Finding out someone who you used to really like sucked, sucks

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This person recently broke up with me around two-threeish weeks ago and holy shit. They have been passive agressive towards me, gossiping about me, and just saying rude things behind my back.

and do you wanna know why they broke up with me? Because they were "too worried about me" even though during the end of our relationship they almost completely cut contact with me.

I really do not know what they were worried about (I'm greiving a death so ig that??) but they never reached our to me or tried to be there for me at all.

I vented to my friends about it, and they thought I was spreading rumors about them?? Even though they were the person that told people to "Turn off your empathy for them, they're overreacting". I'm not even shitting you thats what they said.

Now they keep talking about getting with other guys even though they said they "couldn't be in a relationship right now". I'm not even upset at the loss of the relationship anymore, im mainly upset that someone who used to be my bestfriend is treating me like this.

But heres another weird confusing part-

I was talkin with another one of my friends about dating again soon, not even infront of my ex they just happened to walk past me. I saw my ex almost start crying, im so confused. I know it hasn't been that long since we broke up but like they were talking about other guys before and now they're getting jealous?

I know youre probs gonna say "talk to them" or smthing but istg they don't listen or tell me how they actually feel either.

idk what do the people of the internet think, ig if you have questions I'll awnser them but i don't wanna get too personal. Even though my ex is a jerk I don't wanna invade their privacy. I'm just ranting about this to the void really

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wow that's a really complicated situation

okay but from what i understand you were grieving and they broke up with you??? If you ask me being too worried is the worst excuse for that for many reasons but the main one, if you're worried about someone you stick around to help????????

I'm sure it sucks but its probably best you guys broke up (not trying to be mean)

As for the whole they got upset when you were talking about other people maybe they were just upset you moved on so quickly

From prior experience and others sometimes (depending on the person) when someone breaks up they expect you to be really sad that they're gone since moving on meant that your experience together wasn't that "deep" or meaningful (its a very strange mindset i dont even get it fully)

And as for the talking bit maybe it's better to just leave as is, so long as no future problems come up it might be best to let them figure out their own thing (most likely leave your life)

personally from the sounds they were a little toxic knowingly or not

but anyway

hope the best goes for you from now on!! <3

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In my opinion, they are salty. Breaking up with someone while they are grieving is a pretty sh!tty thing to do and i don't blame you for moving on quicker than expected and maybe I'm looking too deep into it but it sounds like they didn't like hearing about the person you're grieving assuming they did at all to the extent of them getting jealous that they were not getting attention while you are grieving.

My boyfriend lost his mom this year right before I met him and it's caused him to be kind of a recluse when it comes to his emotions and spending time with me, but in no way am I breaking up with him over it despite how much i get bothered when he does not give me enough attention because I know he cannot right now.

Please be careful in this situation, somebody who does this is clearly does not care about you !!

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