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How Does One. Make and Keep Friends .

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Like. I know how to be friendly towards people and get them to like me, but I can never actually keep anyone interested in me for that long. If that makes sense.
I'm always the one initiating conversations - no one ever reaches out to me first. It's like if I never message them, they'll just forget I exist or something.

How do you keep people coming back to you? How do you make yourself interesting enough to where people want to be in your presence? To hang out and play games and what not?
Any advice on how to make real-life friends would also help a lot, as I have None and Don't Know How to talk to strangers w/o being afraid of them secretly being malicious xp


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The best advice I have is to just do a lot of stuff. Go to interest groups, conventions, Sports. People like other people that do things. Sadly, the best way to make friends is meeting a lot of people. I have a job were I meet a new person every day and you VERY quickly figure out you will NOT vibe with everyone. Even if they seem like a nice person. It's a numbers game. 

On the keeping friends front. That's just how it is. Friends come and go. People only go out of their way for people they REALLY want to talk to. Very rare to end open as one of those people. But you can make it less rare for you by knowing a lot of people. 

Try to self reflect on what you say and how it comes off to other people. You don't want to be angry and disagreeable but you don't want to have no personality either.  

Maybe applicable or not for you because I don't know your situation but I will always prioritize family over friends. Family will be there forever. Friends change with the wind. imo

I don't know if this helps at all. We are in the same boat. Keeping friends is really hard and at this point it seems like high turnover rate friendships is just how it is for everyone. I wouldn't take any of it personally. Most people are busy managing their own lives.

Good luck out there!


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