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I’m afab. Sometimes I put all my hair in a beanie, then pull little bits out so they are seen, giving me a short masc haircut, and I LOVE it.. I also try to get my chest as flat as possible, usually just hunching over so my shirt covers it, I only wear sports bras that compress just even a little bit. I don’t like looking at my body, my hips and face, legs and stomach, they all look not like me? I don’t like she/her, but I’m used to it so it’s not to bad? They/them feels okay, like i like em,but not right. He/him feels like I’m a bad person? Like idk and I dress masc and I have for my whole life I’ve been able to choose. I’ve all ways loved blue, space, dinosaurs, sharks etc, but ik that stuff isn’t gender, but Yknow? But I never want to be know as a “male” or “man.” But “Boy” is fine ig? I’m just really confused, Wich ik is fine bc I’m only a teenager, but still it’s very annoying to not know who you are!!
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Reply by nighttmarish
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im not trans but i get what you're saying about not knowing who you are. when i was still figuring out about my bisexuality (and also about me being or not aromantic), it used to fry my brains lol but something helped me calm me down: theres no rush. we dont need to know exactly who we are, we are always gonna find something new about ourselves. ive felt "lost" since i was a teenager and like... that kinda makes part of who i am and theres no problem with that
i hope you figure it out soon and if takes time, its great cause it's a chance of knowing yourself better :) xx
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Reply by gray
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you can have short hair and dress like a boy , and have she/her pronouns (or whatever feels right) I do!
Reply by theheadmasterritual
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I think you may like presenting male but maybe not necessarily being male, or you've got feelings about what being a man entails that you haven't analyzed and unpacked. either way I wish you the best.
Reply by PowerMetal_Pal@din
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Look up "demiboy" and see if that fits. I am genderqueer/ Non-binary/ omnigender so for me I couldn't give less of a shit if I tried what gender I seen is the one I can be called with no problem.
On what you said about you feel like a bad person about he/him though, you wouldn't be. With conservatives in control of the government, the media, and with it the propaganda, of course they will say anything just to have anybody they fear be hated and bullied into submission.
Men can ACT badly, yes, and while it's true that I don't trust some men's vibes I can't look at a man and judge them for being a man, whether they're cis or trans or whatever in between. I protect myself and others by taking note of the character of the human I interact with, not the appearance.
If you want to fly low, or if it would be dangerous to come out, take your safety into consideration first. But if you have a secure way of exploring the different genders, also do that. Even if I'm wrong. Especially if I'm wrong.