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My Paranoia towards other Artists

Hi!
even tho i am a person that draws a lot and likes to dwell into certain spaces and activities related to my hobbies, i cannot aproach others in that space well due to a profound hatred i have towards NSFW content.
the constant fear that every artist i meet on the internet or irl can be a person that could have potentially created the same content that scarred my life for years, and led me to rabbit holes i honestly wish i didn't go into. that fear is why i cannot make other artist friends.
that's the whole reason i even made an account on this website, since of course it has guidelines that don't aprove of that but also it has less people, which is way more comfortable than a more populated social media.

i really do wish there was a solution to people like me who try to run away from that kind of content, but the conclusion that i arrived to is that i can either create my own website in the future for me and others alike, or simply just isolation.

please if you find this post share your thoughts with me on this, i really would like to see if there are others in my situation, that alone would help a lot. thank you for reading!


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Reply by xX_ItsmyGloomyday_Xx

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hey! i think i can understand how u feel! do to situations from a few years ago, i dont rlly like interacting with sexually explicit content AT ALL. i am an artist and have been drawing for around 9 years now? anyways thanks 4 sharing ur feelings


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Reply by Anisa Mazaki

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Fear not, for I too, (as an Artist for 22 yrs and a SA survivor who is Ace), also profoundly DETEST nsfw content, so to me - your feelings are completely valid and justified. (Infact I know a number of other people as well within my own social circle who hate nsfw too.)

The only difference between you and I is that, I don't have paranoia/ fear about finding Artists "who could have created traumatizing content". I choose to be open and bold faced about my anti nsfw nature cuz narcissistic, selfish, karenque type people seem to LOVE trying to force that bs onto me since regardless of weither I'm both online or offline. Infact people have been trying to force push nsfw onto me since I was 4 yrs old. The disrespect is often infuriating, especially when males try to subject me to that garbage. And because I am very anti nsfw and very picky with whom I allow in my presences or to whom has access to me or my Art etc, people do go out of their way to attack/ bully me or my Art. I've even been banned in a couple places because I had a low tolerance to nsfw/ bs.

If I find out someone makes nsfw content or likes/ engages with such, I block them and avoid them at all costs. In real life, I pretend the person doesn't exist and I could care less if it hurts their feelings. There's a million things people can make content on - I being proof of that with my own Artwork, so they really don't have any excuses to make smut tbh. I don't see such vile people as real Artists etc, much less as human beings and while you wish they would be thrown in jail - I personally, wish (a violent, gruesome) death upon them, cuz these people aren't the type to be considerate of others, even when you point out to them what they're doing is effed up and harms people more than help society.


As for the TOS of apps and sites - many online spaces often state that posting nsfw IS against the rules, but more often than not, people ALWAYS break that rule and post bs anyway because they feel entitled to the concept of doing whatever they want - thinking there would be no consequences to them regardless. Often times, if posts aren't reported frequently and in mass, the nsfw creeps continue their crap behavior. I say this cuz this site may say nsfw is against the rules to post (since minors use this platform), but honestly, I've seen minors post nsfw art anyway and I had to block them. Matter of fact I just blocked someone who uses Gaia, cuz they drew smut, so...


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Reply by Foreign Mammal

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Thanks for understanding. and i'm really sorry you all had to suffer the same thing i did. i really wish the best for y'all!


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Well, you just had to wish! Now all nsfw and even sfw is getting removed thanks to authoritarian politicans! The problem with your mindset is that even non-artists — basically ANYONE at this point, can be a monster. This is the internet. The wide web. It’s like going to the street in a busy city. You don’t know anyone. 

You CAN attempt to get to know people, but you have to develop a tactic to do so. The more experienced you are (sadly, in bad way) the faster you’ll see red flags and can block people immediately. 


And I’m saying all of this as a CSA survivor myself. I’ve made friends with people, who drew nsfw art, they even had kinks and yet, they were the nicest people ever. Because drawing fictional characters and doing something irl is two absolutely separate things. This is not some proshipper bs, this is the actual case. 

And i saw people who were insanely “kind” and “safe space” for all generations and guess what? Guess what got revealed about them? 


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Reply by Foreign Mammal

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even though i can see where you come from, i still do not get comfortable knowing that i could have the possiblity of interacting with the same people that ruined most of art as a whole for me.

all of those people, i will never forgive them. knowing they could draw and draw more of that poison that can reach basically anyone else on the internet infuriates me, i do not want the same things that happened to me, to happen to anyone else. and the way people just accept it, just ignore it, just say "it is what it is" makes me lose faith in everyone else.

that inherent nihilism of "that's how things are gonna go, so why don't you just accept it?" can make people insensitive and proceed to do things that can harm others and themselves, because they lost all hope that they can fight to make it better.

all the kindness someone shows can never excuse their damaging deeds.


also yes, i am aware of the bans brought upon games, at this moment i am very happy they are going on. however, once it scales out of control and it starts getting unconscious and out of hand, only then will i be on the side of the outrage. afterall, i only hate the people who hurt, not the people who do not.

edit: i investigated you. makes sense you defend those people and are friends with them. you are one of them. i will never forgive you.


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