※※ ADHD,Autism (& similar disorders) general thread & advice ※※

As an adult that fields the world of Neurodiversity on a regular basis, here's some helpful tips to those that are dealing with the same.

Hiii!! how do people with ADHD and other disorders deal with emotional dysregulation and emotional outburtst around and at people with out medication :)

i have add, autism, and GAD so,,,,, some of the ways i cope with attention or emotional issues (and though this might sound really steriotypical) is finding music/types of sounds you like and stimming. for me one of the biggest things that helps me focus is just like calming outside noises. and as for stimming that can be with fidget toys or just like hand flapping. 

I have ADD and still struggle with it well into my adulthood. I've learned a few things over time:

hey, fellow autistic girl here....advice with adhd will be useful, my boyfriend of 11 months has it and im still educating myself to make life easier for us. im not suprised if i have adhd a little myself the more ive identified from it, but hey its a great idea if you are in a relationship and your partner is neurotypical, the least that could be done is to do ur research! it is benifitial on both parties :3 just my advice

anyone got any advice for dealing with executive dysfunction? doctors keep not taking my childhood adhd diagnosis seriously and it feels like i cant get any fucking help in my real adult life

i have not been diagnosed with adhd or self dianosed it but i have a lot of the symptoms, like my fiddling problem and forgetting problem r huge, i also have lots of tantrums n shit can anyone help?

i tried asking my parents if they needed help but they said its all normal, so thats why im not self-diagnosing

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>fiddling problem

i've heard this phrased before and it's likely a type of stimming. this can be a symptom of either ADHD or ASD or something else. it usually takes 3-5 symptoms min to pinpoint a disorder.

>forgetting problem, lots of tantrums

haven't seen these described as ADHD symptoms, haven't experienced them either. could be something else i haven't researched. these are common neurotypical traits but "lots of tantrums" sticks out to me. in a way

I’m not a adult yet, but I struggle with ADHD a lot. 

It was a little harder when I waz younger. I waz undiagnosed until late 2020, as a kid my elementary school grouped ADHD, autism, And any neurodivergent disorders together, so when I took a autism “test” and they said I didn’t have autism the school accused my family of lying because they saw all my ADHD symptomz and labeled it as autism. I waz also bullied and teacherz often put me in time out for not paying attention when I couldn’t help it

Getting diagnosed was a relief and stressful, but overall I’m glad it happened, if you have ADHD or any symptoms of any other disorder please go to a doctor if you can and check it out, it can really help(and please don’t self diagnose)

And now some questionz:

Medz not having any effectz?:

I feel medication doesn’t do anything anymore, I’ve asked my doctor and she said to track it, but nothing has really came out of that at all, iz anyone else struggling with thiz?

How to deal with annoying ppl?:

Even now kidz at my school group ADHD and autism together and mock both of them.(At least this school district actually knowz the differencez and helpz a lot)

I told a “friend” I have ADHD and they won’t stop making fun of me :[ 

They make fun of my hyperfixationz and in arrangementz they just say “special!” and figet to mock me (I don’t get if they are trying to joke around but it’z not funny and it really botherz me)

Edit: I don’t have autism, my schools thought I did despite doctors saying I didn’t when I took tests(I just realized that i may have phrased that wrong, sorry! I don’t think I have it either) 

@Starz I would suggest speaking to your doctor about taking your case more seriously, even as a older child it's important they listen to their patients needs, and make sure it's documented by the physician if they don't. They usually change their minds fairly quickly if you tell them to make sure to note that in your records that they denied your need for care. It's a tactic many adults with ADHD and other mental disorders use to get the care we need.

There are some medications that have adverse reactions for folks in the Autistic spectrum, make note of anything that seems off, odd, or unusual to you when you take anything new for treatment, okay? Most doctors miss important details like reversed reactions in a lot of us and tend to disregard reports of side effects as a casual "Oh, you'll get used to it" thing, when it's more serious than they make it out to be. Keep pushing them to take you more seriously about the need for help. If that doctor doesn't listen, another will.

That friend you speak of sounds like a real jerk, I'd stop talking to them and find new friends deary cause yeah, that's a real butthead move on their part.

ok so ummmm--

** fair warning if i say anything that might be considered offensive or anything idk how to say this kinda stuff in a respectful way im learning **

multiple friendz of mine have made the assumption that i have ASD / am on the spectrum, after i have (for like a  year or so now ?) have been wondering if i do (and thinking that i might) be autistic/have autism and i really want to get evaluated. i've talked to my parents about it (because i cant go on my own) and they have said no TWICE !!  what do i do ?? i REALLY don't want to self-diagnose, or constantly wonder about it !!  someone helpppppppppppp !!!

@deadbeat and @melrose

I actually got the friend issue sorted out now! I still have some classes with them, but luckily, they have started to leave me alone :) 

Medication hasn’t really gone anywhere (especially since there is a shortage where I live right now)

But I’m hoping for the best! no medication is hard but I’ve had worse

Also to anyone surffering in this shortage, I wish you luck! I know you can do this, and im sorry that this is how 2023 has started off! ):

 (It started in late 2022 but it’s worse now)

Edit: I finally got my medication back, I’ll report after a week

For people who have anxiety disorders like myself, a good way to ground yourself is by doing these things.

