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How can I get into a relationship?


So today one of my closest friends casually told me they're in a relationship now. This friend has never been in a relationship before and used to have a crush on me, and I can't help but feel a little jealous. I'm super glad they've moved on and that they're happy now, but it feels like while their life has changed, I'm basically in the same boat I was in when they had a crush on me.Β 

My other best friend is in a 15-month relationship with one of our closest friends. It's been on and off, and I've been her shoulder to cry on for most of it, even when I've found her boyfriend slightly annoying as they spend quite a bit of time together.Β 

In that 15 month period, I had a short thing with a guy, then a talking stage with a girl that was going well until she made out with other people and then got my friends to lie about it to me for two weeks. I also sort of went out with this guy, but broke it off before he could ask me to properly be his gf because he seemed lowkey misogynistic and made me feel like we weren't really that compatible. Now I'm wondering how to meet someone who doesn't go to my school before we go to uni in September bc ideally i'd like to experience some kind of actual relationship. Whenever I get into one I get the ick so easily, but my friends have reassured me that the ppl I've been ending up with have been kinda weird anyway, so maybe it's not me?


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Reply by maj

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I honestly feel like we are all rushing to find our "soulmate" and to get into a relationship so I def wouldn't recommend actively searching for anything bc it gets tiring so pls dont put that kind of pressure on yourself, from what I've seen/ experienced people meet their partners through other friends or parties or work or hobbys (like theatre groups an such). I feel like if ur being a little social and mingle a little you'll def find someone. I'd say try a dating app but idk how old u are, statistically they dont work out most of the time but its entertainment ig and u get to work on ur flirting technique ig lol hope that gives u some sort of inspiration


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lmk when you find out because im 19 and never been on a date. ive had realtionships b4 but they were online and didnt last obviously. call me a hopeless romantic ig lol


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Reply by Justina

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low key try those "fake" dating apps like Wizz. That's was how I met my bf and I wasn't even looking for anything. but honestly i've felt the same way i've had a lot of failed taking stages and just now is in a real relationship. it get frustrating but I think there a person for everyone and they'll come eventually. idk i hope u have luck finding someone<33


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