Personally, I would not at-all consider myself a Luddite (or even a Neo-Luddite) for various reasons.
Luddism is a lot more reactionary, destructive, and regressive than what I think should happen. As you say with the part about "I hate these less-safe wagons," obviously modern medicine has been an absolute boon to our lives.
But with regard to Luddism on simple things like phones, I don't think it's the phones themselves. I like that I have a larger screen than my old flip-phone, I enjoy that I can watch videos on it in high-resolution, and I enjoy that I can use it as a flashlight. I also enjoy that I can use it as a GPS when walking. Not only that, I can communicate with people on the internet no matter where I am.
The desire to "go backwards" from my perspective is solved by the site we're on. It's social media. SpaceHey is better than most other forms of social media, because it is not algorithmically providing content to you. The benefit of this is that it does not incentivize rage-baiting, and it also does not force you to be constantly sucked-in to it.
Algorithmically-generated social media, because it's based-on engagement, makes the lowest common denominator of content become the most prevalent. Why? Because it appeals to everyone and is dumbed-down. It's an awfully cynical thing to say, but I think it's true. You can spread misinformation, so long as it's catchy and advertisable, incredibly fast on modern social media.
Such a thing is simply not as possible on a site like SpaceHey and other forum-based social media platforms that are inspired by the days of old. People can definitely still lie, but it won't spread like the plague. Not only that, there is not a gigantic algorithm dictating what you see. You go to things manually.
With regard to seeing people in real-life who keep using their phones whilst you're talking, hanging, or otherwise doing something; I have great agreement with that. It's pretty annoying, even if I have been guilty myself of that. I would love to hang-out more with people in a populated area doing real-world activities. (I kinda live in the middle of nowhere)
I don't have a desire to use an older phone, however, because I use my smartphone somewhat responsibly. I don't have notifications turned on for BlueSky or SpaceHey. I have to check manually every-now-and-then when I want to see something. I am not endlessly bombarded with "content." I need a smartphone for my niche interests, videos, GPS, etc. That's simply not easily accessible for the common-person on an older cellphone. (I grew up with flip-phones, Blackberrys, etc.)
Essentially, my perspective is not that of Luddism. My perspective is that of responsible use. I avoid more-irresponsible social media like the plague (Facebook, Twitter, TikTok).
We can still use modern technology, but companies ought to be greatly restricted from their existing algorithmically-addicting content that has demonstrably harmed the world. Nobody can agree on a shared set of facts to represent reality anymore.
I don't feel too strongly on "aesthetics," really, though. I think a lot of modern technology still looks cool, just like I think some old technology looks cool. But for me, I grew up with stuff that is now "retro," so it's not really this mythical thing that it is for a lot of younger-GenZers. (GameBoy Color, CRT screens, VHS tapes)
As for AI, I generally try to not use it. I don't use it to generate images, certainly. But I already wasn't using Siri on iPhone to any real extent either.
I do worry about our future for jobs with it, since I don't imagine that many governments are eager to implement retraining or UBI as things currently stand. It's really complicated. AI can be a tool for good, but a lot of untalented people are not using it that way. Furthermore, it's going to be employed by some really terrible people, and to some extent it already has been.