen


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Reply by Sarah ann

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Feeling alone even when your in the same room.


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Reply by Elohimless 🤘🇵🇷

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"They expect you to socialize with them"÷ (This is one of the main reasons I avoid pursuing relationships)*. I'm a Loner, I loath small talk , I can't stand talking on the phone & I have limited social skills. I don't mind chilling with a Woman here & there but I don't want to hang with her ALL the time, I need my personal space & a lot of relationships don't give you the opportunity to have it instead they snatch it away! 



*I also don't like the concept of modern dating, I don't get why I have take a Woman to a restaurant to get to know her?



÷They also expect you to have kids & marry them within 5yrs (& hangout with their ENTIRE family tree/friends!) 



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Reply by Ashley

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Being the only one trying and willing to compromise 

I will admit when I'm wrong n always try to work things out but being with someone who makes excuses and never sees they are wrong (I never hear the words im sorry ever) 
I want to grow n be a better person but it is hard when im the only one willing to do so 


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Reply by zorbnog

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The most difficult part of being in a relationship is when they can't understand what you've been through, or aren't willing to be understanding.


This isn't even for romantic relationships, but relationships in general.


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Reply by Edgelord

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How if you plan to be long-term, their family becomes yours in a sense. To a normal family it would be ok, but I swear my gf's family is the rejected script of an overly dramatic telenovela.


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Reply by bluesapphire_princess (Mimi Rina 👑)

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To sum up my relationship with my ex boyfriend:


When you're the only one putting in effort, it gets really tiresome after a while and then you start to resent your partner for it. 

How they're emotionally cold/distant and don't really know how to communicate (unless they want something), yet have the nerve to disappear for WEEKS and always comes back with a lame ass excuse!

They always expect you to be there for them, but they are never there for you. 

Has a lot of female friends. Now, I understand that everyone has friends of the opposite gender and what not. But if you always give them more attention than your own girlfriend, that's sketchy as fuck. 


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Reply by Squeesqueepp

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when she in the shower and i gotta shit


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Reply by luh yaya

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i think the worst part of a relationship is the end of one its no suprise that relationships are hard but when worked on you realize the love you have for your s/o what sucks is when you work on it and still dont fix it or the relationship ends. all your left with is regret and the desire of filling that void that was created due to the absence of that persons love


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Reply by PrincessSade

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The lies, changes, and empty promises. 


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Reply by Xx_Rayce_xX

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The unfortunate fact that they ultimately end no matter how much hard work or effort seems to go into them.


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Reply by Diabla Venenosa

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I think for me its how attached i get to my partners. it's terrifying for me.


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Reply by Ketty

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Being cheated on my whole life and not feeling worthy why am I in this world if all I did was suffer and still suffering


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Reply by Ketty

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Being cheated on my whole life and not feeling worthy why am I in this world if all I did was suffer and still suffering


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Reply by Shannon

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Not being able to be with friends by yourself and not being able to be with women. Gotta love marriage right?


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Reply by Jackie 🤍

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feel like I show my love to much and my partner doesn't really as much as I do 


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Reply by Ryan

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It's just my son and I. We live like bachelors and he's my best pal.  I work allot and I raise him full time so it's hard for me to pursue romance because no woman is patient enough for that.  However, I'd like to have a real partner to grow and to build a life with.  I miss having a partner more than anything.


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Reply by briii<3

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how usually at least one person isn’t emotionally available while the other is super open and it feels super one sided


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Reply by 🥀 Aly 🥀

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Being responsible for effectively communicating your thoughts and feelings to another person. Being responsible to another person. 


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Reply by Lexie♡

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Unrealistic materialistic expectations because of social media!


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Reply by Luna

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For me that's when your partner expects your undivided attention. Don't get me wrong you can have the most caring loving partner but they still can be guilty of this. I do believe in each partner deserves their own time, no problem with that. Just don't get how when they are on their own time you respect that and leave them alone and everything's peachy.....but when you are having you time or WORKING they want your 100% undivided attention......yeah out of here with that......


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Reply by slater

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the worst part of a relationship for me could probably be how easily jealous i get and how possessive i can be of a significant other.


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Reply by Kate

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I don't think there is bad parts if you're in a good relationship. I was in a lot of bad relationships and now that I have found a good relationship, there is no bad part. We may have disagreements but nothing bad like in the other relationships.


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Reply by Bri

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giving your all to a person who didn't deserve it


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