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I've been facing the problem of finding friends for a year now. I do not know how and where to look for friends with similar views. Because of this, I don't have any friends. I need a person with reasonable views, similar hobbies. I would be great friends with myself. and because I'm from Russia, it's a little bit, but it still complicates the situation. I've never had a friend to whom I could entrust everything without consequences. Most of the time, I'm superfluous everywhere. every time I make an acquaintance with someone, the thought flashes: "Here he is, this is the person I was looking for!". And as a result, I was disappointed in a person based on actions and words. now I live in the hope that this person will find me by chance.

who has experienced this? Where were you looking for friends?


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You can still be friends and not have similar views, you know


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I've never in my life done what I've seen in films and TV series: people go to a bar or club to make friends or get to know someone and get together with them.

I'm quite introverted too.


but with time and age i've realized that the solution is quite simple: activities.


It's like at work: my best friend nowdays, I met her at work.

Otherwise, I'd never leave the house with the sole aim of meeting people.

Cause thats the thing about an activity: you're going with a purpose, to do something and the habit of seeing the same people creates the bond. but in a accidental way, in a natural way. 

Like at work, like at school, college... people don't go there to make friends, it just happens.


so, I dont know: a sport, a cooking class. a music group. a music school to learn an instrument. a climbing center. swimming, boxing. a hiking group. an association. a social association that meets to talk about current aworld-social stuff or do things in a neighborhood or town.

an activity.

hope this helps


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