Coming Out Stories

I remember telling my mom about a girl I was speaking to through the internet and she gave me a lecture on being safe cuz there's creeps online, and I got emotional and confessed I liked her and she was like 'okay, thats not the point...' (meaning that the point is being careful anyways), I was 12 btw. I knew the girl's mom too cuz we spoke through videocall so I was okay.

I remember our middle school had a pride parade in grade 8. For about a year I was struggling with my sexuality I tried to ignore it hell I didn’t even know I was gay, but at that parade we held I finally faced the truth and accepted I was gay.  I told my sister who I trusted the most at that time, I didn’t trust my friends or my other family members yet.

I came out to my sister as bi four years ago after a party where I was kinda drunk but I do remember she took it really well and was supportive. And today I came out to my parents over a glass of red wine, or to be more specific, mom asked me if I was gay after we had talked a bit about Pride Month and her reasoning for asking is that she saw that I had applied a "Pride" filter on my profile picture on Facebook. I told her and dad that I am bi and despite my teenage fears of them reacting in a shocked manner or getting disappointed with me in a coming out situation, they took it really well! They said they still love me all the same and this changes nothing, all they want is for me to be happy and they also said they'll welcome anyone I bring home to meet them, be it a boy or a girl. I'm happy they took it in such a good way because I've heard "worst scenario" stories from other people coming out but I've also heard coming out stories with a good outcome for everyone involved and I'm glad mine is in the latter category. But it's the process of finding who I was that has led me to not daring to tell them until now, when I'm almost 40 but it's better late than never. Now all that remains is to tell my two older brothers and the rest of my additional family but I get the impression they are very tolerant and accepting so I think it's gonna go well telling them too.

thankfully, it was actually really planned out hahah. i was in therapy at the time, and had come out as non straight to my therapist some months before. she told me that ofc she wouldnt tell my parents, and that i had to come out whenever i felt ready (which i really appreciated)

I was texting with some of my friends on discord late one night during a storm and in the group chat one of my friends says as a joke "I mean really, is anyone *really* straight", he said this into a chat with a lesbian and my bi ass. Tho neither knew I was bi. I decided that if just go and tell both of them. After my lesbian friend said she sure as hell isnt, I responded "nah, im bi" trying to make it casual. Well, mission failed successfully. I  messaged him later that night saying "holy shit, this is the first time I'm out" and he thought I meant power or internet so he responded "me too". Which sent me searching everywhere for where he came out. Turns out he lost power, and thought I had too. So I had to come out to my best friend twice in two hours.

I haven't come out to my family, but I have come out to some of my friends. It's was kinda terrifying with the thought that they wouldn't accept me, but they all did. I dunno how I got that thought, seeing how almost all my friends are very welcoming of that. Though, I have come out to a few other friends since then.

when i was 12 i though at first i was just a tomboyish lesbian at first. but then i was a bisexual non binary. to eventually coming out as a trans man who was omnisexual. while my sister was proud of me. my dad wasn't and was transphobic to me but at least my sister was proud for me when i came out.

Ive been around the LGBT community my entire life my mom is omni so me coming out wasnt a surprise when I was 6 I came home and told my mom "hey momma I like girls and I want to kiss them" she laughed and said it was okay to like girls as a girl I forgot about it till I was 10 came out as a lesbian and then bi and then nonbianry and then fluid then trans then gay then where I am now Bi and Genderfluid

I was in an Uraraka cosplay and making Tik Toks and at one point I decided to use fake blood and spread it all over my face. My mum caught me in the act of lip syncing to "The Red Means I Love You" and asked me what I was doing. Then she demanded to watch all my videos to make sure they were clean (they were not lmao) and I had to delete them all. She took my phone off me and saw my bio, which stated I am pan and demigirl. She asked me what they meant and through tears I told her and she just said "No you're not, you're too young to know." Well, says the one who is a perv for women. Anyway, now we're not allowed to talk about it :D

I told my cousin that I was bi and she was very supportive of it and was there when I told my parents they thought I was joking. To this day they still joke about it randomly, sometimes it hurts my feelings because like I would like to have a strong relationship with them but they haven't accepted my sexuality.