- going outside and focusing on your surroundings in very close detail and try to appreciate every bit of it (i generally go out barefoot so it makes a deeper connection but I know not everyone will like that)
- eating something with really intense flavors whenever you are disassociating is a good way to get back to earth, i eat wintergreen mints since it will calm my stomach and it has a strong flavor.
- working out has changed my life greatly, the uncertainty of looking good is easily washed away with confirmation of it with muscles you worked your butt off for. the amount of endorphins you get from working out as well will probably keep your anxiety on the downlow too, remember to practice good sleep and hydration with this too.

I also recommend looking into philosophies such as Stoicism. It has actually helped to make certain therapies for people who have uncertainty in their life and worries, such as Logostherapy.

One last note, it is easy to get lost in the cycle of anxiety, but dont ever pity yourself. Pitying yourself is one way to stay lost in that mindset. Everyone has anxiety, its just a part of life. It may seem hard, but put that trust within yourself and you can achieve great things.

i think a big part of why it’s so hard for autistic ppl and ppl w adhd struggle with starting + completing tasks is bcz they don’t know where to start, and it can get overwhelming!! like if i start picking up the trash in my room, and then do clothes after, what if i find garbage underneath a clothing item on the floor? what about the other way around? should i put my dirty clothes away first, or my clean ones?? 

the way i found works is working from one area to another instead of by category!! and just spreading out tht way!! :) even when i’m at work and i’m doing a spreadsheet or something… i start at the bottom and work my way up!! 

and i think it’s easier to pick a starting spot and stick to it!! so like every time i clean my room, i start with on top of my bed, and then under it, and then i habe a little route i take for the whole thing. 

i think also the like… doing areas vs categories can make it a little bit more of a stimulating experience!! jst for me personally, letting myself put things away that all have different homes helps me focus more and stay on task vs doing the same thing with the same goal for an extended period of time.

ALSO, i have lists all over my house. :) so like… little checklists inside those protector things so dry erase markers work on it!! so i get all my chores/hygiene stuff done!! there’s a calendar that has all my stuff on it and i think that especially is great!! cuz then also it just feels really good to see that i’m doing what i’m supposed to!!

BUT!!!! if u make a calendar too, don’t be discouraged if u don’t fill out stuff every day!! you are doing the best you can and that’s what matters!! and you should be SOOO proud that you’re taking steps and doing what you can!! hold yourself to YOUR standards ans abilities, not anybody else’s!!

ONE MORE THING: YOUTUBE. finding youtube videos of people doing the stuff ur supposed to be doing can be helpful! my little brain wants to always conform to what the people around me are doing— so it makes me want to stay on task when i see another person doing something. like those study with me timer videos! 

edit: forgot to say! my older sister put me on this method rule thing? don’t put things down, put them away. THAT has changed EVERYTHING for me! (when i remember)

another edit: AUGHH sorry 4 all the edits i keep thinking of stuff after i press send.

@xxjettxx<3

do you have access to your insurance information? :) i’m not sure how it works for minors (if you are one?) but i’m still under my dad’s insurance and i can get access to medical professionals thru my insurance’s app/website!! all you need is your insurance card with your plan number stuff on it and you should be able to make an account on ur insurance’s website/app!! there should be some telehealth options depending on ur plan and all that?? :) 

BUT if you are a minor, prob gonna need parental permission for stuff no matter what!! 

maybe talk to a school counselor/if your school has a disability center? they might be able to point you in the right direction and talk to your parents about getting the help you need. my school counselor did that for me in high school and that’s the push my dad needed to help me get my OCD diagnosis so i could finally get accommodations!! 

i need advice

for the longest time ive felt like i have autism because i have a truck load of the symptoms and on my moms side my mom and brother has it, and on my dads side another brother has add.

but everytime i bring it up to my dad and step mom they immediatly deny i have it and how my step mom would just "know" because shes a 5th grade teacher and works with kids, but im 15 and these kinds of things are different for everyone. And everytime i bring it up to my mom she just says "maybe" and tells my dad what i think and i get scolded for it.

I just dont know what to do anymore because i cant get diagnosed because my dad wouldnt let me, and my mom cant even tho she would if she could. But i dont want to self diagnose :(

USE THE WEBSITE GOBLIN.TOOLS!!! 

That website has single handedly given me the motivation to clean my room it's actually amazing, it also has a tone interpreter

does anyone have advice for focusing/ paying attention in school with adhd TᴖT last school year I almost flunked bc of lack of focus and I wanna have better grades for high school. any tips?

I mean, reminders app is like my savior, well when I use it, thanks for reminding me to make a remind to bring tape tomorrow lol, listening to music tends to help my focus so maybe give it a try? Break big tasks into several smaller tasks and reward yourself when you complete each of them, tends to help me. 

