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Guys... Am I cooked?

Posted by Roka

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Am lonely :(
I have an irrational fear of people and going outside. I have nightmares of people killing me quite often. I haven't had a non fully online college class in 5 years. The most time I spend online is talking to friends I made online... I don't think I fall into the class of terminally online, chronically cringe, discord/reddit mod status. I just don't know if I am cooked or not. I need outside perspective. I got recommended that I need to be adopted by an extrovert. But idk how if I am too scared to talk to people.

Recently turned 24 and my family is worrying a lot about me. 

Also, its not a problem of body image (although slightly), I workout often and try to take care of myself physically pretty well.

Being alone for this long and thinking about the rest of my life being like this is frightening. Please send help.


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Reply by Tick

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You're not cooked. You just need help, and you're seeking help right now by asking outside opinions here. I think making some extroverted and local friends to you would be helpful, but also speaking about your troubles to a therapist, psychologist, or other professional would also provide more guidance on how to live your best life.

Alongside those two things, try pushing your own personal boundaries little by little. If you have a yard, try easing yourself outside in your own backyard. Spend a small length of time there and then slowly make that time longer. If your fears are getting the better of you even after doing that then definitely consult a professional who will know exactly the right method to help you overcome your struggles.


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Reply by Xavier

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I've known people who had severe agoraphobia and now live normal lives. You are not cooked because you're self aware of the problem and want to make a change, which is the first step. You wouldn't believe how many people are ignorant of their problems or in denial. 

I second what Tick said, they gave some really good advice. I would also encourage you to seek out a psychologist, therapist, or counselor. 

If cost is an issue I used Open Path Collective before when I didn't have insurance. It's a mixed bag, but there are good providers on there. https://openpathcollective.org/ 


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Reply by 𝔠𝔢𝔠𝔢⛧

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sounds like agoraphobia and honestly its cureable I used to have this. seek therapist and they might put u on medication but it makes it so its easier and easier.


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Reply by FemboyTomboy

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U gotta get out of your comfort zone more, and find a good therapist to talk to about these issues!!!!!




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