Losing your virginity

Sounds like you need a partner based on what you posted. Get one and go from there :)

Well thats more easy to say than do hahah

i recommend stepping back and letting thigns happen as they happen

my first time wasn't anything to look back on anymore lol
it wasn't very fun for me either
i really don't think i was ready even tho i was a similar age
don't wait for THE ONE but wait for A ONE that makes you feel so comfortable
someone who cares for you and wants to take care of you

i´m someone who recklessly lost my virginity and really regretted it. i was sixteen and super in love with a really not great guy (that ended up abusing me lmao) who was clearly only using me for his sexual desires...but i was obsessed and also never ever been pursued by another man before so it was thrilling. the whole "relationship" ended up being very very messy and the sex was just one of the many bad parts. after that i kind of went spiraling and engaging in some other sexual encounters after that only to feel wanted. it messed me up big time, because i´m not really the person for one night stands or friends with benefits or antyhing of that nature to begin with. 

i really regret it and doing it with people i dont even feel safe with wasn´t the right choice. BUT this doesn´t have to be true for everyone, it´s just my experience. 

i ended up getting in a long term relationship and i waited quite some time (about a little over a year or so) to have my first time with my boyfriend. there was some petting before but never the real deal. it was an amazingly intimate experience to me and it truly felt right for me. love brings sex to a whole other level in my opinion. it didn´t go perfectly or movie-like at all and there was quite some struggling for sure but it wasn´t bad regardless because i trust and love him so much. 

in conclusion, my advice is to take your time and don´t feel pressured to lose your virginity. i understand, there´s probably some kind of curiousity maybe but don´t stress yourself. i lost mine at sixteen, but i´d much rather have lost it when i truely felt ready and truely wanted to (and not feel obligated to) i would also recommend to share this experience with someone you *trust* and feel comfortable with!

Thank you so much for replying to this. I feel I am not alone and that more people feel this way about sex. 

And sure I might post more of this theme :D

just do it

I feel really similar although I'm like ace. I do sexual things but going all the way is  1, scarry and 2 I just like the romance  part of it and not one night stands, I feel like if you really want to get more open you should try someone you trust or get into a relashenship (if you're not) and wait. its not smth to be ashamed of really, some people just wanna wait for the right person or just don't care who its with (no shade lol) just do what works for you

You should take your time to find someone who makes you feel calm, safe and in the enough confidence to do it. Sex isn’t just a way to get our bodies together, for me it’s a way to get your soul an heart into an intimate act. But if you wish to do it as soon as possible… just think about how you want to feel honey <3

Я думала абсолютно так же, пока в 18 у меня не появились первые серьёзные отношения. Парень очень заботливый, и к первому разу мы пришли постепенно. Главное - ваше желание, именно ваше, партнёр не должен давить на вас. И расслабленность, для этого должна быть возбуждённость. Когда он вошёл в меня первый раз, была кровь и очень больно. Кровь прошла примерно за пару часов, мы тогда остановились. А во второй, было терпимо, и в середине процесса я даже боль перестала чувствовать.

I lost mine to a boy I really loved but we were not dating and I wanted to be something more. Now I've been stuck in a situationship for almost 5 years with him and regret it everyday :[ I gave him what he wanted without him having to commit and now I think he never will.

I've always recommended waiting until a situation that YOU want. If you dont think you need to be in a relationship then great go ahead!! I just think that because its something so intimate and possibly scary, find someone you trust and love and talk about it first!! I know its easier said then done but who cares if it takes until your 20s?? I lost mine at 14 and have friends now who still havent done that stuff and totally dont judge them. Looking back I definitely would have done it so differently so I hope this helps someone out there. Kisses xx

Hii, I hope you are doing okay, sis!

I'm 20 soon to be 21 and honestly, just try going on dates, meet people that want a serious relationship and not a situationship or whatever that isn't a commitment bc it seem most people out there are only looking for fun and nothing else! Just like you, I'm also a virgin and it's nothing to be ashamed of! Everyone is different and goes through different stuff at their own pace so don't rush it just because of peer pressure. Stay true to yourself and what you truly want <3 I hope this little piece of advice helps you a tiny bit at least <3

Honestly just go with the flow whatever that is for you. Aswell as don't feel like your left out hook up culture is very rampant and many of those people will either regret or have different values so don't base ur own on there (no shame to either party i would be a hypocrite if i did)ust honestly make sure you dont feel pressure abt it if it means that much don't let it be one of those things to just "get over with" just chill out and let time and the right person stumble into your life man.

Take your time don't rush sex ,it sounds like you know what you want with being in a relationship before having sex and no one will judge you for that , it's okay to be a Virgin just take your time everyone does different things at different times and there is no shame in that, just stay safe and it should all go okay and try not to over think it too much,  hope this helped 

Hey!! I’m 20 and my previous relationship before the one i’m in currently made me realize that sex isn’t a solid thing in a relationship. make sure you set boundaries and communicate!!! you will know when it’s the right time, if im honest i didn’t care to set those and wished i did >_>… 

when me and my ex FIRST hung out it was the first thing he wanted to do, not even an hour in to the hang out. i knew i could have said no but it was my first time experiencing any kind of “sexual” thrill that wasn’t by myself; i was intrigued, but scared. you have your entire life to experience things, savor them, make the most of it!! before you find a partner make sure you have what you need in a relationship and your boundaries set and settled. the right person will make their way to you, trust! you got this^^