MEMEMEMEEMEMM MEEEEE FELLOW AROACE HERE

I'm ace and luckily my partner is demi so it works out for us

ace here!! definetly best to make it clear on the first date or around that time, to clear up any future misunderstandings and weed out the aphobes!

Me and my partner are both asexual and probably aromantic. We just kinda don’t understand romance and are both disgusted by sex. (Mines from trauma theres is just from the ick which I understand) 

We kinda just said ‘fuck it. Romantic or not lets do this’ and we’ve been happy ever since. 

a demisexual there :)

demisexual grayromantic -- I usually bring it up really early even in friendships with people of the opposite sex just so they get more of fair warning if they decide they want to have feelings for me.

When it comes to actual partners, I find its best to be honest and concise in your boundaries and needs! Mentioning your level of interest in sex / romance and finding compromises is the only way I found it managed to work out with someone so I didn't feel pressured to perform when I wasn't into it but they knew what to expect and could decide if that was a dealbreaker or not

But as well I understand that with less chronically online people it doesn't make as much sense so typically I just refer to myself as "straight but not interested" lmao

Have you tried considering maybe you are the problem? You are in a relationship, it's obvious your partner will want all aspects of love. Otherwise they will question if they're really special for you if they get the exact same treatment as your friends. Then they will get envious of your other friends, because you're as close to them as with your partner. The bridge needs to be built from both sides, and if you cannot provide what your partner needs, this will quickly devolve into toxic relationship, according to Jacques Le Goff and Nicolas Turong from "history of body" 2006, it's not love but "Caritas", vulnerability against another person, but washed out of passion. But philosophers aside, from personal experiences I know that love requires sacrefices, and there's nothing more enjoyable than sacreficing yourself a little for happiness of another person. Your lack of passion doesn't have to mean that your loved one has to suffer. So show them your love, do something nice for them! It will make them really happy, and thus it will make you happy too :)

Hiiii! 

Im an Ace of Spades, and Non-Binary, and was looking for others that are similar

ace gang!

I'm Aceflux, there's so many people @~@

Aroace here. I refuse to be involved with another human being.

I am!!!! So glad to see other people on here

I find is so comforting that there are so many other ace peeps out in the world! Just seeing the amount replying on here makes me feel less alone. That being said, to answer your question, I tend to tell the people I date as soon as we meet. That can mean on a first date, or even better, before we even go on a date. I used to just keep quiet about it and mention it later, or not at all (for reasons that are way to deep to get into), but that would usually lead to uncomfortable situations where the person would want more than I was willing to give.

When I finally started telling people the second they showed interest, I noticed so many people either weren't interested anymore, or would say it was fine but not truly understand what it would mean for a relationship (this would then lead to a falling out of sorts). I kinda lost hope and thought that hiding my sexuality (of lack thereof ;)) would bring me more dates and possible connections. I thought I was closing myself off to so many people by bringing things up immediately. But then I realized that, even if I was kinda closing off the people who didn't want to deal with my sexuality, I didn't want to be with them anyway! 

Ok, so that was long winded and maybe I rambled on for too long, but my ultimate advice would be to just tell the person up front and as soon as possible. Yeah, it gets a little frustrating when people just up and leave, or try to push you into ish, but I think it's worth it in the end when you find someone who wants to spend time with you regardless. I also wanted to add that a lot of people do not know what asexuality is, and it can be a bit annoying to explain it to new dates over and over again, but just think about how that person now has just a bit more knowledge about the A in LGBTQIA+. Ok, for real now, I'm done rambling!

(Oh yeah! Also don't give up! I've been in a few great relationships with other ace people and those outside of the ace spectrum! While they didn't last forever, I still hold all of these people near and dear to my heart.)

Consider myself Demisexual, do I count?

Haaiii! I'm Ace! X3

ace of clubs here!