How do I find gay ppl irl?

an upfront approach works ( only when u know for SURE theyre gay). and usually those people have connections who have connections, so on so forth. putting yourself out there is TOUGH but standing and waiting for the cool gay person to hand you an invite to a club hasnt worked for most. consider looking online for clubs or local events if your town is large. perhaps youll find a flag on someones backpack and try introducing yourself. the biggest cure for loneliness is finding someone just as lonely, youre not the only one out there! i personally think the coolest gays are the library nerds. if theres a few books you know that have queer rep, maybe be seen reading those publically or see who checks them out. conversations are tough, but people are usually kind, just also nervous

if ur a student, look for queer clubs or organizations at ur school! a lot of highschools and colleges have gay-straight alliances or other queer groups (at least in the us... not sure if thats true in germany as well but its worth a shot)

If you are in school take theater, if you aren't look for local LGBT groups on Facebook (I know people consider FB an old people site but it is really good for local stuff) or other local forums. I don't recommend LGBT friend making apps bc from my experience 90% of ppl are just trying to fuck and not build friendships or relationships. Goodluck!!!

ya +1 for the queer clubs/associations @ school. they're very nice

go clubbing!!!!

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parties trust it works

Well, this is kind of a hard thing to do. Even if you dont rlly speak or are talkative, i do reccomend going to lgbtqia+ bars, just being there will probably get ppl to associate you w the scene. 

If you are younger (didn't check), i'd say your best bet would be to try and find local groups, communities, both online or irl. Even frequenting alt spaces that are commonly full of alt and/or queer ppl is a good way to get to know some ppl; just be yourself, and those who are alike to you or simply liked you will eventually go to you, or you to them.

If that doesn't work out, being upfront w it might be your next best bet, maybe start light (wear a pride pin, a bracelet, whatevs) or just go and ask them, spark up a conversation!