/ Rant, negpost, mentions of exclusionism

Okay, so, I was looking through the rules of this certain very popular spacehey group that will not be named, and one of the rules was like "oh we allow xenogenders blah blah" which was like Oh wow! Nice! But then for some reason they.... don't allow m-spec gays/lesbians...?? Genuinely how and why do you allow xenogenders... but not... m-spec people...? I honestly feel like m-spec gays/lesbians are pretty like easy to learn? Like xenogenders I guess I get being skeptical of at first but... like... Idk it's just weird to me? Like I genuinely don't get it. Most of the time when someone says they're m-spec gay or wtv it's referring to the split attraction model, and like, let me give you an example. Let's say someone is a bi-lesbian. This could mean they feel romantic attraction to both men and women, but only sexual attraction to women. So bisexual, but separating their sexual attraction to women, so lesbian. It's literally not that hard to understand. I genuinely don't understand why people are like this.