It's mostly in the big cities and its pretty dead for the younger generation. I think a youtuber said to host house parties if you can't enter a club... but let's be honest most parents are going to say no, and you damn well do not want to pick up all the trash other people leave behind.
in my experience i've been able to find cool "goth nite" events at typically-non-goth clubs. also, instagram is great for finding goth/metal/punk house show and small event flyers! bands and house venues will sometimes tag their flyers with things like "#(city or state initials) shows" or "#(city or state initials)musicscene". once you find one they're full of tags for other local bands and venues :)
The only goth club that I've seen in my city is a once a month event at a night club. I found this event and some basement shows by looking in my area with keyworks on Facebook. I have yet to go, but I'd recommend searching on social medias for local events
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