I was about 15 or 16 , we had just moved to a new town and although I had always called myself bi I never really kissed , dated or anything with a girl .. anyway I met this stud girl in the new town and it was like I couldn’t keep my eyes off her I was so fascinated with her .. I wanted to get to know her so bad , I remember when she first approached me (we lived in the same apartment complex as well as went to the same school) I was outside eating and she asked me my name I think or how old I was .. I was so shy I threw my food away knowing dang well I was hungry lol long story short since that day I stayed at her home almost every single night .. we met at the bus stop every morning .. skipped class in the restroom doing everything we wasn’t .. I fell in love with her and she fell in love with me too .. my mom use to always ask me why I was always with her .. I used to always lie even though deep down she for sure knew .. when it was confirmed it’s like she turned her back on me .. made me feel ashamed for loving the same sex as me .. 💁🏾‍♀️ I still dated and eventually moved in with my love .. she was my high school sweet heart .. 

I was sitting in bed with my mom and I said "You don't know anything about my taste" while talking about the things I liked, and she said "Are you a lesbian?" (which I'm not) and I was shoked because I wasn't talking about that, but I immedeatly started crying, and I hugged her, SO EMBARRASING D;. I said no, and she said "Do you like boys?" -Yes "Do you like girls?" .... -Yes, and all of this happened while I was hugging her and crying.

I'm barely coming out as of recent. Still really shy about it. But hopefully with this group I can learn to be proud

In fourth grade I had officially come to terms with being LGBT, as well as my friend who was already out to her parents. She wanted me to go to a pride parade with her and I was scared to ask my mom but I did anyways. She asked me why I would wanna go and I told her just to show support to my friend lol.. she asked if I thought I was gay and I lied and said I never thought about it. She could tell I was lying though lol.. so I broke down and told her I was pansexual and she told me being gay was wrong in the Bible and blah blah blah. But she told me she loved me and gave me a hug.. eventually she completely forgot about it, I guess because she figured it was a phase. But I came out to her again in 6th or 7th grade as bisexual and she was okay with it. So she's definitely more accepting. Also my other family members still don't know besides my sister sooo..

My first coming out story is that my mother looked through my phone when I was about 8 and saw that I had “bi af” in my musically bio! It was horrible at the time but it’s hilarious now. My second coming out I was 12, at the time I identified as a trans man. My mother looked through my room and found my cheap amazon binder that didn’t even work:| Then my third coming out was when I put “they/it” in my bio,I was 15 and identify as agender. My mother is still hung up on that one so I’ll let ya know how it works out.

My story isn’t as sweet as the others, so I’m sorry. 

this ones a little embarrasing so yeah i was 11 i was on omegle yep good old omegle and i was searching for ppl to talk to and saw a lets say not so well covered dude n pretended to be a girl just to see  and my dad caught me and now he knows im well i think gay im pansexual atm im still quenstioning IDKKK!!! but yeah theres an embarassing omegle coming out story for you guys!

I always thought girls were pretty but I never bought that I could date anyone other than a boy. I married a man. It occurred to me that I was attracted to women after falling for one of my besties at the age of 35. Well, too late to date I guess.

I told my dad I was gay before ever telling him I was trans. I let him think I was a lesbian for a little while lol.

