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What is your gender?


What are your pronouns?


When did you first realise you were trans?


Did you change your name?


Are you out to your family?


Are you out to your friends?


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?


Do you have trans friends?


Did your sexuality change when you came out?


Did/do you take hormones?


Do you have penis envy?


Do you plan on medically transitioning?


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?


Who gives you the most gender envy?


Any tips for passing?


Do you wish you were never born trans?


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Reply by eddie

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What is your gender? male.


What are your pronouns? he/him


When did you first realise you were trans? when i was 11.


Did you change your name? multiple times. 


Are you out to your family? yes. 


Are you out to your friends? yes. 


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)? family- dads side were supportive. mums side were not. my friends are supportive. 


Do you have trans friends? used to. not friends with them anymore 


Did your sexuality change when you came out? after a couple years. 


Did/do you take hormones? wish, englands a bitch


Do you have penis envy? yes, in my dreams i have one. it sucks cus i know i dont have one. 


Do you plan on medically transitioning? yes, as soon as possible. 


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)? no, im still a a loser at my school, some people call me slurs now though. 


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols? hmm...will graham from hannibal and jake peralta from brooklyn 99


Who gives you the most gender envy? either aziraphale from good omens, spike from buffy the vampire slayer or john bender from the breakfast club. 


Any tips for passing? fades work so well,  roadman clothing too. but its such a shit style. 


Do you wish you were never born trans? every. day. 


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Reply by seijatachi

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What is your gender? Trans Male

What are your pronouns? He/Him

When did you first realise you were trans? When I was 16

Did you change your name? Yes

Are you out to your family? No

Are you out to your friends? Some of them

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)? They didn't mind!

Do you have trans friends? Only one!

Did your sexuality change when you came out? I went from a lesbian to straight. Still attracted to the same gender (women) but I had to change the specific label.

Did/do you take hormones? No

Do you have penis envy? Yes lul

Do you plan on medically transitioning? To an extent

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)? N/A

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols? Not that I can think of rn

Who gives you the most gender envy? I'm not sure! A few characters, usually from video games

Any tips for passing? Hair cut is very important!

Do you wish you were never born trans? I would've preferred to be a cis man. 


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Reply by silly!!! :3

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What is your gender?

nyanbinary + all my xenoz (which i wont get in2 bc there r LOTZ)

What are your pronouns?

it/itz, they/them, or any neoz

When did you first realise you were trans?

umm middle zchool-izh i think

Did you change your name?

ye! a couple tiemz actually

Are you out to your family?

...mozt of em

Are you out to your friends?

bold of u 2 azzume i hav frenz

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

my mom waz zupr chill abt it, my dad only knowz abt the nonbinary (not the nyanbinary or xenoz) but hez .... trying

Do you have trans friends?

wen i did hav frenz they were all tranz

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

im aroace zo no

Did/do you take hormones?

not old enough wher i liv :[

Do you have penis envy?

only on nonhuman characterz. yk the tentabulgez from homeztuck? thoz were my firzt

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

i havnt decided yet. i dont wanna hav 2 relearn all my funny voicez 4 my bitz ..... pluz the men on ma dadz zide r really ugly. i mean REALLY. fuckin. ugly. they age zo fast bro liek my dad lookd 40 in high zchool

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

n/a

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

donatello iz ftm in every verzion of tmnt. mikey iz genderfluid in every version of tmnt. raph iz mtf in 1987, mtf in 2003, a demiboy in 2012, and bigender in rize. leo iz a demigirl in 2003, mtf in 2012, and ftm in rize

Who gives you the most gender envy?

zcemo ppl w hair that coverz their eyez <333

Any tips for passing?

n/a

Do you wish you were never born trans?

zumtiemz i wizh i waz nevr born @ all, doez that count? lol


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Reply by Skell

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What is your gender?:

Nonbinary!


What are your pronouns?:

They/them


When did you first realise you were trans?:

I didn't know the word for it at the time, but I was probably 16.


Did you change your name?:

Yup!


Are you out to your family?:

Sort of! I told them, but they don't respect it.


Are you out to your friends?:

Some of them.


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?:

Family doesn't recognise it, and the friends I've told are like 'yeah, duh, makes sense.'


Do you have trans friends?:

Yup!


Did your sexuality change when you came out?:

Nah, still the same ol' bisexual.


Did/do you take hormones?:

Nah.


Do you have penis envy?:

No.


