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Hi, so I'm "friends" with. Let's call him K. This guy and I really don't want to be anymore. His presence makes me feel so uncomfortable. This all started when he confessed his feelings to me a few months ago, I rejected him but told him we could still be friends. That was a mistake. I regret saying that it would have been better to just end it then and there because it is so clear to me now he just stayed friends with me because he thought he still had a chance with me.
The whole confession was just so weird and out of nowhere to be honest it was at a bowling alley and we were hanging out with some friends. He wasn't even the one who told me he liked me but his best friend, also my cousin was also there. Like that was not the right time to say anything about that. Also if he knew me like he says he does would have known I don't like public confessiones like that and overall it made me very anxious and it pissed me off that his best friend told me that and not him. Also since I'm being honest I didn't really handle it well either. It was the first time someone had said they liked me and I didn't really know how to cope. I asked him then and there if it was true and he admitted it was after that are whole relationship changed.
After that I found out that before me a few months before ( like 2 months ) he liked a friend of mine who also rejected him.which just afirms my idea that he just likes the idea of a partner and not me.
His attitude towards me and my best friend has also changed.(Which is weird because she really didn't do anything and has nothing to do with it) He hates her but won't admit it, his actions don't match his words. She knows that he hates her but she doesn't really care much as they aren't friends at all.
Another event that happened was that I stopped being friends with his best friend because of some views I found out he had(homophobic, kinda racist/sexist, anti-abortion overall just ignorant and very religious) and I don't really want to be friends with someone I don't really share views with so I ended the friendship. But for some reason he accused my best friend of being the one who convinced me to end the friendship because in his words"you would never do that you're to nice" which came off (at least to me) as him saying I'm a doormat. Which also reminds me that he also kinda uses me for my art(asks me to draw stuff for him).
And for the final thing I'm going to talk about is an assumption he made about me. A really weird assumption....
He thought I was a lesbian which doesn't make a lot of sense since at the time I had told him I was bi(currently pan🍳) and never told him I was a lesbian. I think he just said that because i spend a lot of time with my best friend and he's jealous of her or something. I think he got this idea because shes bi but he knows she likes someone so doesn't really make a lot of sense( she likes a guy by the way)
Also here are some clarifications on the people involved:
-Me (15)Pan,agender, demigirl,demiaroce.
- Best friend(15) Bi
-K(15) straight
-His best friend (15) straight
* Where all from 🇵🇷, we all live here
*Btw we got to the same school
*Anyways thats my story pls leave any advice u have on this bulletin on how i can end this friendship it would be helpful
*Also on how to make new friends
Hope everyone has a good day/night
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