hypersexuality and how i struggle

I don’t really think I do cope, it just causes me problems constantly.

this^^ relate

Satisfy the craves, if it don't harm

I honestly just fap one out in secret and don't bring up too much sex related content until anyone I'm with brings it up first. Then I try to ease people into conversations like that and hopefully it goes somewhere positive.

i honestly really struggle with that too, and i have a very fucking obessive personality and i desperatky want someone to be able to recipricate irl, but really fucking difficult, because i too have problems commincating, its just shitty asf yk?

i have the same problem. the thing is, most of the time i dont even try to resist the urges. i want to stop but i just cant :/

i used to have it /:

and i coped in really unhealthy ways

eventually i started trying to heal and focus more on myself and break my bad habits 

it worked out eventually but we all have our ups and downs 

my advice would be try to understand why this is happening and think of ways you can heal from it, try setting boundaries and if you feel comfortable enough, tell your future partners about it, i know it can feel really icky & kind of scary when you tell them, but they'll be able to help you through it 

also dont be too hard on yourself, it's not your fault, being hypersexual is not a death sentence, you CAN and WILL get through this <3

i hope this helped you!!

yours alluringly, 

haya xx 

Yoz for me, I’m kind of just taking small steps and trying to slowly improve it’s been years that I’ve been dealing with it and it’s absolutely terrible and I can relate to that so much I mean at one point, it was so bad that I was doing it almost 3 times a day to the point that I bled however I have improved and it has been hard whether that be trying to find distractions, which is really goddamn hard or trying to at least give myself tasks to try and make it through a couple days it’s gotten to the point where it’s only about two times a week and I’m trying to get to my goal of only doing it on periods bc that’s the only time it doesn’t hurt or feel uncomfortable for me but still, I get what you mean man.

I understand what this is like, since i struggle with this too. I don't really have like a professional that i can talk to about this and it really sucks. I recently got into a relationship and he is kind of the opposite of me, he rarely does stuff and is inexperienced, and it makes me feel bad whenever i bring up stuff to him about it (intenseguilt.mov)

But it really has been hard to cope lately because i relapsed because of it (SH) but he's trying to talk to me and help me cope more. (pretty much by keeping my mind occupied with conversation and memes lol).

I really hope i can keep getting better, and i hope everyone who suffers from hypersexuality is able to move past it somehow/cope with it in a healthier manner

I may be a bit biased, (im a hypersexual christian) but prayong definitly works

Or, if youre non religious writing your thoughts down then ripping up the paper works great too!!! Trust me its hard, ive been struggling since age 6, but things will get better

Also, talking to the sewerslide hotline helps!! hope you feel better honey!!<333

hypersexual aaaaaaaannnndd sex repulsed 

i just jackoff all teh time ig 

personally for me ive had trouble in relationships escpecially due to the fact that im so open to all sorts of affection its def easy for people to take advantage of that.. It also gets in my way as i have hypersexuality due to s/a at a young age i cling to affection and approval from people and it get in my life on a daily basis

idk what I'm gonna do with relationships i wanna stay aro for my own sanity but it would be cool to find a domme/mistress who isnt gonna go crazy with touch but does voice work or hypno like thats about as much sex as I can handle

Apesta, creo que lo único que puede salvarme es un psicologo..

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TRIGGER WARNING TOPIC : SA

having the same problem with my girlfriend. got sa'd by my moms ex bf son and my aunts ex bf son and it made me realize i hated men. only to realize it made me hypersexual and i try to control it around her. best thing is try to distract your mind and go outside or read a book or do something that isnt sexual in a way. i usually listen to music and clean my room if i have to. 

Hey! 

I wanna let you know you are loved and are valid!
I don't fully, because I'm not you, but I understand in a way.
I have sexual OCD which causes me to believe I'm some sort of sexual deviant.
I know it's tough but we'll get through this, together!!

Personally how I cope is to write down reminders on sticky notes and put them in my laptop, locker, lunchbox, binder, etc.
These reminders mostly consist of "You're not your thoughts!", "You're a good person", "You'll get through this!","Your loved!", etc.

And remember, you can ask for help!
I did and yes I was terrified but they understood!!
Tell a trusted adult or therapist, they will help!


Sending Love <3!!

First of all, so sorry to hear that and I hope things will get easier for you.

To answer your question; I had to go through school counseling due to this issue (Ik, embarrassing). They told me to just keep myself busy and distract myself from stuff that reminds me of sexual things or so. I usually try to get into new hobbies like cooking or playing a musical instrument. Other than that, be consistent on keeping those thoughts away. You can do it and I believe in you!!

hi everyone! to anyone who struggles with this, i think you should surround yourself with people who you feel loved and comfortable with. if you feel like you are only used for sexual affection in a relationship when you dont want to, i suggest you leave it. no one should be in a relationship with someone who doesnt respect and crosses your boundaries. nobody deserves to be treated like this. if you want to stop feeling hypersexual, i think that would help a lot. surround urself with people who love you for what you are. also you could seek therapy or counseling. it really helped me personally.  

i did make my previous partner uncomfortable at times with it

honestly, id have a discussion with your partner and let them know and find ways to deal with it and their thoughts

if they arent all that comfortable, dont feel shame masturbating half the time lol

Am I hypersexual? I sexualise myself a lot thinking that’s the only way someone could love me, I’m horny quite a bit and I feel like other people view me as a object so that’s what I view myself as 

Hypersexuality never pops up out of nowhere for no reason. It happens because there's some sort of underlying trauma or problem that prompts it to happen. My most direct advice would be to find those problems and trauma and fix them/cope with them. Slowly but surely, you'll catch yourself not sexualizing things anymore.

