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Dating thoughts?

Any LGBTQ+ individual is welcome to respond. Your opinion is valid, but my gay men out there, what're your thoughts on being gay and dating? Do you find it easy? Hard? Any wild stories?


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Reply by NosyCat

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Dating? What's that? If it wasn't for the internet I'd have no love life.


Edit: that said, I didn't have one anyway before coming out, so.


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Reply by Linda

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I was in 7th grade, a few days after my birthday I got a message from a girl wishing me a "late happy birthday" and started flirting with me. She was a friend of a friend. I liked her back and we hit it off, but as soon as we met we didn't have anything to talk about. That continued for every other meetup. I didn't wanna rush into a relationship without knowing if we can even communicate normally. She didn't understand and was pushing me into a relationship (like asking every single day), that bugged me off, so I ended communication. I think her friends hate me now. 

Finding someone who actually likes you is hard.


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Reply by Crow

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i’m nonbinary transmasc but being afab in the dating scene everyone viewed me as my birth gender and it was absolutely terrible. then i met my now bf and he loves me for who i am and i feel seen and heard by him. really just gotta find the right person


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Reply by Kori

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the last relationship i was in was 2 years ago. I haven't been able to go on a date since then and i can't stop thinking about that dude. I've tried dates since then, maybe had 2 but they didn't lead to anything at all. I kinda just gave up on trying and am focused on money and my career, no time for heartbreaks or bullshit. 

doesn't stop me from feeling lonely af tho. 


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Reply by ThatLionLoser

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I actively try to not think about dating. I have to not think about it, for my own sake.
Thankfully, there's no pressure for me to think about it, so I almost never do.

I'm a sex-repulsed asexual, and it's impossible to find any positivity about people like me dating. It's always "we had to open our relationship to make it work" or something.

Asexual-centered spaces are no good for this either. In fact, they're the worst environments you could ever ask for. They're all 25% people talking about sex, 25% echo chambers of hopelessness and self-loathing, 25% "some asexuals have sex," and 25% "please help me break up with my asexual partner I'm so miserable."

Sorry for the negativity. u_u I've never seen anyone else talk about this, though. Maybe it'll help someone feel less alone. *shrug*


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Reply by BudderPecan

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I guess I have never tried it.

I don't really think I'm mature enough to be dating anyone anyways right now, despite the fact that I am 22. I dunno, I'm a little childish and clingy to the past so it's would probably be a drag to date me right now.

I think I should grow up mentally a little before I go for it. Actually have a home of my own or something first.


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Reply by donnie ☆

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I wanna date an emo boy so ba d


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Reply by This Is A 🏳‍🌈 Name :3

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i dated a non-bianary person, but that's it :| (they were really nice tho, we just lost contact) my pan ass just never talks to anybody.


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Reply by Salvo

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Currently it's awful being a gay man and dating where I live. I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a very bigoted area. A lot of people here don't take kind to LGBTQ+ Folk so I haven't really been able to venture out and explore more.


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Reply by e

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lesbian who hasnt been in a relationship in over 3 years, and I'm probably gonna keep it that way for now. dating's not necessarily hard, but it's a quite frustrating social process that can really drain you if you're at it for a while. In the periods of times I tried to go on dates again, I could only keep up with it for a month before I burnt out and deleted my dating apps. as of about a year ago i permanently deleted all my dating app profiles and am just spending time with friends and trying to grow as a person. 

unfortunately dont have any wild date stories to share though


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Reply by UMI_SHR00M

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I am BI and a closeted Trans man (FTM) and I haven't dated in 2 years and I'm getting really lonely and feeling unloved and a freak bc I'm alternative a therian and bisexual and trans.. so I have been getting desperate and I'm ashamed because I love like a dog:( but I have an amazing BFF:3


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Reply by Mark:3

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im a gay trans guys, i don't pass as well as i want to so dating has always been hard. i just need a biker guy to come into my life already</33


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Reply by Beans

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My idea on dating is you don't have to if you don't want to, let's be real hafe of the time anyone trys dating it's because they wanna feel normal I have, dated someone before but it didn't end well


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Reply by Lunuff

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Imo, I love the idea of being in a relationship w someone, but I just cant do long distance, toooo many trust issues and not having physical touch would kill me :(


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Reply by Lyra?🌬️🕯️

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I really want a girlfriend but whenever i actually have a talking stage or something close to a relationship i always want attention or I'm always thinking about them. My whole life becomes about them and in everything I do its for them even if they aren't around. I feel like i get really annoying and no one wants to be around someone who only thinks about them, and i know it makes them upset and affects them also but it makes me upset because i don't want to keep relying on someone in order to feel okay. Relationships should have boundaries and mutual respect but instead i look up to them and genuinely need them for everything. D:


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