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What the hell was I on when in was in middle school?? Shit was absolutely miserable and I made it worse by. Literally being me. 


Advice for middle schoolers. 
Don't be yourself.


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Reply by Sammy

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Advice for Middle schoolers: 


When I was in middle school it was mediocre just don't be an asshole, be nice to teachers, and don't be too quiet to the point they would bully you about it. (trust me middle school kids don't give a walking whopper shit about in their life because they just got out of elementary school and don't know how to act) Don't act too smart or they will leach off you. Honestly, just have a few friends you can trust and make sure to make yourself look presentable not too loud but soft. 
Hope you have a great middle school year!  (〃 ̄︶ ̄)人( ̄︶ ̄〃) 


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Reply by 2kkink

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shit to bee honest I don't even remember my middle school years beside almost fighting a girl over some ugly ass lil boy (I didn't have any standards omg)


uh I guess my advice for middle schoolers is...
don't date them ugly lil boys. you have no reason to be crying at some school dance over them. (lol I cried over that kid at one of our school dances)


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Reply by Li<3

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TW: SH    i was in 1st pd. and someone said "wrist checkkk" and i said " jokes on you ion cut my wrists i cut my thighs" IT WAS SO FUNNY LMAO



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Reply by 🧁៸៸ 𝙉𝙞𝙠𝙠𝙞

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HELP IM IN MIDDLE SCHOOLDJ


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Reply by Mimi!

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no ur right dont be yourself cause rn I have ppl hating me just for existing??? 


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my advice is the opposite i suggest be yourself so even if you are cringy at least you were just figuring out who you were. If you act like someone you aren't, you can still be cringy but on top of that be untrue to yourself. For example in middle school i wanted to look smart and shit so i would distance myself from people and make them think i was some sort of genius just because i got good grades. Since I'm comfortable with myself in high school, I don't have to continuously pretend to be different, and I actually feel comfortable around my group of friends.


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Reply by crying

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fr. 

if there's any advice i'd give is really don't be rude 
ive felt like ive been punched in the face by strangers at my school who comment on my outfits and stuff-


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Reply by Loralie

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  My advice to middle schoolers:

    
      dont be assholes on purpose to people you don't know. or anyone for that matter. you're all young, you're all awkward, dont bring more hate into the world, just live.


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Reply by Orlok

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Actually real good advice: Get off the internet, social media, f2p games, etc. That stuff unironically rots your bain also go outside. Your future self will thank you.


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Reply by pluto

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TW- sewerside fr like the bullying for me it got so bad to the point where I tried committing in a school bathroom, so I always have that lovely memory haunting over me :)


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Reply by r3creantz

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spoiler alert 4 middle schoolers

u will regret doing like 80% of the shit u do but it's a necessary step to flourish once u become older. don't date anybody, u have the rest of ur life 4 that. u will thank yourself lolz.


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Reply by !! Karl / g0Z ]☆[ Masc !!

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honestly just wear whatever 6-7 grade if ur 8-whatever grade u can if u want but u might get poked at.Fitting in doesnt really matter (at my school),all u need to pay attention to is different classes and tons of homework XD


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Reply by elynka

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I just read that and first of all: I absolutely feel you, I've been out of school since 2016 and school was hell. So I feared going back to school this year for my trainee. But let's bfr the youth now has changed a lot compared to 2011-2016. I feel like a lot of people are more open to new stuff. Still I have a lot of dumb people at my school and I just ignore the fck out of them. I learned to not care at all. I am just being nice to the teachers and tbh to everyone else, because I will help even the dumbest people. My full focus is on my work. I found a few "school friends", but that's it. My life is outside of school, school is only for my work, lmao. So my advice is probably to give a fck about everything and everyone and to do your thing. 


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Reply by TheJollyOne

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I've got some advice.

Don't date till you have graduated. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend will be too much considering you also have to focus on school work. 