I relate so much, I always end up sexualising myself and  I end up feeling disgusted after. 

i have literally given up trying to cope i just cant stop talking to older men and i think its just the fact that its so wrong excites me

i had this during high school, i had a lot of issues with my ex partner because of that, i even started to blame myself thinking that if she doesnt wanted to be with me it was because of my appearance, and i really thought i was discusting. It was really frustrating for both of us, deeply inside me i knew it was bad to feel mad about her not being in the mood but i just couldnt stop myself. Time passed and there was a point when i just stopped touching her at all and i started to reject her because i was afraid to feel that again. Thanks to that experience i've learned how to manage my emotions and above everything comunnication with your partner is key. now i have a GF and im happier than ever !

The honest truth? A cigarette, my dildo, and porn.

I actually have struggled with this ever since i was 8-9 due to trauma that caused that to happen, even to this day i still struggle with it! My first advice is to know and remember that recovering takes time, it can't vanish overnight as much as we all wish so. And i even relate to past relationships ending up hypersexual over that too! my exes weren't good people too so they took advantage and made it worse, but what's helped me is to only take care of it myself to get rid of it if the urge is too strong just for it to go away, but if you can it's best to distract yourself with a hobby, go outside, hangout with friends or people that make you forget about it! because if you stay by yourself you think and can eventually think of your urges and the cycle will relapse again, so distract yourself as much as you can. and even though I haven't spoken with my therapist about it yet, I'm planning to, and if you have a therapist, you 100% trust knowing I advise you talk to him/her to find plans to help you recover, but that last part is always optional, I hope this advice at least somewhat helps 💜

I kind of just accept my fate. I'm done fighting it. I like being sexualized.

I experienced sexual harassment, and instead of becoming completely against anything sexual, I started sexualizing myself—just to feel loved. It’s hard to cope with, especially when you have common sense telling you it’s wrong. It’s hard to look at myself in the mirror, remembering everything that happened.

After losing my virginity, nothing inside me changed—it felt like it always had. But losing my partner after we became intimate really broke something in me. Personally, I found it easier to express myself through self-harm. I’ve even thought about covering my scars with tattoos.

I recommend surrounding yourself with people who don’t see you as an object. If they do, what makes them any different from an animal?

No, don’t cover yourself. Wear what you like. Look at a person’s attitude instead. What do they want? Are they flirting just for fun, or do they actually find you attractive? Don’t fall for sweet lies or keep sexualizing yourself just to feel seen. Try to think more critically about people’s intentions.

Don’t worry too much about who you might’ve hurt with a sharp response. If someone truly cares for you, they’ll learn to communicate respectfully.

I’ve dealt with people who treated me like I was just a free whore. What did I do? I cut them off completely. Sure, they might still see things I post on social media—but I don’t pay attention to them anymore. When I remember the pain, I remind myself: they don’t deserve even a single tear.

If you think you might be struggling with hypersexuality, you probably are. Try to find a therapist if you can. Personally, I didn’t have the opportunity to get professional help, so I disciplined myself—sometimes harshly. I know that’s not healthy, but being low on money forced me to deal with everything alone.

Even the slightest attention makes me tremble. I cope by asking myself, “What if this person already has a partner and doesn’t see me as one?”

If you ever think there’s something wrong with you, you might be right. Don’t ignore it. It could become a bigger problem in the future.

NGL, I'm scared if im hypersexual, even though I know the answer already. At age 11 I became increasingly sexual, in thoughts - behaviour and basically everything. But when I think about it i become incredibly disgusted. 

I never knew being hypersexual stemmed from trauma until I linked all my thoughts and past experiences together. I was sexually abused/harassed many times, once when I was 6. I still haven't told anyone about it because I feel so incredibly embarrassed and guilty. Its difficult, since the situation was odd and a little different to most sexual harassment stories, that I thought people would say things that made my story feel invalid. like you could of said "no" or something stupid like that. I still to this day could have prevented the whole situation. Two of the people who have sexually harassed me are still in my life, it feels fake as I haven't spoken to either of them about it since it happened. 

After the incident at 6 yrs old, I became very sexual. Yes, sadly I used to inappropriately touch myself at that young age. My parents used to yell and me and sometimes get physical with me to stop it. As a teen now, everyone does it but I feel extra guilty and deeply disgusted with myself, like im doing something wrong and I should be ashamed of myself. I think about s*x like all the time, with people I DONT even think about in any sort of sexual way. I even have DREAMS about people, like yeah. THOSE dreams T~T. (one time it was my teacher - i thought of him in a father figure type of way...) 

I feel like I have fantasies that could get me into a mental institute, I just don't like the way im so incredibly sexual at my RIPE ASS age. I don't know how to talk about my sexual trauma nor my sexual behaviour. I know I should tell a trusted adult but with all my guilt and shame, I don't know if i could. 

what shud I do? - if feels like i've been bombarded with too much information abt myself that I don't know how to recover? or cope? IDEK?

OMFG same, like i can keep it to myself but it feels so disgusting to have such thoughts and shit play through my mind when they do the slightest something, and also how I'm always questioning about doing something sexual and stuff "to make sure they stay interested" even if they never showed any interest in sexual stuff and there is literally no need to. I'm also hyper romantic (making me hyperrose) and i always end up ruining all my friendships aswell 

my girlfriend hypersexual too. so like idk. we kinda just....both are overly sexual which honestly idk, does cause some issues. but idk. like i know it can be hard but i tend to trey and find ways toi distract myself. like it doesnt help most of the time BUT certain things can