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Hey so obviously this is really contradictory, but I'm a trans man and I really wanna be a girl. Im obviously afab, and I haven't even started any medical transitioning so it would just be a case of telling my friends and close family that im detransitioning. But the thing is I would be completely miserable, my brain won't let me, I love being a boy and its the most comfortable I've ever felt, but I hate it, I miss being a girl so much. Im so confused, can someone please help or even say if this is a normal feeling??
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Trans ftm but I wanna be a girl
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Reply by a11riledup
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gender is such a confusing thing, I totally understand where your feelings come from. As someone who identified as transmasculine for a bit and even went on testosterone for some time, I can say it is just a very confusing thing. Have you thought of trying to play with presenting both masculine and feminine at the times you want to? I found that I much prefer having that freedom to present either way (which is why I identify more as nonbinary or gender nonconforming). Give yourself the freedom to express yourself however you please instead of trying to fit into a label. IDK if this is at all helpful but it's just my own experience with gender and how strange it can be to navigate.
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Reply by kaijuuu :D
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hey, so.. i've been there ! i've been identifying myself as trans ftm for like about 5-6 years but after a while i started feeling uncomfortable with that label. it took me about a year to finally have the courage to tell everyone. i basically did it by telling everyone i'm changing my pronouns (in my case from he/him to she/they). surprisingly, no one gaf lol. i was def overthinking this. it won't be as embarassing as u think i promise
it is your gender identity and u don't owe anyone any explanation if people start having questions. everyones journey is different and if u come out as a girl and people don't respect that, then maybe it's time to let the trash take itself out. u have the whole life to figure out who you are - whether u wanna put a label on it or not. that is ur personal right. and i get that it can feel like ur lowkey betraying urself or some shit (at least it did in my case lmfaoo) but dude people change and so do their identities and its completely fine. u are still u after all.
maybe ur genderfluid? cuz u seem to enjoy both experiences of being a girl and a boy (i feel it btw haha). in my case i still don't feel 100% like a girl but i just decided to present myself however i want and not put a label on it. tbh seems like the easiest solution phaha but yea like i said u still have soo much time to figure things out !!!
i wish u good luck on ur journey <3