how are you?
Hi!
I'm fine, I guess.
I mean, I have a chronic illness and am in bed most of the time and never get to feel well or do much, so I'm not doing GREAT, but things could be worse.
what's the best part about being non-monogamous?
The freedom to let relationships evolve however they are meant to.
And the honesty. I don't have to pretend my partner is the only person I'm attracted to.
I guess that's two parts, but whatever. I'm a rule-breaker. I will accept my punishment.
how do you cope in a society that deems non-monogamy as "disloyal" or "for cheaters"?
I don't waste energy on judgmental people and I truly don't give a fuck what most people think of me. But TBH I have found that most people are pretty open-minded and often even curious about it, rather than judgmental.
My family can be a little annoying sometimes, because they don't get it and keep wondering, after 13 YEARS of polyamory, when I'm going to settle down and have a "serious" / "committed" relationship, as if commitment and non-monogamy are mutually exclusive, but I am patient with them. They have been very accepting and it would be unreasonable of me to expect them to understand, since they are not also on this journey.