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Is is bad to be talking to multiple people at once?

Okay, so I decided to go on this app, kinda like tinder but for my age group in highschool, just to talk to people, flirting at most. I don't really see a problem with it because I know I am not looking for anything and I make that clear. Also, so many people call this being a bop or a "hoe" but I'm not even touching anybody so how... 

Back in middle school EVERYONE would have their little rosters of guys they would snap and flirt with, but now that I actually look decent enough to do that, the morals changed!!! Tell me your opinions cuz I'm conflicteddd !!


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Reply by Cone.Unknown

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I personally wouldn't do this, or be okay with someone like that, it just doesn't sit right with me for myself, but I think as long as you state your intentions and interests clearly, and the people you're chatting with know and accept that, then it should be fine, regardless of what other people say. 

If you feel conflicted about this because of your own morals I dont think you should, but if you feel conflicted because of what other people think or are saying, you should go with what you want. 


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Reply by Moss

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honestly as long as the people you talk to are aware of your stance and the fact you're just flirting/messing around and not in any serious attachments with them (and others) then i see no issue with it. 

I personally am someone who doesnt like to be with more than one person at once but before i was in a relationship i definitely flirted around, thats what dating is!! you're totally fine, dont beat yourself up over others views, you're young and having fun, thats what its all about as long as no one is getting hurt <3

- moss 


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Reply by Ellen's Playground ★

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Lowkey I used to be a serial dater so I understand where you're coming from LOL 19 felonies, 0 convictions! It's only being a hoe in theory but not in action! There's a huge difference imo. So long as there is no official relationship and you're letting them know your intentions, I think you're good.

If you feel conflicted because of what other people are saying, then you ignore that and keep doing you. However, if you feel conflicted on a moral standpoint, then I would stop this behavior because it means you are not adhering to your moral code and you are not living your personal truth. I personally stopped this behavior because I realized that it just wasn't who I was or wanted to be as a person and it was honestly chipping away at my soul because in reality, I really did want something serious at the end of the day


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Reply by Seathan

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If you're not looking for anything then you should get off the app that people use specifically for the purpose of looking for someone. Not only are you possibly going to tempt yourself, you're acting as a barrier for the people that are actually looking for something.


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