it took me 10 years to finally come out and feel comfortable with the idea of being a lesbian. i've come out of the closet several times over the years, only for me to go back in and question all over again. it wasn't until June of 2024 that i finally sat down and let myself feel comdortable with the fact that i'm a lesbian. and just in time for pride month, too! which i did celebrate a bit. i haven't been to my first pride event yet, but i did put up my flag. :) also god bless the lesbian masterdoc, since that's what really helped me to sit down and explore the idea.

me and my siblings were taken to a hotel in our state for a suprise because my parents went to go see Garth Brooks. But my older sister got us movie tickets and as we were hanging out we went down to the gift shop and it was June so pride was all over and so I had found a pin I wanted and went to go ask my mom to get it and she dead butt said "are you gay? or just confused" and so I came out to my mom and she got it for me then on the way back to our room to grab our stuff and my mom told my dad. we then had a eventful day but I was so stressed about just coming out. also I was 15 and started being gay when I discovered I love men at 12. ( sad thing my parents are super not good with me so I don't have a good relationship with them and my dad may be super homophobic because he will scoff at gay couples in movies and make shit remarks)

told my mom and she literally said "you're too girly to be lesbian" then  talked about how there were too many genders/sexualities for like an hour straight :(

Tuve una QPR, y siempre nos preguntaban si éramos novias o amigas.

My parents didn't give a shit about my sexuality lol. A don't have granparents, and my sister is lesbian so... prettu easy. I didn't even come out like you say it. It was just one day, in my end of year trip to a water park here in Spain, I send to my mom a picture of me and my girlfriend (we started daiting thay day) and she was like: "Ah cool 👍".

I fucking love my parents

I hope in the future more people have a similar experience, because if that happend, that means we are progressing in a world that is equal and fair for everyone, where coming out is not a complicated moment and where people are not afraid of how others will react to their true self.

Happy Monday :3

2-3 years ago I tried coming out to my mum in the car that I thought i was Pan (i identify as a Lesbian now,) and i was crying my eyes out, bordering on hyperventilating, and after calming me down, she looked me in the eye and just sorta said "you're too young to know, youre confused, and this is just a phase"

Well that made me cry more dangit, cause I was gonna tell her I have a crush on my best friend at the time but i didnt because i was scared she would just put down my feelings

And she wonders why I don't tell her anything now 

Uhh god.. tried coming out as trans to my mum after some.. lets just say tough events, was told that i can't be trans cause i loved pink as a kid (hello? are colours gendered?) and that i'm doing it for attention
i still identify as such but i've kinda been on the low and just tell my mum & fam that i'm a tomboy or smt haha, back into the closet we go

Came out recently-ish and MY MUM COMPARED ME TO ONE OF THE CHARACTERS IN HEART STOPPER WTF

I mad3 th3 mistak3 0f c0ming 0ut t0 my (n0w ex) gir1fri3nd. W3 w3r3 sitting in an art c1azz an sh3 k3pt sh0uting my fu11 d3ad nam3. (and if y0u c0u1dn't t311 my pr3f3rr3d nam3 iz inspir3d by h311uva b0zz) sh3 zaid "if y0u ca11 y0urz31f tht  i sw3ar i11 hit y0u" n33d13zz t0 say w3'r3 n0t t0g3th3r anym0r3 ://

(H3ads up. i rar3ly watch h3lluva anym0re bcz i d0nt supp0rt viv :((( )

im a transbian and live in a p supportive area so coming out to friends and stuff was easy but my parents didnt take it as well, esp my dad... i dont think either of them rly respect my identity or view me as their daughter but it could be much worse (and it was much worse in the past!) but my mom is better at it, she says she "forgets" to call me my preferred name and pronouns and that shes used to it and i feel too lazy to correct her by this point

So here's the thing: I never came out as bi before, but I have came out as trans at school. 

It was the start of the school year and I tell my friend that I was gonna come out this year. I had little notes to give to the teachers, but he was like, "Bro just tell them" So we walk into the school and get breakfast. We talk for a bit, waiting until we are allowed to go to class. Soon it turns 7:45 and were allowed to go to class. We walk to our class, and there I see the teacher. My friends then tells me to tell the teacher. I then say to the teacher, "By the way, I go by Ty and use He/they pronounce." He then goes, "Okay" and instead of my dead name being on the seating chart its now my prefered name! 

