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inner phobia of alters/headmates

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this group doesn't seem specifically oriented toward DID, but it's the only semi-active plural/multiple group on here, so i was wondering if anyone here deals with the inner phobia/avoidance of their alters/headmates, and if so, how they've gotten over it?

i think what causes it for me is the discomfort over dissociation/being unable to deal with being grounded for too long, the whole sharing a body thing, and weirdly enough, discomfort with socializing (i/we have autism and that does extend to alters lol). if anyone has advice, that'd be nice :y


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oh yeah I deal with this. I'm not 100% sure what all causes it for us, but probably has to do with some of the things you listed and also fearing the inherent lack of control that comes with parts influencing or switching (which may be sorta what you meant by sharing a body but idk). it can also be plain frustrating dealing with the after-effects/consequences of influences and switches, so that can cause a lot of wanting to just ignore everything and not acknowledge Reality. some of us fight and argue a lot too, so I doubt that's helping lol. ah, and also the ever-looming fear of "this isn't real, I'm just making all this up".

unfortunately I've yet to figure out how to overcome this, so I don't have any advice to give :(... I just wanted to reply to let you know you're definitely not alone.


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