During my time at school starting from 4th grade, I started having issues socially in developing friendships and other things despite being a straight A student. The problems got worse in Middle school where I was being bullied and reporting to the school staff was useless since they wouldn't handle said issues. So I would like to ask has anyone experienced any issues or were bullied in school as a result of autism/neurodivergence?
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Has anyone experienced difficulties in school due to Autism?
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Reply by ☆Sunny Daze☆
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i've also been in that kind of situation where I've been bullied but the staff does nothing and if they do anything they would just take both me and the other person into the principal's office and they still do nothing about it. so I can't recommend anything else to do about it
Reply by Leah ‼️‼️
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I think the main “problem” (autism is not a problem) is how people view autistic people or people generally on the spectrum:(
The kids at my school don’t think I can be autistic because I’m smart and speak well, etc and that’s a really bad stereotype. They also tend to make fun of people with words like “acoustic” because apparently that’s funny? 
Another problem for certain districts (I’m looking at you CCSD) is that they ignore IEP’s a lot, so having autism or being on the spectrum is definitely something I always end up fighting for.
Keep working! I hope you figure this out
Reply by Ph1n345 :P
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I stopped goin 2 skool in october last yr bc I couldnt handle it :( tryna get it all sorted out b4 i gotta do gsces'
Reply by Steph ✿˖°
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In general, i notice it a lot. No one talks to me and we get casted as the "weird people". In germany here even teachers might criticize you more than other because you dont act öike how they expect you to
Reply by Mika/Meike
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Yes. I was bullied for being autistic. And it makes it difficult for me because im In special education. And I also almost got EXPELLED for trying to defend myself from a bully, and if it wasn't for my IEP, I would've gotten expelled. It's very scary to be sped for me, cuz we're always treated differently and I don't like it
Reply by 𝖑𝖆𝖎𝖑𝖆
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Yes. When i was in public school I honestly hated it. Especially because I would have a really hard time making and keeping friends and staying out of trouble. And I couldn’t stand it. Now that I do online, yes I still feel isolated but it’s fine. It’s fine because I’m taking school more seriously and trying in all my classes and I get to graduate early depending on how I’m doing and it turns out I’m doing great.
Reply by ThatOneGoblinShark
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I'm sorry for your rough experience. School staff really seem to be so unequipped to handle autistic students... I also had a lot of trouble.
I struggled with making friends throughout the entirety of my schooling. I could never initiate, and always had to wait for other (typically neurodivergent) kids to find me. I was struggling with severe social anxiety (to the point of physical problems) and selective as long as I could remember, and I was simply told I'd grow out of it. My anxious and off-putting demeanor really solidified my reputation of being odd and really hurt my chances of making friends.
Middle school was when I really started to feel the growing pains. I was not bullied in an outright sense, and instead most people kind of treated me like a dog they'd throw scraps to because they feel bad for it. Teachers and my peers would talk to me in a tone someone would use for a small child or animal, so I stopped trusting any friendliness. I couldn't tell if it was genuine or if I was being condescended, so I pulled away entirely.
Highschool was when things really fell apart. My best friend --- who was essentially my social bumper --- moved away and I was left entirely alone. I was burnt out, I couldn't socialize, I could barely talk. I'd go home and be unable to eat or sleep, just lay there for hours and hours trying to recover. I hated myself, felt so broken and like a failure as I felt my teen years slipping away from me. The self-loathing became so severe, I couldn't leave the house without severe panic attacks, and I truly didn't want to exist anymore.
If it weren't for us being in the modern day, I'd have dropped out of highschool. Instead I was lucky enough to be able to switch online where I barely graduated. I was diagnosed with autism maybe a year after I switched to online (I'm 19, nearly 20). That diagnosis was a lot. Because it made me realize that I could never "fix" what was wrong with me, which caused a lot of despair... but it also finally gave me the tools to take hold of my anxiety and manually learn to acclimate.
I wonder how things would have changed if I'd been diagnosed earlier and had the support I needed. I'll forever mourn the years I lost and how far behind others my age I am, but can't change the past.
You're not alone, and things will get easier. We have our weaknesses, but we also have our strengths, and we can find community in other autistic people.
Reply by Milo
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yess i struggled from ages 6-19 because of it:( i didn't get my diagnosis until i was 15 going on 16 but i always knew something was different about me and people treated me like i was a different species to them