how to end a toxic relationship?

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so, im dating this person and in teh begining of our relationship they wore the most understanble person ever but some weeks passed by (yes, weeks.) and i started feeling so unconfortable with them that it was almost impossible to even be close to them, they started to talk about my problems like it was something that heppens every day, i started to feel like theyre trying to make his problems look bigger than mine,understand?

every time we talk i feel guilty for wanting to have some personal space , they always seems sad when im trying to explain how im feeling or just when were having a normal conversation IDK

i just know that this relationship is not making me feel well, it never did but every time i talk about having a time to stay alone with my thoughts the start to say that they will kill themself of selfharm i really dont know what to do anymore ls someone help !!

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tbh unless theres GENUINE reason to believe they would harm themselves if you leave (they've done it before and you know without a doubt they have), without that prior context or proof its 99% of the time just manipulation & theyre doing and saying whatever JUST to get you to stay. you can try telling them that you dont like how they constantly put you down or downplay your problems/struggles-- IF you want to try to make things work.

but if they dont change or dont give a fuck, then just leave. it's that simple-- if you're unhappy you have to care about your own feelings first. dump their ass & move on, they arent your responsibility. + you could just tell someone (their parents, or one of their friends assuming this is an irl relationship) about them threatening to harm themselves, they can help them and then at least you know you tried to help

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