Neurodivergent people who are unable to get a diagnosis

I'm not really sure of how to word this but I wanted to talk about things I personally think about.

I am someone who has a late adhd diagnosis, I am learning to navigate myself and how to put my best self out there, but along with that there are potential signs of what has best been described to me as autism.

I'm not sure if it's right to flat out say that 'I have autism' when I blame myself for the things I do, I just tell myself I have to get better or stop doing whatever it is I did.

I am a person of color, I was female at birth and still legally am in my state so to get a correct diagnosis of what is truly happening is hard because people like me aren't meant for the system that was made in America.