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For the record, "Mark" and his wife are couple friends of my GF (F 29) and me (F 32)
About a year ago, Mark lost his job and hasn't been able to find a new one until about a month ago. And I get the impression this job is not as lucrative as his previous job - but I'm not sure.
About three months ago, his wife left him. They have two kids, two and four.
Anyway, me, my GF, Mark and a few other friends went out drinking.
He started by complaining his wife was b$#@ because she left him because he was unemployed.
Except I know his wife wanted him to stop looking for FT jobs, and only look for jobs he can do from home - and they keep the two year old home from daycare to save money.
I told him that no, his wife probably left him because he hasn't been doing his fair share in the house. She's been making jokes for ages about him "living like a teenager" until he has to pick up the kids at four (he then takes care of them until mom comes home/ they go to bed).
I also know she's been wanting to get rid of their cleaner until he finds a job (GF and I don't have a cleaner, so the issue has come up).
He said no, she just lost respect for him because he wasn't bringing in any money, and the rest was just excuses.
Anyway, we had a fight.
My GF thinks I was an AH for getting involved + we really don't know all the details.
The friends are split, some say it's true, women always leave men when they stop providing and I wouldn't understand because I'm a lesbian (edited, because apparently the word gay was too confusing). Others think I was right, but I shouldn't have gotten involved + it ruined the night out.
I think he needed a reality check.
Thoughts? AITA?
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