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Reply by brook ⌖

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alright, here's my advice:

remember that it's all temporary. we all have our moments, and middle school is painfully embarrassing for everyone. try to make the most of it though, you'll regret it otherwise. you may face negativity often, but don't use that as an excuse to be negative yourself. finally, just do not get involved in relationships at this age. they never go anywhere. 


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Reply by mags

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to any middle schoolers reading this:

please get off the internet and go find something healthy and productive to do. before you know it, there will be no more time to do those fun, productive things. now is your chance, i promise.


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Reply by EC_ColonelMD

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I usually regret a lot of 7th grade because I acted quite annoying and immature during a lot of it, both in and out of school. It was a bit better in 8th grade though.


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Reply by spencer

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heres some tips for graduating middle kids; high school will not be like high school musical nobody will give a double damn shit about how you dress or look just participate in class and get credit and make sure to make friends and go out w them once in a while

for kids in mid school; theyre cruel but dont be afraid to express yourself; once again make friends and do things you enjoy like joining clubs


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Reply by 𝖎𝖘𝖔𝖑𝖙'𝖘 𝖓𝖚𝖉𝖊𝖘

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DO NOT. UNDERESTIMATE. TO NOBODY.  NEVER.

Don't be a bitch, be nice, you'll be much happier knowing that you don't talk shit about people.


Don't be influenced by Skins. It's not worth flirting with disaster. Have fun, there's nothing wrong with having lived a quiet adolescence.


Use protection, even if you are a girl, carry one with you.


Life is not about "finding" ourselves, but about creating ourselves. So have hobbies, they can guide you to find out what you like and what you want to do with your life.


You're at the best age to start with good habits, such as exercise, sleep schedules, study methods, finances, healthy eating, skin care, you feel me?  Seize it


Whatever you say or do, they will forget it the next day.

Choose peace, don't let them make your head sick. You won't even find them again when you finish school.

So live your life, the opinion they have formed of you: it's none of your business.


Know your worth man, don't allow yourself to fall into the wrong hands. Trust me, you're so much more than that ugly guy who says he likes you without even knowing who you are, or that creepy adult god dammit.  Identify what you want from these people and give it to yourself.


Take care of your female friends. Don't separate from your group.  Go to the women's bathroom if you are in trouble, they gotchu.


If that person likes you, you will notice. If you're not sure, he doesn't like you. And if he doesn't like you, you'll know. Period. It's all an illusion until proven otherwise.


Don't trust your intuition on big reasonable rational decisions.


There are things that don't disappear because you pretend to leave them behind. For something to end, it has to be like this on both sides. So don't ghost and grow up xd


One loves as he can, not as the other wants. And it's not a crime to love what you can't explain.


Don't get involved with someone who is not satisfied with himself.


Talk to your parents, your older siblings.  Ask questions.


Yeah that is, peace <3


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Reply by Kris 💥

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I was out in special Ed in middle because I was angry and whatever 


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Reply by Citrus/Cid

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My advice for middle schoolers as a sophomore in high school:


Don't let your schoolwork pile up because then you have to finish all of it later and it is just a pain. Also that won't slide in high school, plus a lot of teachers don't take late work so it's best to just get into the habit of completing work on time. Don't be stressed about high school. It's not as hard as a lot of people say it is, however it's not as easy as all the movies say it is either. Just do your work, join a lot of extracurriculars and other stuff to make friends, and be a good person. On that topic, be nice to your fellow students. Because a lot of them will be spending a lot of time with you over the years. So it's a good idea to not get on their bad sides. Overall just be a nice person! Also be yourself! Don't let anyone get under your skin or tell you who you are! Just have fun, do your work, and have fun!:)) 




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Reply by Jake

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advice : dont study that much its not really worth it


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Reply by dino

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loading screen tip: everyone around you is a jerk unless proven otherwise. don't even talk to them, they're just being mean for the sake of being mean.

sincerely, a middle schooler.


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Reply by calamariballs

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real advice: DONT CHANGE YOURSELF FOR OTHER PEOPLE. DONT LET OTHERS OPINIONS AFFECT YOU. i know it's said so much and it's so much easier said than done but it's painfully true. i'm in my country's equivalent of tenth / eleventh grade rn, and im doing drama and debate for the first time, both things that require a lot of confidence in yourself, and im struggling a LOT. trust me, if you let others affect you, it will suck later on. do yourself a favour and live for yourself. and no one else. you do not owe anyone anything.


