Coqette/gingham is pedophilic?

hi! i don't really think its inappropriate tbh. its just become an umbrella term for feminine/girly clothing, regardless of its initial history (ofc i could be wrong but when you look up pictures its all pretty appropriate clothing). same goes for gingham, its just a pattern. there is nothing inherently sexual about a pattern. i would say wear what you want as long as its appropriate!

No! Coquette fashion and gingham patters are not pedophillic. Don't let it stop you. If it really bothers you though you can just say you dress 'girly' or 'hyper fem''. Your mother is probably thinking of the original meaning of Coquette which has been around long before the gen z fashion. Coquette is a term for women who are playful and manipulate older men, seeking attention without genuine interest in said men (im sure, dont quote me.). Thats probably why she is shutting the idea down. The fashion/aesthetic Coquette that we know today embraces sweetness, romance and playful femininity through bows, lace, floral designs and pastel colours like pink. As for gingham patterns, i dont understand why shes upset about that. Its a very popular pattern even with older ladies. I work in retail, and a lot of business women actually wear gingham.

As someone who has been interested in coquette for he past 3 or so years there is definitely is a dark side to it and its history such as the older men stuff, fetishization of young girls, the body shaming and talk that bigger girls cant be coquette and girly. I think your mum is just concerned for you as you are still a minor. 

There is a lovely side to the community and i dont think the cons outweigh the pros. Never EVER be ashamed of what clothing and fashion you like. Coquette is a beautiful fashion that celebrates women and their femininity. Much love to you.

If you don't know any of the history of the style, there's really no reason to think anything sexual of the style.

The history itself isn't really sexual either. The main thing that people think of it that way because of is a book called "Lolita" that was made into a movie. After the author died almost every copy of the book had a picture of a young girl on the cover (which he told them to never do). Also the movie made it seem more like a dark romance than what it actually is. I watched a video on it a few months ago on YouTube, but I can't remember who posted/made it. If you search it you'll probably find the same video tho. This is all I know about it, but I suggest doing your own research and showing your parents what you find.

nooo there's nothing wrong with liking coquette fashion ^^♡ the name choice for it is def rather unfortunate (as someone else explained before me) bc of its original context, but the clothing style is totally cute and acceptable. i personally HATE putting labels on clothing styles bc they tend to be too limiting, but unfortunately sometimes the labels make it easier to actually find the clothes you wanna wear lol. you could also consider calling it "soft girl" clothing or even "himekaji" bc of the way they overlap with coquette fashion (tho himekaji tends to be a bit more ornate)