Hot take?? idk guys

idk if this is a hot take or unpopular opinion but like hear me out???

 society puts all of us—especially women—into these tight little boxes of what we’re supposed to look like, act like, and be like. For women, it’s this never-ending checklist: be skinny, but not too skinny. Have curves, but only in the “right” places. Full lips, big boobs, a big butt—but make sure it’s “natural.” Be confident, but still submissive and soft. For men, it's the opposite side of the same coin: don’t show emotion, be stoic, be dominant, make money, stay fit. Crying is weak. Vulnerability is unattractive. The pressure is different, but it’s pressure all the same.
We’re all expected to morph ourselves into these ideal versions of what’s acceptable or desirable—but most of us don’t naturally fit these molds. And even when someone does fit them, the rules keep shifting. What’s in today is outdated tomorrow.
And here’s the part that gets me: when someone steps out of that box—when they try to just exist in their own body and make their own choices—people still have something to say.
Take body positivity, for example. It's supposed to be about acceptance, right? About embracing all body types, especially the ones society has shamed for decades. But somewhere along the way, it became this rigid identity too. If someone who was once celebrated for being “brave” and “unapologetically plus-size” decides to lose weight for their health, suddenly they’re a sellout? A traitor to the cause?
Like, people got mad when Lizzo started losing weight. I get that she's not perfect, but still—how is it fair to love someone for being confident in their skin only when they stay the exact size we liked them at? What if she just wanted to feel better, be healthier, or simply change? Isn’t that also valid?
It’s wild to me how we still romanticize being “skinny” even if it’s achieved in unhealthy ways, but we shame people for weighing more than 150 lbs. Then, when those same people make the choice to lose weight—sometimes for themselves and not for society—they get dragged for it. It’s like people only support body positivity when it fits their narrative.
Body positivity shouldn't just be about loving yourself when you're bigger. It should be about rejecting the idea that you have to look a certain way to be worthy. That includes accepting yourself at any size—and also supporting people who want to change, grow, or improve their health in whatever way makes sense for them.
The truth is: you don’t owe anyone a reason for how your body looks. You don’t have to explain why you gained weight, lost weight, got surgery, didn’t get surgery, chose to work out, or chose to rest. Your body is your business. Period.
We should be aiming for body autonomy, not just body positivity. That means supporting people whether they stay the same or choose to evolve. Because real empowerment is about choice—not conformity to any box, even the ones labeled “progressive.”

(ik it's a lot to read but I js want other peoples views on it)