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As a middle school myself, I agree. Teachers are all "be yourself" "you do you" in elementary. I got beat up cause I was myself last week


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Reply by eddy

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middle school was prolly some of the worst years of my life in 7th ppl called me emo n i got into drama and in 8th it js got worse im entering highschool and the ppl who anatognized me left so idk


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Reply by fvnkietillumunstrome

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I wasnt even myself most of the time.. more like an awful hybrid of mixed emotions and wanting people to like me. I would have been so cool if I had just been MYSELF yet I grew up in a town where alternative people and like.. anyone but them whities were skinned alive and turned into leather seats for their horse carriages...

sorry about that graphic rant but what im trying to say is if I could meet middle school me Id fist fight them and win



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Reply by Rosario Justice

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Tips for middle schoolers coming from a highschool junior

- explore and find hobbies or sports you like. it helps set up a familiar community in high school

- don’t vape

- conceal your identity online better. make sure if needed you can disappear and recreate a new social media presence. that includes do not show your face or real name. 

- academics are not as big of deal, but will reappear in highschool much harder

- except math. learn math


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Reply by Jenny

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I just graduated 8th grade recently, a tip i would suggest anyone for middle school is to not follow trends or quick fads. Its always the same, something gets popular, everybody does it, than later when the trend dies down everybody makes fun of it. Another thing that i think might help is that you shouldn't try to grow up so fast or act as if your so '' Mature". I've seen a lot of kids in my school that started fights with other kids because they thought they were better than others for no reason. Middle school is the awkward and dorky stage in your life when you're trying to figure yourself out, so don't be so hard on yourself for not knowing who you are. 


I hope this helps any middle schooler out there. 


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Reply by ACE FLESH

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advice for middle schoolers:

dont listen to op. the best thing you can do is be yourself even if it sounds corny; this time sucks for everyone. its okay to feel bad. its okay to feel sad. everyone around you is human and going through the awful shit that being a prepubescent teen entails, and just growing up.

theres nothing you can do to make it better. you just have to...go with the flow. best i can say it dont talk to creeps, dont be mean to others and dont bully anyone. bullying isnt the answer, and you are just making the world a worse place by hurting others.

youre gonna look back at these years in high school and think you were "cringe". know that there is no such thing as being cringe; cringe is a set of social expectations. you are you, and you can grow into a beautiful person if you are nice and treat the people around you with respect no matter what. everyone is themselves and everyone has the right to be themselves. yes, even if they dont practice self care and hygiene. 

know that youre schools managment of bullying is not gonna be good. its an overwhelmingly common problem that anti bullying measures at schools arent good. the word bullying isnt even good. socially, it brings to mind a kind of harrassment that is exaggerated and far from how it manifests itself in real life. subtle social exclusion, little jokes over time, snide comments, everything. its much more common than getting beat up or anything like that. im not saying it doesnt happen. if you do get beat up, please stand your ground when defending yourself. you'll be suprised how far you can get by just being assertive and standing your ground. 

generally speaking, teachers and parts of the schools administration will not be on your side. they never are. im not telling you to go out and vandalize your school, but im just saying not to trust these authority figures unless you have good reason too. your school might be against its students expressing themselves; what im saying is to break the rules that seem overkill. that seem like theyre just their to constrain you from being you. do not commit crimes or bring drugs to school grounds though, do the legal thing.

you'd be suprised how much your grades dont matter right now. unless you want to get into a stem high school or win some awards, the best you can do is just pass your classes. take electives you actualy enjoy; a class with a subject you like is much better than a boring class with something you dont like. academics can be fun, and sadly a lot of schooling doesnt make it seem fun, but by taking classes on topics that interest you you can have something to look forward to every day instead of dreading school.

tl;dr be nice, try to love yourself and be yourself unlike what op said, take electives on topics you enjoy, and stand your ground against authority figures because they almost never have your back.