Yes, I do get bullied at school, but I have friends who support me and I feel better being out of the closet. So if you are considering coming out, whether or not its at school or home, you should if you are ready for it.

i havent come out to my parents yet because i know they genuinely will not gaf i'l just tell them when im in a serious relationship BUT i think my dad knows because he saw me reject a guy because i was gay

STILL I DID COME OUT IN SCHOOL basically i was determined to come out because my best friend at the time (he still is my best friend but i hang out in a group now instead of just with him) was a boy and we were 12-13 at the time so naturally our preteen classmates saw a boy and a girl hanging out 24/7 and thought "ooh couple" but our classmates were doing TOO MUCH like they would come up to us and do weird gestures or just say like gross shit which obviously made us uncomfortabe

anyway it bothered us a lot and it made us feel just on edge because for some reason it passed around to literally EVERYONE that we were dating even the older years knew so we'd get looks from everyone like even my family friends would go telling my parents that i had a boyfriend, my parents werent stupid though they knew him really well and were well aware of our dynamic

anyway i felt SO bad for my friend and he never pressured me into coming out but he was already dealing with a lot at the time so i did the smartest thing ever and started ANOTHER rumor

the rumor being that i was a raging lesbian

anyway obviously i was met with a good amount of homophobia, and even worse, QUESTIONS but that only lasted for a while and i had a pretty solid friend group that was very supportive

anyway im so glad i came out when i did because i think me and my friend wouldve genuinely lost our sh*t if we had to tolerate another day of the borderline harassment

coming out isn't entirely new to me. before i finally accepted my lesbianism, i thought of myself as bisexual. my ex-boyfriend, at the time, and I, came out to each other behind the bleachers on the football field our freshman year of high school. i was pretty okay with being bisexual until after i graduated high school.

i do have a blog about my experience on coming out as a lesbian. you can read that if you want, but i guess i'll also talk about it here.

i fought with myself for 10 years on whether or not i was a lesbian. i came out several times, only for me to go right back in. i look back at it now and its obvious to me now that i was in denial. but i didn't know that then. i guess after 10 years of fighting it, i finally woke up one day and realized "holy shit, i'm a lesbian."

i won't make this a whole thing, but just thought i would share with the rest of you.

i remember coming out as trans to my best friend !! i was super scared to tell him especially as i wasn't happy about it at the time, but he helped me become more comfortable in my identity and helped me to eventually come out to other people :P

he's great and i'll always be thankful to him for being so supportive !! i'm gay but i haven't come out to anyone as yk gay because i think people kinda just know at this point but yea :)

So when gay marrage got legalized i was a kid and my mom was talking about it with her friend. I asked her what gay marrage was and she said "boys can marry boys and girls can marry girls" and my reply was "this changes everything" and she says thats when she knew i was gay (i was younge and i dont remeber but sounds like me)

publicly announced to my school that i was a trans guy at 11/beginning of 6th grade, forced my parents to loop in the staff and whatnot to get my name changed and all, they hated it. it was comically bad. like people actually threw tomatoes at my locker (bc our school serves tomatoes among other raw vegetables at lunch which nobody eats lmao) in hindsight i couldve handled it better which mostly means that i didnt have to make it so public - people thought i got the administration to force the gAy AgEnDa on them or smth. and thats why im the reason for our schools weekly advisory periods on tuesdays where they try to convince 700 middle schoolers that BULLYING is BAD)

this probably wont happen to the average jimbob lol im a pretty shitty guy

Ok so I haven’t technically come out tbh but it’s not that I think I wouldn’t be supported or smt I know I won’t be. As a person who lives in a country where it’s illegal and in a very veryyyy religious family I would be told I’m too young to understand or that it’s not something we do or that it’s actually very bad. Especially since I’m not simply a lesbian but pansexual AND genderfluid my whole family would be flipped upside down (more than it already is) but honestly I don’t care. online I pretty much make it my whole personality tho I’ve also had people be homophobic af straight to my face I just backhand insult them or openly judge them honestly I don’t care if my family wouldn’t “accept” me the only thing stopping me is the fact it’s “illegal” otherwise I would’ve came out the second a friend of mine said, “what are you gay?” I would have loved to say “Jokes on you I actually am”. 

Born to be out and loud forced to be closeted

I'm gonna tell my coming out story as if it was a scary story,

It was a dark and stormy night (in 2020 0_0), I just came back from school. I told a couple of my friends I was gay before my parents picked me up, and I asked them how their parents would react if they told them if they were gay, most of them said they would be disowned or worse 0-0.

I was very scared to tell my parents, but I told them anyways.....

THEY TOTALLY SUPPORTED ME <3

My coming out story is a little..depressing, at first. But i see a lot of young people on this forum and figured it would be helpful to post about my story, to show that things can get better despite how bad things may be in the moment. Buckle in. This is a long one because i love to overshare lol.

