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moving on

i feel super vulnerable posting this but genuinely how does one move on from a breakup. my ex and i split after 4 years and 2 weeks after i moved out he was already dating someone else and my heart is shattered. its been 5 months which i understand isn't relatively long but if he could move on so fast how come i cant? anyways, if anyone has any advice or just wants to vent about similar experiences they mightve gone through please comment? thank you


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Reply by Selkie 🌺

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this sounds super bad but in most cases, and in personal experience it's very true, but basically if he moved on that quickly it usually means that he lost feelings or fell out of love with you before the break up, so don't compare his moving on process to yours. In terms of moving on, I suggest you let yourself feel whatever you need to feel for as long as you think is right. Try writing out your thoughts and feelings but remember not to lose your sense of self in the process of moving on. I know when I had a hard time moving on from an ex I basically abandoned all of my hobbies and he was pretty much the only thing I could talk to people about. It's getting better now, and the strategies I used to help myself were mostly just letting myself feel every emotion that came up when i thought of him. Talking to your friends about your feelings is good, however I've noticed that the more you mention him to other people, memories flood back and it is harder to heal. 

Trust me, you're going to be okay


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Reply by Brodov

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I'm sry to hear about that I can't really give any advice cuz I'm in the same boat. 


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