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Reply by kumma<3

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ARE YOU KIDDING?! BE YOURSELF DUDE!! 


Some people out there are just ass holes and cant take the fact that you're happy with your life! (If you're not happy then believe me when I tell you that everything will get better.) Being your true self can help you find peers with the same interest as you! Being "weird" is a good thing :D


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Reply by Җ. Энхтөлдөр

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Wow, these comments are very interesting!
My town is incredibly poor, even if I live close to the capital of my area.

Most people do not get middle school, but those who do are often very rich and prestigious. I could never imagine fighting someone in middle school, because I could get kicked out, and my parents would be furious they spend so much hard work and money just for me to mess around and get in trouble..-


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Reply by ⭐️ | Sunny/Ezekiel!! | 🔲🔳

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i don't rly remember anything from middle school.. all that i know is that it was ass. pretty sure i used to get bullied a lot. fuck middle achool


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Reply by sare

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hello!! i am a high schooler. for the first two grades of middle school, i was public schooled before becoming private schooled from 8th to now. here is some advice from public school me! (btw, i am an introvert and i deal with major social anxiety, adhd, bpd and autism. so mental health will have a huge part in this.) --- from the usa!!

middle school was... traumatic pretty much. not being dramatic. middle school, i have to say, is one of the worst phases in your school life you will cross. this is the time of hormones, self-discovery, making some... bad decisions and things like that that may scar you LMAO. 

advice.
1. growing up, my dad told me this. i eventually realized it is true. this is a really sad thing someone would have to tell their child, but to have the best for them, listen--- trust nobody. please. don't trust anyone. it's just reality. shit spreads like a wildfire. avoid being too personal with other kids, teachers, and my lord do not go near school counselors. 

2. please please please focus on school and not relationships and corny shit like that. trust, regret will hit you like a truck.

3. be kind. to your classmates, teachers, anybody. even if they are assholes, try your best to keep calm.

4. stay organized. it helps a lot!!

5. i know this is out of your control as the child, but try your hardest to convince your parent(s) or guardian for mental health days (this is where you do not go to school for a day to focus on mental health.)

6. please don't skip class... coming from someone who always did... it's not cool and doesn't help lmao.

7. act your age. you are a tween or young teen, not 21. i had to witness students with sports bras and only underwear beneath and oversized shirt... bro please do not. thank you. and, not really for appropriate cause but more of skin care, try not to go all out with makeup. i stuck with some mascara, lip gloss, highlighter, and some eyeliner is cool too! oh and please don't use every word in the book thank you.

8. don't get involved in drama or verbal and physical fights. it sticks with you for 3 years...

9. whatever you do. do not join social media groups with like the entire school.. bad memories

10. if allowed, i recommend airpods or wired headphones or whatever for music :)



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Reply by Miska☆

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I want to say "No!! Be yourself!!" But as a middle schooler my existence is hated on FOR being myself. so...


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Reply by space_junk

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honestly, i just did whatever the fuck i wanted, dressed however the fuck i wanted, had a small group of friends and i was fine. in the grand scheme of life all of these little middle school things don't even matter. 


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Reply by nymos-2

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Mi consejo: No cambies tus gustos o como eres por encajar en un grupo de amigos. También, elijan bien a sus amigos :P


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Reply by S

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Yeah middle school was....Not great. Like at all. I'm in my 20s but I still have many mental scars from that time. Also, to the reply above me that mentioned "and my lord do not go near school counselors" man....if only I had you as a friend irl lol. I pretty much went to the counselors 24/7 when I was in middle school. My parents somehow encouraged it too, as if they would help me at school or smth? like bruh, I was being abused a lot at home psychologically and almost physically at times. I tried to keep my home life seperate from school, but it only made shit worse bc I was living a double life and didn't want CPS to be called. To anyone who may be going through the same thing right now at school....all I can say is music was my only escape, engage as hard as you can with your hobbies because there will be times adults won't help at all. 


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