I always knew i was queer in some way shape or form. It was never something I had to question myself about. I think in a way, my parents knew as well. I was always very outspoken about my social and political views, and that included queer people. I grew up in a very conservative, mormon family, and on top of that, my culture is also conservative (Im hispanic). Despite knowing about my gayness, i didn't have the courage to come out until i was 16.

Like i said, i always knew i was queer, but i never knew exactly what i identified as. I knew i didn't feel comfortable in my own body, i was repulsed by it. For a while, i thought maybe i was just insecure about my body, so i did things i thought would make me feel happier with the body i was dealt, like dressing more feminine or wearing makeup. But these things ended up making me feel even worse. At this point, i had no idea what gender dysphoria was. I thought something was just seriously wrong with me. Until one day, I was scrolling through youtube, looking for a video to watch, and i came across a video explaining what gender dysphoria was, and boom, everything finally made sense. I'll be honest, I wasn't exactly happy about finding out i was trans because i knew how hard things were going to be, but i also knew i had to transition in order to be happy with myself. So i sucked it up, and came out to my family shortly after.

My parents did not take it well. At all. My dad was always emotionally absent, so he didn't have much to say, but my mom...crashed out. She refused to accept it, saying that I'm probably just confused, or spent too much time on the internet and was brainwashed. My mom kept making me explain my gender dysphoria over and over, and it was so mentally draining, and was just met with resistance and denial in the end anyway. My mental health was at an all time low. I couldn't get out of bed, or go to school. I was slowly rotting away in my bed. I was diagnosed with depression when i was 11, so my parents knew what my depressive episodes looked like, and instead of..idk, comforting me, i was kicked out. Almost. My mom changer her mind literally minutes after i had my bags packed. And then she had me explain my dysphoria yet again, but I didn't. I told her i was done. I couldn't do it anymore. I just stood there and she stared at me for maybe 15 minutes. Then asked my dad to bring her her phone. She ordered me a binder on the spot. She told me her one condition was that I not medically transition until i was 18.

Things weren't smooth sailing from there. She'd still sometimes try and force me to wear a dress or make comments about my body. But it's been about 7 years since then, almost 8, and she's changed. A LOT. She started going to therapy, educating herself, taking medication, and even stopped going to church because she couldn't understand how God could hate her child. Now i am 23, turning 24, loudly and proudly queer, in a happy queer relationship, 5 years on testosterone, had top surgery 3 years ago (my mom was even my caretaker and paid for all the travel and hotel expenses), and now have an amazing relationship with my family. I have since moved out, but I willingly go see my parents at least 2-3 times a week, otherwise i miss them lol.

Moral of the story, things do get better. Not everyones parents end up coming around, but that doesn't mean things won't get better. That's what chosen families are for, right? Thank you for listening to my TED talk :)

The first time when i liked a boy i felt weird, that guy was weird but atractive k?

Well, i told my mum and she only laugh, she told me is normal and it's only a ''stage'', then it pass 2 years and i told my mom that i'm gay. She say i'ts bad but respect me, nowadays, she still thinking i'ts a stage, but she rlly don't know that i have a bf XD

coming out to my family was pretty standard: "umm can we talk about something" and then a very awkward conversation that went well enough.

coming out to friends though... hilarious

i was like... 13 at the time? being the quiet very clearly autistic kid, id been relentlessly bullied by literally anyone who felt like it. one thing that kept happening was this group of girls from ANOTHER SCHOOL (so embarrassing) kept telling me one of the girls had a crush on me. obviously i was VERY naive and couldnt pick up the very obvious context clues to realise they were making fun of me so one time after being asked this i told them i wasnt interested because i was gay and then walked away. i didnt consider this coming out bc i barely knew these people so it was no issue

THE NEXT DAY im walking to school and this group of girls comes up to me with a large hand made card with the words "we support you" in it with a lollipop taped inside it and a pride flag drawing. obviously i took this sincerely (even now i dont understand why they did this) and was happy but super embarrassed and kept walking to school after thanking them. given how happy i am abt it, i bring it into class to show off a little. someone asks why im eating a lollipop in class and im like "heh, yknow, just got it from this card some girls gave me " and then i show them the card expecting this to be a big deal and NOBODY REACTS. im like "yeah yknow im just... gay and stuff, yeah" everyone goes back to what they were doing. 

later on they would all go on to literally forget i came out. 

i literally got put back in the closet </3

Ok coming out to my family was very troublesome. 

This was the first couple of time of telling my own mom:

This was maybe not even last year, maybe like February? My whole family kind of knew I was gay by the way I acted, and I guess it was too much. There was this one time where my mom and me had a deep and kind of crazy conversation about what I like. She even said, "I feel like I let you go into the influenced world." But I was so confused...? I only saw some men with nice looks and nice personality and instantly knew what I liked. (Maybe Larry influenced me but that's beside the point.) 

