What are your sources for "gay men are weaker?" Because i have an article here that says gay men actually tend to excel MORE often than straight men. While the study did find that lesbians tend to perform worse, you were talking specifically about gay men so i believe it doesn't matter much here.
https://news.yahoo.com/while-straight-men-face-educational-154444528.html
And being a queer man doesn't automatically make you feminine. I know several gay and bisexual men who are masculine not just in appearance but in mannerisms too. Speaking of bisexual men, where do they lie in this? Does my attraction to women cancel out the "weakness" caused by my attraction to men? Or do i and millions of others just not exist, so you can keep your fun little idea that any man who's queer is gay and weak and girly?