Do you plan on medically transitioning?:

I don't know! Idk how that works for someone who is neither a man or a woman.


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?:

Yes! People are a lot more hostile, usually. (snide remarks, or just disregard my pronouns, etc)

Even some trans people don't include me in their circles! (wild)


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?:

Wally Darling from Welcome Home is a transman, I will not accept anything else /hj.


Who gives you the most gender envy?:

Bloody Brendon Urie.


Any tips for passing?:

Lol, you don't need to be 'passing.' Your journey as a trans person is all based on you at what you love about yourself. You can be a man and still wear dresses! You can be a woman who wears boxers! Gender is but nonsense! Have fun with it!


Do you wish you were never born trans?:

Nope! I do wish society was nicer to us, tho.


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Reply by Robyn

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What is your gender?

Female

What are your pronouns?

She/Her

When did you first realise you were trans?

When I was 15

Did you change your name?

Yes to Robyn

Are you out to your family?

No not yet but I'm planning to

Are you out to your friends?

Yes all of them

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

My friends were all really supportive which I'm really grateful for

Do you have trans friends?

Yes I have a few

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

No not really

Did/do you take hormones?

Not yet

Do you have penis envy?

Opposite for me

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

Yes

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

Yeah there's a lot of transphobia in the world which is really upsetting but I try and deal with it

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

I'm not sure if she counts as a good role model but Hunter Schafer gives me a lot of confidence with how successful she is as a trans person

Who gives you the most gender envy?

Cis girls

Do you wish you were never born trans?

I'm maybe proud that I'm trans but I would do anything to be born a cis girl instead of this



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Reply by jaxxophone

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What is your gender?

nonbinary!!

What are your pronouns?

they/them, sometimes he/him

When did you first realise you were trans?

kinda forever?? deffo realized i was Not A Girl in late middle/early highschool and for certain trans during quarantine

Did you change your name?

ye :]

Are you out to your family?

HA no

Are you out to your friends?

yeah, most of them!!

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

they were all chill with it my friends totally rock

Do you have trans friends?

yeah!! shout out to that guy <3

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

uhh not really?? not cause of that specifically at least

Did/do you take hormones?

if only but no

Do you have penis envy?

lol yeah

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

definitely!! money permitting lol

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

i'm not a girl but i definitely admire philosophy tube

Who gives you the most gender envy?

lil nas x and jarvis johnson. i could literally look like those guys but i don't and it's terrible lmao

Any tips for passing?

i don't pass well myself but honestly don't even worry about it. passing is cool but nothing is cooler than feeling good about yourself!!!

Do you wish you were never born trans?

honestly no, if i were born cis that'd be great but i like who i am now :]


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Reply by L8kemz

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What is your gender?

Male



What are your pronouns?


He/It


When did you first realise you were trans?


I always felt like a boy but it never really clicked until I was about 10 If I remember correctly


Did you change your name?


Yes


Are you out to your family?


Yes


Are you out to your friends?


Yes


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?


Family wasn't as accepting at first, but later warned up to it

Friends always had a suspicion which was a little bit funny


Do you have trans friends?

Yes


Did your sexuality change when you came out?


Not really


Did/do you take hormones?


No


Do you have penis envy?


I don't think I do?


Do you plan on medically transitioning?


Yes



Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?


Briggite (Headcanon: MTF, Overwatch),  Profily (Canonly NB, BFB), Gaty (Canonly MTF, BFB), Gerbo (Headcanon: NB, Bugbo) 


Who gives you the most gender envy?


Gabriel (TMC)


Any tips for passing?

BAGGY CLOTHING!!! 


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Reply by vulgarkatt

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What is your gender?
Non-Binary / Agender

What are your pronouns?
They/Them, Xe/Xem/Xyr, and It/Its

When did you first realise you were trans?
Technically when I was around 16, but I forced myself to believe I was cis up until I was around 22

Did you change your name?
Yes but not legally yet

Are you out to your family?
Yes, but they don't really acknowledge it

Are you out to your friends?
Yes and they're all super supportive

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?
Kinda saw it coming tbh

Do you have trans friends?
90% of my friend group is trans LMFAO

Did your sexuality change when you came out?
Mmm...my sexuality has changed since I came out but my gender wasn't part of it

Did/do you take hormones?
Nah

Do you have penis envy?
Verrrryyyy rarely

Do you plan on medically transitioning?
Nah not unless top dysphoria ever kicks in hardcore