This is when I officially (kind of) come out: 

This other point of time where my sister was involved. That is where I officially came out, but I was so irritated. I wanted to wait for the right moment to tell them but it's like they MADE me come out. I felt like a disappointment...

BUT I DONT WANT MY DAD TO KNOW OR HE WILL KILL ME AND NEVER WANT ME AS MY SON AGAIN.

but anyways yeah :/

Growing up, I had no plans of coming out.. :-X or so I thought on my 18th birthday (last year, July, turning 19 this 16th).

I was raised in a liberal, progressive christian household. (I'm not sure why I added this part, but it's kind of a key to my story later on, and currently) and we (me and my 3 other siblings) were taught respect, love and discipline from a young age. Growing up, I never let my emotions take control of me, but when I was 14 I started having homosexual tendencies/latent homosexuality (erotic attraction to members of the same sex)

Most of the times, I just kept it a secret, almost slipped out a few times, and I kept it cool, staying closeted. I only discussed about it online with strangers, some were cool, some were supportive, and some people are just weird.

As a youth gay, my homosexual tendencies builded up over the years, and I was fully gay by the time I was 17, and I didn't want my parents to see me in a few years with me and a dude on my Instagram story kissing and shit, so I had to do what I had to.

We had cake from Breka Bakery, like we always do. My mom brought out candles and called everyone to the dining table. My dad, a quiet man who never raised his voice but whose opinion carried weight, stood in the corner with his arms crossed, smiling like usual.

I made a wish.

~ Let them still love me after this

I told them during the present unwrapping..

“I’m gay. Just thought I should say that. Before you ask me why I don't have a girlfriend"

My mom just whispered “Oh” and stood up. My dad didn’t move, but my mama did:

She came around the table, and hugged me.

“Thank you for telling us. You’re still ours.”

My dad gave the longest pause of my life, and I thought I was going to get an ass whooping.. BUTTTT:

“Son, if you're happy and good, then I’m proud. That's all.”

And just like that, the oxygen came back into the room instead of bein converted into carbon dioxide.

I haven’t looked back since.

I’m not a rainbow-flag-waving party animal (not all the time anyway), but I finally get to just be. And this year, I’m planning something special for my 19th <3

haii guys ok so personally i knew  i was gay once i gained consciousness of life which was 3rd grade

at first i thought i was lesbian but then sooner or later i realized i still liked men so in the 4th grade i was experimenting a little & settled on bisexual. thenn as i got older that didn't feel right but i still stuck with it soon enough in 5th grade i was trans but couldn't say anything yet then in 6th grade i figured it was time to tell everyone i was "bisexual" it was really hard though because even though my mom was bi she was still sort of homophobic & my dad was too but not towards everyone just their kids you know. so one day me my untie my mom and little brother were in the car my mom was already having a bad day but i just needed to tell her, we went to the car wash and i knew it was time so i wrote on a peice of paper "mom im bi" my untie was the first to find it and she told me "is this what you wanted to tell her all day?" i told her yea n she told me everythings going to be ok and she went to tell my mom when my mom found out she looked mad but we never talked about it again soon enough EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY SARTED COMMING OUT?!? SO THEN I WAS  LIKE OKK MAYBE I CAN COME OUT AS TRANS NEXT YEAR soon enough 7th grade rolls around and i tell my mom im trans she didint suport me how i needed but theres worse, she just treated me diffrently & all i wanted to do was find myself she but she never let anyone disrespect me she always made sure people used my name instead of my dead name. then in 8th grade i decided on genderfluid which felt AMAZING that i could finally be myself OH and im also pansexual which found out in 7th as well. But now im almost a jouinor & everything worked out 

My personal coming out experience was kinda... Crazy?

I mean I live in a homophobic country (being gay is illegal there) and back when I came out as a lesbian it wasnt illegal, but also I was a kid (Chipsi knew who they were from a really young age), and I think like, me coming out to my siblings wasnt even that significant, my older sibling was kinda supportive I guess? (As far as an abusive sibling can be) and my little siblings are just like.. They always knew they just didnt care much they think it's okay and I came out to them and explained everything to them when they were little kids so yeah, I got lucky with that.