Posting another reply bc I also need help, ironic Ik I just gave advice, but I was wondering how to handle my emotions and moods? I’ve always had very strong emotions and I know schools have been teaching kids the basics of managing strong emotions but that doesn’t really help much when most of the emotions you experience daily are intense. I also have noticed I seem to have mood swings, I can go from extremely excited and giddy to irritate and pissed within a few hours, it’s almost comedically easy to either bring my mood down to stressed, angry, or depressed, or bring my mood right back up where I’m hopping off the walls with excitement, joy, or euphoria. I can’t really keep a stable mood, I don’t flow, it’s like I’m being violently thrown from one emotion to the other. What do I do about this? 

I got tested for ADHD when I was a kid. However it came back inconclusive, but I was diagnosed with multiple intellectual disabilities (which I realised later are probably just all characteristics of ADHD) and anxiety. So people always knew I am Atypical and needed learning accommodations. Eventually when I was in college, I got retested and officially diagnosed with ADHD. Plus when I first met my boyfriend, he could tell I had it (before I was officially diagnosed). 

What helps me is chunking things up and taking a step back. Plus hiding things that are easy distractions.

First of all hello dearest users, i have some questions about mental health. I'm using adhd medicines for 5 years but i think i have some personality disorder. As i said idk but my doctor just giving me the antidepresant. When I was 15 i had some traumatic things. While im arguing with my mom im loosing myself. Do I have to go another doctor?

i have adhd + smth that helps me is to have a hat i wear Only when im doing chores!! its a gentle lil reminder to myself and every1 else in the house that im trying to get stuff done

I have GAD, Depression, SAD, autism, and suspect I could have ADHD.  I am normally sensory seeking, but not risk taking.  I need some kind of something that gives me something that I can allow myself to fully engage in and not worry about destroying it.  Enter, Sandma- uh, heavy metal. Any mood I have, heavy metal has a song for that. Hyper? There's a song for that.  Not hyper enough? There's a song for that.  Need to go to sleep, anxious?  There's songs and bands that sound like they'll take watch for you, and be totally able to deal with whatever's trying to rip through the veil. There's metal for everything!  

I do have my struggles, I have Mandatory Lawful, SPD, IBS related to whatever bs my body wants to do cuz we don't have a great connection, and I somehow piss everybody above my rank off because I just try to clarify an instruction and it comes off as attitude.... when it's not supposed to because I didn't mean it to. But whatever I'll hang my head and be a robot for a bit anyway it's not like I want to lose my job or anything. 

I have adhd, here r some tips I use for school and home!

School-

• use chewing gum to pay attention if you can

• try to look for patterns or fun facts in the project or lesson your working on, it’ll make it ten times easier to focus if it’s fun 

• our brains look for dopamine bcuz we have less of it, and dopamine can be found in junk food, books, tv, etc, so while studying, have breaks every 10-20 mins where you can have some snacks to keep you going!

Home-

• when cleaning, shut doors, windows, etc. (outside distractions) and put on headphones or just music to help you enter focused mode.

• safe foods, like things that aren’t to fancy and don’t have crazy textures, are really good to eat if u have adhd

Hope this helps!

I had to leave school due to bullying, I hate not being there sm because my special interest is city life, schools, popularity, and just anything school related. i. have no idea what to do

I had to leave school due to bullying, I hate not being there sm because my special interest is city life, schools, popularity, and just anything school related. i. have no idea what to do

@Kenny (☆_@) You can try to enjoy city life without school, doing small walks or just enjoying your city in general, observing small things, people, places. You can also try to find online study groups to get you motivated (and for body double)

i've got adhd and autism and i struggle real bad with shit memory and time blindness

i've got pda too basically (well, cptsd fight mode) so anyone else 'helping' just annoys me, setting timers is like me annoying myself 

nothing has worked. except for an app called Little Timer that i use because it's actually cute & stim-worthy. but you can't leave the app, and because it's 'for kids' you can only set timers for up to like 20 mins i think. you can't set proper calendar alerts

i have a fine google calendar, a not awful schedule on paper,

it's more my brain that needs to not fuck itself up

man my reading skills have dropped so far since college... are stimulants the answer?  Do u think I could read better on stimulants?

also i struggle with self harm not in a depression way but like my little sperg brain needs some ouchie to feel okay

Yeah, space can be a lonely place, even when you're surrounded by billions of twinkling stars.  It's easy to get stuck in a black hole of negativity, and sometimes a little escape into a video game or a good book is just the rocket fuel we need to get our boosters firing again.

But if you're constantly running on empty, feeling like you're drifting through the void with no anchor, that's when it's important to remember there's a whole solar system of support out there. Don't be afraid to reach out to a friend, family member, therapist, or even a depression hotline.  They might be the gravity assist you need to get back on course.

As a literal bum and genius w/ adhd, it’s hard for me to do regular shit but sometimes easy for me to do something that’s complicated. 

For me, when I have work to do I listen to music, podcasts or gameplays. If you do listen to something, it should easy to block out when your in hyper focus. 

To help with modavation, starting to make yt vlogs can/could help you daily/ day to day stuff. 

I hope this helped, I only have ADHD so for other mental thingies I can say anything!