Hello! Recently I’ve been trying to figure out my pronouns and it’s been kind of tough. I know what I don’t want (he/him) but I’m not so sure about the rest. Any advice or pronoun suggestions? How did you know your pronouns were right for you?
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Pronouns??
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Reply by Swiftpaw
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While they aren't for everyone, I picked it/its because of a way of embracing my nonhumanity and because they felt more comfortable to me. With pronouns it's really a matter of trying them on to see what works. The Pronoun Dressing Room is good for that, and I'll also add there's nothing wrong with making your own pronouns or "homebrew pronouns" as I've seen them called. You can also use multiple types of pronouns if you prefer.
Reply by raisedbyrage
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You could try getting your friends to use some pronouns on you for a period of time, and see how you like or dislike it after awhile! <3
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Reply by Malen
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I tried going by any pronouns or she/he/they for a bit to see which one's I liked and that helped me a bit
And I also tried making fake scenarios in my head where people would use different pronouns on me and that helped me a lot.
(My pronouns are He/They/It!)
Reply by The smelly rat under your bed
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Reply by gRiFfYn
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I personally am a she/her turned they/them. I kinda hated the sterotypes that people put me in as a female. because I didn't want to be a girl. because I didn't want to have to fit into that 'girl box'. u can experiment! i was he/they for a while, but it didn't feel quite right. i was lucky to be around people that accepted me, tho. love to all of those people struggling with bullying/any kind of LGBTQIA-phobia (I love u, u are wanted, u are awesome!! :3). SO yeah, u can experiment!!!!!!
Reply by 🍓 𝐲𝐮𝐤𝐢 🌺
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Reply by Skol
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Honestly just do what you like most or what you like the sound of most. Use whatever ones you want! :D
Reply by Gennie [She/Her]
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PRONOUNS!
Nah but fr, someone above said ask your friends to treat you as this or that set of pronouns, to see what will make you the most comfortable!
Reply by Slushie
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I just searched through the ‘normal’ ones and when I found a set I feel good with I just added sum interests as part of my pronouns too (he/they/zombie/alien)
Reply by Giz
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i (afab) started with she/her
then realised i don't rly vibe with that set lol. so i went to she/they/xe/shey/no pronouns
...until i realised again, that i don't even like those pronouns??? (on me)
soooo, finally i figured, she/they feels right and cool :D
(also we don't have gendered pronouns where i live so idk)
Reply by Silly_<3
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He/They and non-binary! I’m AFAB so originally She/Her then a few other things. I went with He/They/Any for a bit then I realized I don’t like She/Her. Remember chose what your comfortable with <3.
Reply by Jup☆
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Reply by 𝃣 ★ᅠ 𝓐 ngel
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Reply by Nin
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It's certainly difficult with pronouns, they're a representation of your gender but it doesn't always have to be set in stone. ⋆˚✿˖°
Perhaps you can do a few tests? Either get your friends to call you certain pronouns for a little while and see how you respond to it, or do so online or while chatting with AI. °❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:・
Regardless of what you decide to do, I want to let you know that regardless of femininity or masculinity, it does not define your gender. Tomboys and femboys exist, but that doesn't mean they're the opposite gender just because of their fem/masc-ness. I would know, I'm a trans femboy. It honestly depends on your views and how you interpret the concept of fem/masc and gender, but do what you're the most comfortable with! ♡♡♡
Whatever you decide on, I hope you just feel comfortable and happy!! ദ്ദി(˵ •̀ ᴗ - ˵ ) ✧
Reply by • 𝔼ℙ𝕊𝕀𝕃𝕆ℕ •
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Reply by aidA
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She/They/Them&Neo or any other means other than It and call me they when nazi is hell with correcting everything i can see wrong, DEMI/Aro and trans label here