Gay relationships

I get ya. It is quite difficult. Most people are looking to **enjoy** in the moment and then leave, just like that. But hey, just because the majority is like that, it doesn't mean that there won't be people that are looking for those deep connections. It is a matter of looking, or waiting! Patience is a virtue, after all. Sounds cliché and shit, but it's true.

I agree that everyone not like but when you run into person after person who says one thing or does another and waste ppl time it’s an issue. I’m all about being upfront state ure true intentions so i can make an informed decision for myself. It just makes things very discouraging when ppl can’t be honest or play with time because the dating process is very taxing.

It's true, some people are simply assholes who don't want to be direct. That is why it's better in a way to say up front what you're looking for, so you don't have expectations over nothing, etc. It's better to not have expectations. That's pretty much it.

potentially the accessibility of sex through apps. the thing that gave us accessibility to partners is the same thing that makes monogamy difficult, it seems. and men being....... men 

It is harder now to kind romance and people wanting relationships. Even though everything is "hook-up" culture now, if you remain patient, one day the right one will come along.

Ive pretty much lost hope. I start thinking about wanting to be with somebody, but then i remember allthe shit about it that i hate and i remember why i like being single. It's still nice to think about, sleeping next to someone and feeling like somebody really cares about you. 

Yes and yes a lot of people are not ready for this life 

All love all of your responses and I agree in this day and age everything is about unrealistic beauty standards, everything is sexualized, as well as it’s so accessible to get ure nut and go without putting in the work to get to know someone for who they are as a person.

Yes once that trust is gone is hard to get that back and you or whoever broke that trust will have to put in that work to gain that back but it will never truly be like it once was.

Let's get to the root of the problem of how a lot of classic lgbtq culture in the United States is very steeped shame, trauma, violence, and addiction. Lgbtq people have a lot of generational healing to do to be able to have healthy sustainable relationships.

In USA history, we're not even a full 100 years away from a time where it was acceptable to openly mistreat lgbtq people. A lot of us have grown up with all different types of traumas. A lot of us still get disowned and don't talk to our families. A lot of this really wouldn't know a healthy relationship if it hit us upside the head.