That's a very general question. There are probably lots of wish-I-had-known-sooner facts about sexuality, but it's hard to think of any big points that stand out. Got anything specific in mind?

like the women body facts

Well, I'm a man, so can't really help with that, but here's a couple of gender-neutral things you might not know:

it helped :)

Men mostly have higher libidos than women and a man would love to have a good sex after a tiring day while a woman wouldn't want to be touched in most cases..

i hope this kinda conversation is allowed here, cause i think itd be very helpful to discuss! 

Heres some women tips -

always urinate after s3x (if u can!). this helps clear out the area.

always use at least 1 form of protection. whether that's birth control pills, c0ndoms or a birth control implant, its always good to have at least one! 

c0ndoms are all sizes. if a man tries to say he's "too big" or other reasons he can't wear one, don't listen to him! your safety is more important than his pleasure.

if you're confused about how something works, google it! there's a lot of helpful resources out there that can help make you feel more prepared! no shame in getting to know how things work!

That's all I've got for now. maybe i'll come back later and post more. if there's anything specific you're confused about feel free to ask!

I would like to apologize before sharing this fact (which I don't often hear) which is certainly "spiritual" and is understood not to be taken too seriously.


I've had watched a tiktok about a woman (with children) who has rent free in my head, she spoke that during sex a connection is formed in the souls of those involved, that it mess with the mind, soul and the spirit.

Something that can hardly be put into words.

Many people limit themselves to saying that "wait until marriage", but there's a background that I find interesting to talk about, to share points of view and give an opinion.

Eh, that's not a fact, sorry, that's more a belief from several religious systems.

One fact I can give is that every person matures at a different rate from their bodily maturity rate. This means you can be ready for adult fun at 18 but still not have the full maturity capacity of the responsibility that might bring if you/your partner does get pregnant.

For male bodied selves, they mature at a slightly slower rate mentally than physically, reaching peak maturity at 25 to 30 yrs of age. (Averages.)

Whereas femme bodied selves tend to mature a bit more rapidly, reaching peak maturity physically at 21, and mental maturity at closer to 25. (Averages.)

Now this doesn't mean that you are ready and able and fully capable to marry, have a family, ect. But what it does mean is that you and your body both could be, if that is what you wish in your life. Always plan carefully, use protection even for long term relationships, and if you don't want to have babies, make sure you or your partner get long term solutions. In most states of the US, it's actually pushed pretty hard for younger adult femme persons to avoid the pill, getting tubes tied, or hysterectomy without the expressed permissions of the male figures in their family or their partners. Even after the age of 40 this is a common practice by medical workers.

you aint a virgin; you r certified badass

peoples v@ginas dont get loose or bigger after sex or birth(cervix can) it may feel like a V!rg!n is "tighter" because of the placebo affect or when people are nervous (like you would be when you have S3x for the first time) it may clench up. id link articles but im on a school device. 

also a larger p.p does not mean its more enjoyable from what i hear it actually can be uncomfortable, painful, etc its just a cultural thing it used to be the exact opposite, the pleasure spot are the cl itorise, g spot, tip of penis and stuff. If you dont find vag inal peni tration via p.p fulfilling or nice, then work with each other and find something that does. aka don't be insecure about the size of your junk and instead find what works, (also everyone has pref some want larger others smaller others medium.) and take this with a grain of salt because i am a virgin, this is based of my scientific know.lege and what i've heard from others!

For Men - 

- People need to teach about foreskin more. Mine was never pulled down, and some adhesive kept it stuck to my penis head well into my 30s. As a result, I never learned to masturbate, so I never did. This meant I was always really horny, which had people thinking me odd at times, however, I also had an innocence, as I hadn't had my sexual awakening. What I did have was dumb arse doctors for 15 years, not knowing why my ball sack hurt so much, and was hyper sensitive to pressure. I had to sit on special chairs, and got checked for testicle cancer by a Urologist under anaesthetic. If someone had just asked me: "How often do you wank?" and I'd have said: "I don't", they'd have figured out that that was the problem - and I could have saved myself 15 years of stress!! So what happened in the end? I finally saw a piece of porn on the internet where a foreskin was pulled down and it blew my mind, as I never thought it was possible. 

I couldn't do it initially myself because of the adhesive. However, six-months-of-working-it-down-slowly-in-a-bath later, and I had a normal penis free of any adhesive, but having never masturbated in my life, I continued to not do so - feeling silly each time I tried, and preferring what I had come to do instead - dream up fantasies and perhaps every six months, have an involuntary wet dream during such a dream. Then I met a girl, who sucked my dick, and taught me how to ejaculate. Basically, I couldn't do it just with a fantasy nor just with physical stimuli, it needed to be both at the same time. She also in one night solved the problem the doctors couldn't solve in 15 years!!! Her thirst for my cum healed me, =).

