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My boyfriend doesn't like to kiss me?

First of all, sorry for any mistakes. English is not my first language.


So the thing is I'm a really touchy person and I like to give my partner a lot of physical affection. Right now I'm in a relationship with some who also likes that. The problem is that recently he started to avoid/reject direct kisses on the mouth. (Everywhere else is fine). At first I thought it was because I had bad breath or because my lips are often a bit dry since it wasn't like this in the beginning. But this has been going on for a few days now. (I'm currently living with him for 2 month because we live in different countries and had a long distance relationship but visited each other occasionally)


I asked him about this multiple times and he just told me that he doesn't feels like it right now, which I understood in the beginning. I have to admit it made me a little bit sad because I like kissing him and showing him affection that way. Right now I don't get any kisses from him at all (at least on the mouth, the rest stayed the same) and when I asked if it's ok to kiss him the answer is mostly no.


What am I supposed to do? I know the right thing is to be understanding but it makes me feel a bit unloved and lonely and I really miss kissing him. I just wish it would be like it used to be.


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Reply by MJ

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I have to say it's already great that you asked him the reason why he doesn't feel like it; but i'd say to communicate even more and tell him how it makes you feel. But be careful not to word it in a accusing way, maybe something along the lines of "Hey, so I know you don't really feel like getting kissed, but it makes me feel unloved and i want to find a solution that would fit both of us."

It could be that something happened on his side and he's feeling uncomfortable with the idea, or that he isn't comfy with that level of physical touch anymore, but both need to communicate. You can then try to come up with ways to solve the issue without forcing neither of you. Maybe finding specific moments he'd be okay with kisses, or him initiating a bit more?


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Reply by octofig

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the exact thing happened with me and my ex, i talked to them about it and i tried to fix it, so i recommend that but if that dont work just uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, yeah


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