How to get into the wild life? (trigger waring?)

oh there is so much about life that you haven't seen, felt, or healed from yet

you seem too scared to take risks, and that is not a bad thing. but every risk that you take will leave you feeling more confident, and every risk that turns south will become a new lesson.

you don't need to try drugs at all, but you shouldn't be scared of them either. you also don't need to feel pressured to try things as soon as possible. your friends all seem like thrill chasers, who will get themselves into absurd situations to tell about it later- but all of the background characters to their stories, the people that troublemakers don't notice or bother to include in their stories, will see them as a completely obnoxious ass or something.

so yeah, you really don't need to chase things that look thrilling. they will come to you eventually, but only if you let them. let opportunities wash over you, and when you are less intimidated, you will say yes to something that someone offers you- and it will be fucking great and awesome and exciting and new, and oh my god you should never never ever ever EVER! ever do something that you don't want to, just because you have the urge to accumulate stories. those situations usually become stories that i am ashamed to tell.

your life is wonderful. don't rush it :)

i second this ^^^ honestly, it's my belief that you can get into any "wild" shit you want when you are ready to let it in

and it can be any type of wild, only you define you

em-

you will never "need" drugs or alcohol to do something fun and exciting. you seem young, but you are also very wise. you know exactly what you do and don't want from life. you don't let people push you into things you arent ready for. i can't say i did the same when i was your age. true adventure comes from spontaneity. saying 'yes' to an invite you normally wouldnt take. choosing a different road to walk home. you say you find great joy in simple things, and this is where that memorable fun you're looking for is. people will come your way in time who will remind you exactly how fun it can be to be sober. 

you are not weird, or unfunny, or unpopular. you just know who you are, and you don't need to find escapism in recreational drugs. this being said, i'm going to give you some advice as a 23 year old stoner that i wish i had heard at your age. 

have some fun, but primarily, be careful, and listen to your body. find out if addiction, alcohol or substances, and especially mental illness is in your family tree. having that knowledge ahead of time will be your guide. moderation is key. don't take anything a stranger hands you. in fact, a rule of thumb i keep is not to use anything that doesnt come from the dirt (meaning like mushrooms or weed only). even then, test kits are available and important.

you've seen personally how slippery of a slope drug use can be firsthand. all this to say. you have a good head on your shoulders. pursue your interests and breathe in life to the fullest extent. don't be afraid to experiment, but make sure you trust the people around you. do it because it's your decision. anyone who convinces you to do drugs is not your friend.

best of luck. stay in school. ivan

ps- don't vape or smoke cigs. ever. i did it for four years and finally kicked it three months ago. its a waste of money at best, and it kills you at worst. no benefit.

everyone saying you dont need drugs/alc is right!!! im a senior, and one of my best friends is completely sober and doesnt drink/do drugs, while most of our other friends smoke and drink sometimes. the key is putting yourself out there to find friends who you click super well with and who are understanding. nobody judges my friend for staying sober- if youre able to be DD theyll love u even more lol

my point is to find the right people, and focus on the moment instead of if you're doing things right