i know that i'm a lil late (4 months), but if you still have this question, i think that the best answer to this is: humans are confusing creatures, and you need to understand one by one, and not consider every one of them like a unique person, get it?
like, i know how much it hurts to not be comprehended by the human that you like, but i think that this is the way they live, like, or don't. But imo, you need to understand that: if they don't wanna something special, then they REALLY DON'T. Most humans are stubborn, and don't to change, or try new things, and this SUCKS!!!
idk, if you think that this relation with this human can't go onto the direction that you want it to go, then... i think that you must give up (ik ik, i'm looking like a internet troll, but it's better to suffer now, knowing that you did something correct, than suffering alone, abandoned by your loved).
i just wanna say that you're not alone, zylo (i still miss my ex :sob:), but i'm moving on.
from yours truly anonymous virtual friend,
Hórus.