Ive never had to "come out" to my friends and family. I just came out of the womb pansexual i guess and no one ever questioned me about my sexuality, i never felt like i had to say it, and im kinda awhore so i dont even tell my mom about the people im dating hahaha. but a week or so ago me and my siblings were just talking shit and somehow my older siblings were calling my little brother a bakla (gay in filipino) and i am defending the gays, telling them to stop using it as an insult and telling my brother i know he is straight but if he was gay, its a normal fucking thing. of course my mom comes out and is telling us to shut up, my brother is not gay and if he was she'd disown him. so i got pissed and started yelling at her a bit and im like "im fucking gay, you gonna disown me? matter of fact im a fucking mahu (hawaiian word for third-gender, genderless, many genders etc)" and she just is like ok and then walks away. just a funny little story xoxo :p

I never got to come out bc my cousin snitched on me smhh

I have as many of you, grown up in a heavily religious household, and because of this fact I was quite afraid to come out, I wanted to tell my dad first, because he's generally more open-minded than the rest of my family, and I am not joking when I say that I told him over Text.

Half of my old friends were homophobic, so it was hard for me at first. I didn't tell anybody at first that I thought I was pansexual (I'm bisexual turns out) except one friend that came out to me earlier as a lesbian, we later started dating in secret, but have broken things off. I came out to my class at the end of my school semseter, and then moved schools. I started to identify as a lesbian before I broke up with my girlfriend. My mother knows only that I like both men and women, I came out to her half a year ago. My father is homophobic, but chooses not to talk about his views because of my mother. My brother suspected that I liked women in some kind of way since I was young, because I quote: "Michelle are you kidding me, you always chose female characters ONLY when playing video games, even when their playstyle sucked, because you said they were pretty."

So my parents did find out at  one point I  was  "GAY" but they scared me so I turned Bi now im pan i havent said anything bout me being gay or trrans my  parents would lecture mee  that i dont understand love and  i shouldnt change who i am. They are NOT homo or trans phobic THANK GOD! They just want me to wait. When i turn 18 im coming out to my gay cousin and his husband or wife wht ever their pronouns r. Then im going to tell my parents =-=|||

I came out so my parents didn't go on my phone in 2017 because I had a girlfriend and I didn't want them to see our conversations

about a year ago, i came out to my mum whilst she was doing the washing. i have anxiety and i was super nervous so im pretty proud of myself for being able to do so. anyways, i told her that i wanted to buy a bisexual flag and left, hoping that she understood. i'm guessing she done some research and found out what it meant. she came into my room later and spoke to me about it and tried to tell me that being bisexual "isn't possible" and "i'm just following trends that i see online". anways, after that we argued for like an hour straight until she just gave up and left. fast forward like a year, she was about to get my baby brother to sleep she asked me if i had a crush on anyone and said these words "any boys? *pause* any girls?" and i told her about a crush i had on a girl that i still had at the time and it lasted two years. so i guess shes supportive now which is good? 

honestly it wasn't rlly a choice :)))  I was with my boyfriend in his town and I lost the train to my home and there was only one more around 2 am or something and I had to tell my parents that I went to another CITY to meet with someone...so yeah um they just found out that I am gay this way and all I can say is that it was hard a little for a while because my mom really tried to understood me but at the same time she dindn't rlly like the idea of me having a future with a guy and stuff but whatever she's kinda better now at it even thought she wishes that I would be with a girl XD

i came out to my close friends in 2020 and later that year (around june) come out to the rest of my friends. 

I came out to a handful of friends in middle school and also joined as an admin in a LGBT insta as I was the only out gay person my age I knew of. Then my freshman year of highschool I came out to my parents on national coming out day and then publicly only a few weeks later.  

I struggled with my sexuality for a while, it was a difficult journey by myself and took a toll on my mental health. 

so basically in 6th grade  my crush invited me to the movie theaters, so obviously i said yes and me and her went to the movie theaters and a few days after she asked me to be her gf (of course i said yes again) and after a few days i talked to my mom about how i had a GF and she told me i was confused and i didn't understand those feelings yet and thats where our conversation ended. maybe a month or so after that my brother sat my parents down and talked to them about me being gay, i had no clue he had done this but he then came to me and hugged me saying that it's okay that im gay and that he explained the situation to my parents already. i really thanked my brother for this but it makes me a little sad that mom invalidated me when i told her what i was going through

I don't really have a big coming out story or anything. When my brother was 16 (I was like 11) he came out to my mom and she accepted him, so my mom would always ask me like "are you gay" "are you straight" "it's okay to be gay if you are" etc. so when I finally did "come out" to my mom over Covid quarantine she pretty much was like "okay, about time". my stepdad also supports but he was with my mom on the whole thing. My dad on the other hand doesn't know, and probably won't cause it's been almost a year since I've spoken to him. 

