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i have a crush on my friend, and like, im magnetized to her, gifting her, and i want my feelings to be reciprocated. but, i dont rlly show physical reactions as other people (butterflies in their stomach, and other corny stuff). plus, sometimes i cant care enough to text her, ( i usually do this with other people too) and i feel too drained to give her attention sometimes. 

im kinda confused. so uh. if theres any person on this forum thats somewhat knowledgable in psychology, i need to know if this is platonic or a crush.


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Reply by ☆.･.･:MUSTA.･.･:☆

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Hi! NOT A PSYCHOLOGIST! But I do know a little about crushes.
To me it seems more like a platonic crush, maybe an hiperfixation in them more than a romantic interest.
It could also be a romantic crush, but you do have to know that not all romantic crushes lead to a relationship or makes you want to have one with the person.
Some stuff you can ask yourself:

  • Are you attracted to their body, mind, clothes/style, none or all?
  • Do you want to have a different dinamic than what you have right now?
  • If that person said they also see you as a romantic interest, would it make you take a step back or go all in?
  • If you dont want to change your relationship and just feel attraction, do you wish to have more physical contact?

Hope these help! If you want to talk more about your trouble I'm all ears ⸜( ´ ꒳ ` )⸝


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Granted I'm not the best at advice, is it possible you're getting yourself worked up because this is new territory? You know, like getting excited you have someone close to you, naturally this will make you connect with them more if this is a new charter and you're excited to, maybe, have a really close best friend, and so the happy stage is enhancing your emotions? because if that's the case the tide will calm down and you'll learn to appreciate them as a really close friend, a trusting person.

I say this because recently I've been in the happiest stage of my life with my friend, we constantly put each other above ourselves, and to some people, romantic feelings may seem like they should fit in this situation, however when you realize it's okay to just really appreciate them as a person and now your partner, maybe the feelings you experience will go away. Romanatic feelings were always confusing for me to, so acknowledging not everything has to be in a romantic way gave me relief to just be okay with having a friend who totally gets me, and leaving it as that. 

IDK what your situation looks like anymore, because i did notice this was posted quite a time ago, I hope your situation has been cleared up.


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