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how do you find/ love yourself more?

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Hello!! freshman College student here. I got out of therapy yesterday and I expressed my stress when it comes to relationships. About how I feel like I can't maintain friendships or romance because of trauma and my family. My therapist told me not to focus on relationships and to take this time to get to enjoy being alone and spending time with myself and finding myself. However, for some reason that stresses me out.


I know what my interest are and things I like and have been exploring my identity. However, does anyone else have any advice that's maybe experienced this? How did you overcome this and manage everything else in your life?


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I think your main problem is you are scared of being alone, it takes a long time to overcome that fear. It's hard, but you can't put your self worth in others. To help yourself, treat yourself like how you would treat those you love, that could be cooking for yourself your favorite meal. Or even a little thing like getting yourself something that you've been wanting for a long time. I know it sounds cliche, but it slowly helps. 


It took over 5 years to get where I am today. It's not perfect, but I feel at peace with my progress. I wish you lots of luck in your healing journey.ﾟ+.ﾟ(*´∀`)bﾟ+.ﾟ


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