it's so fucking hard trying to cope with it, every relationship i have been in has ended up insanely sexual because i keep sexualizing myself. i cant stop thinking about shit like that even when its wrong to, and i always joke it off yet to me it isn't a joke. it's literally emotionally draining and im always tired from soo much shit and this makes it worse, i hate being hypersexual.
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hypersexuality and how i struggle
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Reply by Sid
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I don’t really think I do cope, it just causes me problems constantly.
Reply by alissa!<3
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Reply by Boom
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I honestly just fap one out in secret and don't bring up too much sex related content until anyone I'm with brings it up first. Then I try to ease people into conversations like that and hopefully it goes somewhere positive.
Reply by terminallyCapricious
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i honestly really struggle with that too, and i have a very fucking obessive personality and i desperatky want someone to be able to recipricate irl, but really fucking difficult, because i too have problems commincating, its just shitty asf yk?
Reply by !! kay !!
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i have the same problem. the thing is, most of the time i dont even try to resist the urges. i want to stop but i just cant :/
Reply by haya ౨ৎ
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i used to have it /:
and i coped in really unhealthy ways
eventually i started trying to heal and focus more on myself and break my bad habits
it worked out eventually but we all have our ups and downs
my advice would be try to understand why this is happening and think of ways you can heal from it, try setting boundaries and if you feel comfortable enough, tell your future partners about it, i know it can feel really icky & kind of scary when you tell them, but they'll be able to help you through it
also dont be too hard on yourself, it's not your fault, being hypersexual is not a death sentence, you CAN and WILL get through this <3
i hope this helped you!!
yours alluringly,
haya xx
Reply by Angrybird69
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Yoz for me, I’m kind of just taking small steps and trying to slowly improve it’s been years that I’ve been dealing with it and it’s absolutely terrible and I can relate to that so much I mean at one point, it was so bad that I was doing it almost 3 times a day to the point that I bled however I have improved and it has been hard whether that be trying to find distractions, which is really goddamn hard or trying to at least give myself tasks to try and make it through a couple days it’s gotten to the point where it’s only about two times a week and I’m trying to get to my goal of only doing it on periods bc that’s the only time it doesn’t hurt or feel uncomfortable for me but still, I get what you mean man.
Reply by XxAl1xxX
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I understand what this is like, since i struggle with this too. I don't really have like a professional that i can talk to about this and it really sucks. I recently got into a relationship and he is kind of the opposite of me, he rarely does stuff and is inexperienced, and it makes me feel bad whenever i bring up stuff to him about it (intenseguilt.mov)
But it really has been hard to cope lately because i relapsed because of it (SH) but he's trying to talk to me and help me cope more. (pretty much by keeping my mind occupied with conversation and memes lol).
I really hope i can keep getting better, and i hope everyone who suffers from hypersexuality is able to move past it somehow/cope with it in a healthier manner
Reply by Celestia
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I may be a bit biased, (im a hypersexual christian) but prayong definitly works
Or, if youre non religious writing your thoughts down then ripping up the paper works great too!!! Trust me its hard, ive been struggling since age 6, but things will get better
Also, talking to the sewerslide hotline helps!! hope you feel better honey!!<333
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Reply by Allegra<3
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personally for me ive had trouble in relationships escpecially due to the fact that im so open to all sorts of affection its def easy for people to take advantage of that.. It also gets in my way as i have hypersexuality due to s/a at a young age i cling to affection and approval from people and it get in my life on a daily basis
Reply by Tyler i guess
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idk what I'm gonna do with relationships i wanna stay aro for my own sanity but it would be cool to find a domme/mistress who isnt gonna go crazy with touch but does voice work or hypno like thats about as much sex as I can handle
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Reply by 𝐒𝐭✰𝐫𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥
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TRIGGER WARNING TOPIC : SA
having the same problem with my girlfriend. got sa'd by my moms ex bf son and my aunts ex bf son and it made me realize i hated men. only to realize it made me hypersexual and i try to control it around her. best thing is try to distract your mind and go outside or read a book or do something that isnt sexual in a way. i usually listen to music and clean my room if i have to.
Reply by ダイフク (Daifuku!)
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Hey!
I wanna let you know you are loved and are valid!
I don't fully, because I'm not you, but I understand in a way.
I have sexual OCD which causes me to believe I'm some sort of sexual deviant.
I know it's tough but we'll get through this, together!!
Personally how I cope is to write down reminders on sticky notes and put them in my laptop, locker, lunchbox, binder, etc.
These reminders mostly consist of "You're not your thoughts!", "You're a good person", "You'll get through this!","Your loved!", etc.
And remember, you can ask for help!
I did and yes I was terrified but they understood!!
Tell a trusted adult or therapist, they will help!
Sending Love <3!!
Reply by puntung.rokok
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First of all, so sorry to hear that and I hope things will get easier for you.
To answer your question; I had to go through school counseling due to this issue (Ik, embarrassing). They told me to just keep myself busy and distract myself from stuff that reminds me of sexual things or so. I usually try to get into new hobbies like cooking or playing a musical instrument. Other than that, be consistent on keeping those thoughts away. You can do it and I believe in you!!
Reply by idyllxc
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hi everyone! to anyone who struggles with this, i think you should surround yourself with people who you feel loved and comfortable with. if you feel like you are only used for sexual affection in a relationship when you dont want to, i suggest you leave it. no one should be in a relationship with someone who doesnt respect and crosses your boundaries. nobody deserves to be treated like this. if you want to stop feeling hypersexual, i think that would help a lot. surround urself with people who love you for what you are. also you could seek therapy or counseling. it really helped me personally.
Reply by Reese2500
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i did make my previous partner uncomfortable at times with it
honestly, id have a discussion with your partner and let them know and find ways to deal with it and their thoughts
if they arent all that comfortable, dont feel shame masturbating half the time lol
Reply by Quinn :3
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Am I hypersexual? I sexualise myself a lot thinking that’s the only way someone could love me, I’m horny quite a bit and I feel like other people view me as a object so that’s what I view myself as
Reply by bkenny
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Hypersexuality never pops up out of nowhere for no reason. It happens because there's some sort of underlying trauma or problem that prompts it to happen. My most direct advice would be to find those problems and trauma and fix them/cope with them. Slowly but surely, you'll catch yourself not sexualizing things anymore.
Reply by Ally
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I relate so much, I always end up sexualising myself and I end up feeling disgusted after.
Reply by 𝓛𝓲𝓵𝔂 𝓜𝓪𝔂 ❦
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i have literally given up trying to cope i just cant stop talking to older men and i think its just the fact that its so wrong excites me
Reply by Joybeca
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i had this during high school, i had a lot of issues with my ex partner because of that, i even started to blame myself thinking that if she doesnt wanted to be with me it was because of my appearance, and i really thought i was discusting. It was really frustrating for both of us, deeply inside me i knew it was bad to feel mad about her not being in the mood but i just couldnt stop myself. Time passed and there was a point when i just stopped touching her at all and i started to reject her because i was afraid to feel that again. Thanks to that experience i've learned how to manage my emotions and above everything comunnication with your partner is key. now i have a GF and im happier than ever !
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