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Help to reduce other social medias?

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I'm new here, to this website as a whole, and for a while now I have wanted to reduce my time spent on social medias like tiktok or instagram, but i struggle to. I guess it's because for one i feel like I CAN'T quit, all of my friends speak on insta, and sometimes if I'm lucky on snapchat, but most of the people my age use instagram, so i feel like I can't quit because then i wouldn't be able to communicate with them... 

that's my first reason, the second reason is that I am a HUGE fan of an actress, and like most actress she mostly publish things on insta, and i want to be able to see what she post and be warned when she post something but for that i need insta. As for tiktok i also use it to watch this actress tiktok but i mainly watch fan edit of her, recently i have been able to spend less time on tiktok so right now i would say my main problem in insta. You might wonder why i don't just...stop looking at the actress, and it's an understandable question, but i "need" those fan interection. To resume things a bit, i'm autistic and i get hyperfixation, it just so happens that my last hyperfixation is on this actress, looking at her films or at fan edits makes me feels more rested to have real social interactions (i don't know if that makes sense but that's how i work), or it helps me greatly if I had a bad social interactions so I can't really just stop looking at the fan edits.

I try to limit my phone use by using an app that blocks most social medias for defined hours a day but i can always just disable the app so it doesn't always work

I had thought about maybe gettin a fliphone that CAN run insta and tiktok but does so badly so i just wouldn't want to use them but I can't find a phone that does that in France. And while in my ideal world i would like to stop having a phone at all, it's quite literally impossible. I need my phone to go to school, a few of my teachers make us take mini quizzes on our phones and i need my phone to access the cafeteria :[

Does anyone have any tips to lay off instagram? I would be very thankfull :3


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Reply by Aydan :)

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I have had plenty of dumbphones myself too and it does work for some people, but majorly inconveniences me when out in the modern world, literally everything needs a smartphone to do anything. It's better to work on impulse control rather than just taking away a phone, like don't worry I use instagram and youtube way too much as well, but personal improvement is better. A good alternative is to just get lost on spacehey, there's so many groups and things you can read and spend hours on, and it's all intentional not just mindless scrolling. Also what I found helps me a lot is yeah forums, and finding niche websites to go through and check too, it's not the internet that is the issue for your brain, it's more just how we interact with it.


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Reply by LeaxxLae

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Thanks, I'll try to work on my impulse, I think the worst thing is that I use my phone for short period of times, but they actually make up the bigger part of my day


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Reply by Aydan :)

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Dw I'm pretty terrible at it too. Right now i'm kind of roleplaying that its the 2000s rn, spending time on this old youtube client, spacehey or newgrounds and other little sites and it's making me way happier haha.


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Reply by 349570770

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Do you have a PC or a tablet at home?

I find that it helps a lot to delete the apps and associated accounts off your phone, so the barrier of entry is higher. If you'd have to reinstall the app you get a minute more to think about if the constant barrage of content is worth sacrificing your mental health for.

I have the following strategies:

I installed a launcher, where I can block certain apps for a specific amount of time. So I can still browse reddit and so on when I have downtime at work, but as soon as I leave there I block them, so I can only check them on my PC, where I'm more location bound and can't doomscroll mindlessly.

I decentralized my smartphone according to my needs. For music I revived my old ipod, installed a bluetooth adapter, swapped the 30pin connector to a usb c one and put a 3000mAh battery in. For reading I got a kindle. I don't take pictures or videos that often so I don't need it, but if you like taking pictures get a digital camera.
Everytime you take out your phone for any reason, be it taking a pic or changing a song, you always, almost automatically, check your notifications or whatever comes to your mind, since it's readily available once your phone is out. Even the app icons are designed to attract your attention, being colorful, easily identifiable and just a tap of the finger away.
So, if you limit your choices by what the device you just pulled out can actually do, you're less likely to get sucked in. My phone can give me any content I want, on my ipod I can pause, skip, and choose another song, that's it.

I try to consume content in places dedicated to it. If I watch a movie on my TV on the couch, and my phone vibrates, I'm likely going to check it. If I go to the cinema to watch a movie not only am I more immersed, you'd have to put a gun to my head to get me to pull out my phone and suffer the shame of being one of "those people".


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