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I mostly see people talk about their comphet in terms of thinking they desire unattainable men, but do any other lesbians have comphet in terms of wanting men to want you? I don’t really ever think I might want to date men, or trick myself into feeling attraction to men, but so often I will fantasise about men confessing their love to me, or men finding me attractive or appealing, or men having crushes on me. Does anyone else share these feelings?
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Reply by ilona (♡°▽°♡)
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Reply by Juli ☆ Rivera
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yes i feel u exatcly!! when ever i "liked" a guy, i didnt focus much of what i wanted, mostly what he wants. really the only thing i wanted was instant pleasure, validation and attention...
and like something about making guys fall for me felt so good?? id "like" a guy alot and be obbsessed with him and id do ANYTHING to make him fall for me but as soon as he conffessed i lost all feelings and i wasnt having fun anymore, but at the same time i really liked being wanted and desired even tho i had no intention of returning it.
idk its complicated and i feel bad for all my past lovers TwT
Reply by Claire
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dude literally this!
literally all my life i have only been friends with guys who ended up liking me which only furthered this obsession for them to like me because... if i didnt 'want' them to want me, then i feared they would see me as no value to them. which like, i shouldn't have been friends with people so shallow but also i shouldnt have to think like that in the first place.
because of that weird complex its totally fucked me up, and basically any guy that i meet i want them to like me or find me attractive, but not even in a romantic way, in a only sexual way which makes me so uncomfortable --even though it is my brain that is thinking this rahh!!
the comp het pain is real and if u would want to talk more about it id love to, feel free to dm me