Of course, now I'm a wanker just like everybody else, =P. I can now sit on a wider variety of chairs as my testicles no longer have the world's worst blue balls. And I can actually forget about sex after cumming - whereas before I would think about sex 100% of the time.

In some ways I miss the old days - I used to be able to get fully erect at a mere kinky thought, without having to touch my dick. These days I'm flaccid most of the time, ^_^, unless I go without wanking for two weeks or more, and then the erections happen far more frequently...as there is a pent up need to cum...

But yeah...geez... I wish sex education at school had taught us about foreskin.

Anyway - onto the females!

I'm surprised at how one of my female friends had no idea where her urethra was.

In addition, when I excited my now ex-girlfriend for the first time, she was really confused by the wetness she experienced down there, and called it "toothpaste" XD. Whereas a bit of research online, and there are two glands either side of the urethra that excrete female ejaculate. And let's just say the elephant in the room:

Betty Dodson.

Betty Dodson.

Betty Dodson.

She may be dead now - but dear God - she should be commemorated and go down in history as a US National Treasure... she pioneered the use of the Magic Wand to stimulate the Clit (the first vibrator!), and just watch her Carol video ( paid one here: https://dodsonandross.com/videos/celebrating-orgasm-carol and a free clip of the first 10 minutes drifting about the internet somewhere... ) - where she coaches someone who never orgasmed before, on how to pleasure themselves, and teaches her to consider her vagina as beautiful, =). It's such lovely stuff! Betty's work is being continued by Carlin Ross and she does regular youtube videos too: https://www.youtube.com/@CarlinRossBettyDodson/videos

my nowlege on human anatomy is limited, i specielise in ghouls mainly. i have seen a lot of them in my day (ghouls) andi love them, man. ghouls dont really have sex the way humans do, however i havent done it so i wouldnt know. i dont sex the ghouls myself, more of a breeder, myself. 

i breed ghouls.

I know i am supposed to give facts about the human body but I think animals are better

I never had sex ed in school but I remember reading a web toon called boo! It's sex that was like sex ed-ish

Women have two holes in their vagina. Make sure you put it in the correct hole or else you'll thrust yourself into an alternate dimension.

No, buddy. The condom cannot be tight, buy the ones in your size and stop bothering your girl.

is this fire?

Hmmm

You can get a STD from kissing someone? Idk man I hate this type of stuff

Yes! But it's considered low risk. You can get cytomegalovirus (CMV), human papillomavirus (HPV), or syphilis from kissing.

I wish that guy who said there are two holes in the vagina would come back here and elaborate

Dustz, I think they meant the vulva lmao.

To elaborate though, the vulva is the entirety of the female genitals, vagina is the hole. the vulva has two holes, the vagina and urethra. the vagina is where the penis generally goes during sex, and where period blood comes out of, the urethras purely for pee.

Penises only have one hole, the urethra. both semen and pee come out of it.

And some more general sex advice - 
if you've got foreskin, ensure you're pulling it back and cleaning under it, like the dude up top says.
if you've got a vagina, its normal to not climax during penetrative sex. the clitoris is where basically all your pleasure comes from. if you're trying to get yourself or someone else off, focus on that, see what feels best.

and i'm pretty sure someone else has already said something like this - but whatever you and your genitals look like, it doesn't matter as much as you think you do. everyone looks different, everyones genitals look different, and all that really matters about everybodys bodies are that they're healthy, clean and appreciated for what they are, and what the person inside them is like.

WOOF, it's frankly upsetting how bad some of this info is. going to dispel the stuff that's just wrong. 

like I know that sex ed was prolly defunded, but the information is out there, people! 

Men mostly have higher libidos than women and a man would love to have a good sex after a tiring day while a woman wouldn't want to be touched in most cases.. -Shalomice

okay, so this isn't actually true for a variety of reasons. 

how sexual desire actually works is a combination of things, but to use emily nagoski's language, accelerators and brakes. accelerators, meaning things that make you aroused, and brakes, things that make you not aroused.

people fall into two categories: folks who are spontaneously aroused (i.e. just feel like it all of a sudden or because of a hot sir/ma'am/all of the above), and folks who experience arousal in response (aroused after some stimulation that promotes arousal, like kissing a partner etc). 

the stereotype that ladies don't want to have sex is just...false. as someone who is afab, nearly 30, I promise you you're wrong. I've also known just as many dudes who aren't about it while their partners are. people of all shapes and sizes have different levels of want, and have a lot of reasons as to why they're about it or why not. 