But with my mom.. I remember that day as if it was yesterday, I was still in school (I think elementary or really early on middle school) and I was crying cuz of some school matter and my mom was with me just listening to me ranting and whining, and then I thought "this cant get any worse than that" and so I came out, her response was "I knew you are", idk why but I always give off queer vibes to people so they always know even when I didn't tell them. And with my stepdad and bio dad I never told them because I want to live, its dangerous out there

One day. around the age of 7, i was into both girls and boys... then when i got older at the age of 10-11 I would say, I started to only find women attractive, so i decided i was a lesbian, still am a lesbian :p

So, i told my mom and then after that i found out she was Bisexual, and i had a few other Family Members apart of the LGBTQ+ 

na epoca que me assumi eu não sabia que era lesbica, fui me assumir como bissexual para minha mae e ela detestou. Foi uma experiencia horrivel, eu ia obrigada para a igreja e tinha que ouvir comentarios homofobicos constantemente. Felizmente hoje em dia a minha mae me aceita de braços abertos, foi uma luta de ano que valeu a pena.

i've never really come out. i would just kind talk about ppl i found attractive and that was that. pretty obvious i was queer. never been ashamed.

but i know now for that i am definitely a lesbian. when i think back on my "attraction" to men, it was about attention. i was a bullied girl, so that coupled with the kind of assumption that you like men pushed upon you since birth equals COMPHET! YAY/jk

maybe like 10% of that comphet remains but i just think about being with a man and my stomach turns <3 

but yeah. just a ramble.

oh it was horrible my mother told me she'd never accept me as a boy or whatever anyways i ttry to avoid her but its hard since i  live in the same hose

i majorly lucked out with my family. i'm so lucky and i'm so sad that not everyone gets that. my family's pretty religious so i was worried when i initially came out as bisexual, but they were great with it. my mom even went to pride with me a few years back. a funny story i like to tell is when i told my twin brother. he didn't believe me when i said i was bisexual, but a year later when i came out as a lesbian to him, his only reply was "obviously" which, you know, he's not wrong. i wonder if he just sussed it out before i did.

I'm really thankfull to have a family that accept me but they often make me laugh because it shows they don't really know what to say lol

for an exemple when I was a younger teen my parents said no to boys having sleepovers at my house or me going to theirs (even tho we were just friends), then I told them i like girls and when I asked if my friends (girls) could still come over they literally glitched, like they full on didn't speak for 2 minutes LMAO

anyway they said yes but I had to keep my door slightly open ;] and I guess that's my funny story with coming out

Oh- and for so long I thought my grandma was homophobic because she said mean thing about one of my older cousin and her wife, but it turns out she's not homophobic at all she just doesn't like that cousin and her wife because they were disrespectfull and other family stuff LMAO  but yeah it turns out she's not homophobic at all so I'm pretty happy! :3

I have a few of them tbh...

Some good some not so well but  the first person I came out to was one of my bestfriends back in the 8th(I did infact had a crush on her) she and I ended up realizing she and I were both basically gay she ended up coming out to me as lesbian that same day unfortunately she js didn't feel the same for me and she ended up moving schools after a few months but I think that was one of the best experiences I went throughsince I had someone to relate to.

I make it a point not to have a dramatic coming out. I know it's a privilege to get away with that, but I think it's dumb anyone would expect me to make an announcement when straight people never have to announce that they're straight. Too much energy tbh.

Instead I just sorta go, "This is my partner!" when I get into relationships. Most people aren't shocked anyways LMAO. Nothing about me feels striaght. I bet I even smell gay.

My mom was the most visibly confused and said she wished I would've told her before introducing her to my (at the time) gf. I was basically like, why would I need to?? Then we just moved on and she's been supportive ever since. My dad screamed in my face and gave me the silent treatment for weeks tho. Lowkey mortifying but I expected that.

I told my parents separately, my dad is supportive of me being pan and he isnt weird about it, but my mum likes to act as if it doesnt exist. my frends were prety happy for me, thank god.

Both of my parents always knew, I think. I had to tell my mom like 3 times bc I kept just saying “hey mum I’m gay” and then leaving out the door so I wouldn’t see her reaction lmao

With my father it was easier ig bc I’ve always been estranged from him but it was right when I had a crush on this boy and I was like yeah the problems that I like him a lil bit 2 much and he was like yea I’ve been waiting ever since u were born for u to tell me, I always knew. So I was like ://// okay ig

but yeah tldr they were quite supportive and always have known about it 

I like... half came out to parents. I first came out to my dad in a mall parking lot after I crashed out in at the mall's Dave n Busters lol. I told him that I think I might be trans and then I later said the same thing to my mom when we got home.

Currently I'm in a limbo state where I know for sure I'm trans but my parents want my therapist to "confirm" it for me??? Like all I want is to socially transition bruh I'm not trying to go all out rn with surgery and t (-_-;)・・・

little do they know i can just... come out online lol