It's a mixed bag these days.
When I was in Baltimore we had one goth scene. They were super elitist, didn't like new people, were shitty to anyone who wasn't on some level of eye candy, and it really turned me off.
Fast forward 10 years or so I'm in Seattle and the scene is pretty great here and friendly
However there are bads in all goth scenes I've learned from my friends around the world. Obviously there is a big fetish side to the culture, which is great, but unfortunately leads to some bad seeds. You'll find a lot of creeps in power in it for one thing only. Also seems to big a big problem is underage grooming, not necessarily illegal, but like 50 year olds taking in 18 year olds to their harems. Sorry not sorry but that is still a child.
So watch out for that, but all and all the industrial goth scene can be great, it will depend, all music scenes have elitist, try not to let it get.you down.