I fell in love with my bestfriends sister, yeah. And now i came out to my mom on text and she said it doesn't matter

i never came out, i just told my family i had a boyfriend and they were not surprised

For a really long time i struggled to tell anyone about anything relating to my sexuality, which really ate me up inside because i knew that i had some family members that would not, in fact, accept me. 

I never came out, i've always showed attraction to every gender. I "came out" officially to my mother and she was like "why are you doing this, I thought everyone knew." I never came out :)

i remember, i joined my secondary school (middle school equivalent? i think?) five years ago and i had made all these amazing new friends. we were in art class and talking about random shit and the topic came up about sexuality, my crush said that she was bi and so did i!

it wasnt until in the past year that i realised that im a lesbian and non-binary - it took a little to come to terms with it as i had been using the bi label for myself for around 7 years now. i still have the same friends that i had in that art class 5 years ago and they have supported me more than ever and i could never be more thankful for them.

Sooooo- at the time a had a gf named Saquoia. J was super excited, so I told my *cough* homophobic *cough* grandmother. Grandma told my bastard uncle, then he told my mom. So one day. Mom picks me up from school and says, "soo.. you gotta gf now?." AND I LITERALLY ALMOST HAD A PANIC ATTACK- she was fine with it so it was all goooood. But when I told my dad he was like, "uh...huh.. -OH.. *cough* sorry but that's against Christianity.." BRO NO IT ISN'T. HAVE YOU EVEN READ THE BIBLE. so ye- bye bye :]

my experience was really bad lol so like two months ago i randomly just on an impulse bought a progress pride flag on amazon and hung it on my ceiling and my mom came in and was like "so is that the nonbinary flag?" i said no and that it kinda represented everything and she was chill with it because my younger sibling about a year and a half ago came out to us as lesbian so she was ok with it. But then.... she found my "secret" tiktok account where i was out as trans and stuff and my mom didnt take that well at all i was going to get evaluated at a mental hospital because of some other stuff (I didnt get admitted cus they thought i was safe to be alone lol i lied abt a sh1t ton of stuff but thats beside the point) and so we were there and i told the doctor my pronouns are he/him and my mom still used she for me in front of the doctor and her excuse was "its a really difficult time for me also so give me a break" 

Everyone was pretty much supportive of it, My sibling was the first person I came out to and they were beyond excited and supportive. With my mom is was rocky in the beginning, she didn't NOT support me she just couldn't let go of the me before transitioning it took some time and reassurance that i'm still the person I was before just different name and pronouns but after that she's been super supportive, my older sister reacted so well to it. But unfortunately coming out isn't going to be smooth with everyone, My dad was the biggest hater, to my face he was telling me he was supportive and would always love me but the words he would say behind my back and even to my face tells a different story, during a phone call he was emphasize "daughter" and "she", I called him out and he insisted he didn't but we all know he did. During my high school graduation he use she/her with me at any chance he possibly could until I told him to leave. Recently he told me he's going to higher a lawyer to stop me from changing my name even though he can't even afford his rent and i'm 19 almost 20 so theres really nothing the lawyer would be able to do. But the rest of my family that isn't immediate was for the most part supportive my Nana's still coming to terms with it but she hasn't made any snide comments. My boyfriend is definitely one of my biggest supports, he cried when I told him I had a date for top surgery because he was just so happy for me 

I kind of always knew that I didn't feel anything for women in a romantic way. But I didn't talk about it until I was 11 with my mother, she said it was a phase. In 2019 I came out again at the age of 17 and since then everyone around me has actually known it. The reactions so far have actually all been positive, but I've always worried that there will be problems.

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