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recently i meet a guy,he's nice,sweet,clingy but were just friends,i really like him in a sort of a crush but i know for sure we both will not fall in love with each other or have a romantic relationship,we make jokes about kissing eachother and sometimes even act like a couple without even knowing.
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i can't fall in love but i feel the need to do so
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Reply by Luiz
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Reply by yonyonvvy
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what makes me think we won't fall for each other its that,he had a terrible datting experience with his last partner and i never really fell in love with anyone
Reply by SubtleTsc
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It doesn't have to happen all at once.... everyone's story is supposed to different, but if it just clicks, it clicks.
You don't have to put pressure on each other or tie each other down with labels, but consider each other potential lover interests and see where that goes.
If you're both able to be spontaneous and shoot the breeze, then you're fine, see what comes of that.
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If you guys share the same values & basic standards, then that is something to appreciate and start from there.
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(Talking about ethics, since politics are external to any personal relationships and essentially amount to opinions beyond anyones control.)
If he's authentic & genuine, then any desperation isn't that big of a concern or is something that can be exited from in any number of healthy ways, without resorting to misapplied internet advice.
If it's meaningful and you both grow well from it, then that should matter more regardless of if it lasts.
Like anything, it depends on how you go about it and why.
(Though the arbitrary "no contact" thing is garbage from people who don't know how to manage relationships well. Better to not complicate things needlessly.)
What you don't want is to become stagnant nor overly familiar.
But if he's a little clingy or needy, he probably just needs reasonable assurances in the form of mild but self-respecting reciprocation.
Things don't have to get mushy, but most people are starved of affection and (non-sexual) sensuality(even when things are sexual between people.🤷🏻)
Else let him know where he's coming on too strong for the pace of things; and if he legit, he would respect that and let what is good come to him.
From there, let things build up to something and also build each other up, even if it doesn't pan out.
⏭️Just don't make each other do things you can't undo.⏮️
You guys don't have to force anything and some people fall in love even better when they give things time to sync.
I've had the best love stories of anyone I have known personally and that includes the ones that ended badly or tragically... So it's worth it to grow your capacity to love than to never believe it is possible.