I see that you and I are of similar age. In my opinion, I would encourage you to get your own space, if you can truly afford it. If you’ve done all your research about how much your expenses would be versus your income, and you can safely afford to live on your own, I say go for it.
This past year was my first year living in my own apartment completely by myself, and it’s one of the most freeing experiences. You can play music as loudly as you want (within reason of course, if you have neighbors), you can dance around the space however your body wants to move, you can walk around completely naked after a hot bath if you wanted to, you get to be in charge of your own food and cooking (though you are also going to be responsible for all of your cleaning and maintaining of your space). I mean really the possibilities are endless, but you have so much freedom with setting your own schedule, creating a space that is tailored to your comfort, and you get to express yourself as freely as you want.
If you’re like me, the nights might get kind of lonely when everything starts winding down and getting quiet, but you can do what i did and surround yourself with a ton of stuffed animals hehe
And imagine how cool it would feel to invite your family and friends over and be like “looky here, this is me, this is my safe space, look at how cool this is”. It’s honestly incredible when you can spontaneously make plans and go “oh I’m now going to this coffee shop, oh i’m now going to this park, oh hey my friend/family wants to hang out let’s play some games or vibe out at my place”.
I would say though, that while you have less expenses, I would also encourage you to build as much of a safety cushion as you can, maybe about 2-3 months worth of rent & bills, if not more. The world is very unstable with it’s employment and housing, and the last thing you want to do is be living paycheck to paycheck, or have something happen where you need to find another job and you can’t afford next month’s rent.
As far as leaving your family burdened (and this is just my own opinion on this), I don’t think it’s fair to put that kind of pressure on yourself about what will happen to them if you leave. Granted, if your family is truly struggling and can’t make ends meet, I understand that this makes it more complicated. But you had described being able to afford the “fun” things. If your family can’t pay for their housing cost, or their utility cost, then it might be better to do what you can to assist WHILE you guys figure out a plan for how they can better make their ends meet. But if this is just a matter of them not having as nice of stuff, but can still pay all their bills, then I would say that this is not a burden to put on your shoulders. I believe that the children of parents shouldn’t be responsible for contributing financially, but again I can see this being more complicated if your family is unable to house themselves or properly feed themselves.
I’m wishing you the best of luck in your adventures ദ്ദി(˵ •̀ ᴗ - ˵ ) ✧
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