an analogy for you: two people are trying to find somewhere to eat during their road trip. 

one person is just hungry, dude; doesn't really matter where they stop as long as they stop soon. sure, they'd be into eating somewhere that isn't fast food, but their hunger outweighs their preferences. [this person has a lot of accelerators as to getting their needs met, which underplay the brakes, their preferences towards how they do it.]

the other person has dietary restriction: they can't drink milk and red meat makes them feel sick. [this person has a lot of brakes that are in the way of them having their needs met. while they would love to do so, they have less accelerators that are motivating them to just go for what's in front of them.]

while the first person is very excited about driving by the steak and shake, the other person wants to look for other options. 

fun fact: if you're socialized as a lady, society is actively encouraging you not to stop at the steak and shake because you'd be a slut if you did! and hey, if you're socialized as a guy, you're constantly encouraged by society to eat at the burger joint even if you're a vegetarian. 

sooooo, yeah. TL;DR: there's a lot more nuance than generalizations put out by media. 

I've had watched a tiktok about a woman (with children) who has rent free in my head, she spoke that during sex a connection is formed in the souls of those involved, that it mess with the mind, soul and the spirit. -isolt's nudes

hey, remember how I was talking about before that ladies are more likely to be motivated by society to act a certain way and to ignore their desires? here's a great example of how this is done! 

I remember growing up that I remember hearing some study about the person you lose your virginity to somehow makes a "deeper" bond than with other people, but literally there are no studies to back that shit up.

while sex can be something that connects you to a partner, it isn't always that way and it doesn't have to be. in fact, most of the time when you're first figuring things out with a new partner, it's not like that, even if they're someone you end up spending the rest of your life with them. 

what's rough about hearing this from folks who are younger is that all of this can influence and promote the ucky propaganda that you're fed as a teen just figuring out your whole life. like, you're allowed to be horny and that be it. just be safe about it? like, you don't have to make it a big deal unless you want it to be. 

the unfun fact about where all this messaging comes from is from a time where being a woman is property, so a woman's value goes up if they're a virgin because that's a fucked-up norm defined by a patriarchy. but hey, it's 2024: think for yourselves, ay? 

TL;DR: sex is what you make of it. don't get bogged down in what folks prescribe to you about it. 

and last, but certainly not least,

peoples v@ginas dont get loose or bigger after sex or birth(cervix can) it may feel like a V!rg!n is "tighter" because of the placebo affect or when people are nervous (like you would be when you have S3x for the first time) it may clench up. id link articles but im on a school device. -scenemo.mess666 

okay, this isn't incorrect, but wanted to expand as to why, which includes some of my favorite facts about female anatomy I didn't learn until really recently!

the clitoris, which if you don't know where it is, look up female anatomy please, actually extends inside of the vagina! so, someone can be tight because they aren't aroused enough. however, and this is a wonderful fact I also learned, just because they're wet doesn't directly connect to arousal. this is more likely to happen to afab people, but can happen to amab people too: it's called sexual discordance!

soooooooo, with this, do yourselves a favor and buy good lube, ideally water-based. doesn't matter what sexuality or whatever: get you some. makes things a lot easier. 

TL;DR: buy lube and also check in with your partner to make sure they're having fun! easiest way to know is to just ask. 

if you didn't know this stuff,

read a book, dude! 

all of the stuff I just dropped on y'all is in come as you are by emily nagoski. it's straight-up on spotify as an audiobook with snippets so you can skim it if you just want the highlights. I provided a few that were relevant here, but if you want to know how sex works, go there first. 

squ1rting isnt real for girls

women should always pee afterwards to avoid a uti. 

always use a condom ALWAYS

Even if you take birth control pills, use a condom, perfect to avoid infections

and if  s3x it will be from "the back part" it is EVEN MORE IMPORTANT to use a condom since that part does not have a natural way to clean itself like the vag

Don’t be scared of tampons. You can’t put them up the wrong hole; the urethra (the hole you pee out of) is much too small. The box generally has instructions if you need help too.

Also, periods having clots is NORMAL. Your period can also be irregular for the first year or so so don’t be surprised if it doesn’t come every month immediately.

NEVER DO IT WITH someone who strongly insists on it or even manipulates u!!!

especially if they are much older than u. this person is most likely full of rottenness.

Even if you're on birth control you should try to use a condom.

Never ever put it in the front after you've been in the back - unless it's been washed in between.

Women often find it harder to finish than men - there's no shame in this.

Make sure your partner is comfortable by checking throughout, and make sure if you're not comfortable that you speak up!!

Stand your ground on what you are and are not comfortable with!!