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?
Sometimes, but only when I'm putting in the effort to appear masc

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?
My biggest one is that Catra from She-Ra (2018) is a non-binary lesbian :)

Who gives you the most gender envy?
Envy from FMAB; I wanna look like and be him SO BAD T^T

Any tips for passing?
Not really since I don't really have a gender I try and pass for

Do you wish you were never born trans?
Sometimes only because it gets overwhelming with everything regarding trans and enby folks politically nowadays :/


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Reply by Miles

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What is your gender?

trans male

What are your pronouns?

he/they

When did you first realise you were trans?

when i was 4

Did you change your name?

yes

Are you out to your family?

yes

Are you out to your friends?

yes

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

they didnt care that much

Do you have trans friends?

yes

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

no i was already omni

Did/do you take hormones?

no but i want to

Do you have penis envy?

yes but mine is already 56 inches 

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

yes

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

social transitioning is hard bc no one respects you

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

donni darko

Who gives you the most gender envy?

spiderman

Any tips for passing?

confidence 

Do you wish you were never born trans?

i wish i was born a boy


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Reply by swaghaver

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What is your gender?
male

What are your pronouns?
he/him

When did you first realise you were trans?
age ten, when a friend told me about lgbtq and i looked into it and realized i resonated with some trans identities. there were also plenty of times before then where i felt like maybe i was a little not cis but i didn't know the term for it. but then i proceeded to repress it bc i didn't want to accept that :3

Did you change your name?
yep!

Are you out to your family?
a few cousins

Are you out to your friends?
yes

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?
some of em were surprised, others expected it. because some of em have known me for so long, they struggled getting the name and pronouns down, but they eventually got it.

Do you have trans friends?
yep! a couple

Did your sexuality change when you came out?
i originally thought i was a lesbian but now i feel more attracted to men. i don't label it though because

Did/do you take hormones?
not yet

Do you plan on medically transitioning?
i'd like to. top surgery may be easier to get first, but i do intend to get hormones one way or another.

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?
not anyone specifically, but scrolling through r/TransLater makes me very happy. i may not be able to get hormones as soon as i'd like (financial shit), so i like knowing that even if i can't transition soon, there's people that also haven't that are still super happy with their transitions

Any tips for passing?
hair goes a long way.

Do you wish you were never born trans?

absolutely. would be so much easier


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Reply by ggeneralgrunt

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What is your gender?

male

What are your pronouns?

he/him

When did you first realise you were trans?

umm 9 but then i repressed it for a year. i kind of always knew thoo? like in the back of my mind ;-;

Did you change your name?

yes. had a very feminine name b4 ;(

Are you out to your family?

yes

Are you out to your friends?

yes

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

family: terrible and traumatizing | friends: good, turns out they were trans too

Do you have trans friends?

yes

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

uhh no? i was questioning b4 so idk

Did/do you take hormones?

no

Do you have penis envy?

yea

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

yes

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

N/A

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

oh god lots. my brain is dead so cant think of much rn, but i project onto all my favs X3

Who gives you the most gender envy?

random cis boys i pass on the street

Any tips for passing?

umm learn typical male body language and cut ur hair short

Do you wish you were never born trans?

yes :(


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Reply by Lance

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What is your gender? non-binary transmasc


What are your pronouns? he/they


When did you first realize you were trans? probably around 16


Did you change your name? yes


Are you out to your family? yes


Are you out to your friends? yes


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)? friends were fine, family is half and half


Do you have trans friends? yes


Did your sexuality change when you came out? kind of


Did/do you take hormones? been on t about 5 years


Do you have penis envy? no


Do you plan on medically transitioning? I have


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)? most definitely 


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols? yes


Who gives you the most gender envy? Buck Angel


Any tips for passing? be confident


Do you wish you were never born trans? eh sometimes


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Reply by will

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What is your gender?

trans masculine 

What are your pronouns?

he/him

When did you first realise you were trans?

when i was a freshman in highschool

Did you change your name?

yup

Are you out to your family?

yup, but they’re not supportive

Are you out to your friends?

yup

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

my parents weren’t happy, but my friends were and still are super supportive of me

Do you have trans friends?

yup

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

no, my sexuality is unlabeled

Did/do you take hormones?

i take hormone balancers (idk what they’re actually called) because of a hormone condition i have, not to transition 

Do you have penis envy?

ya

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

yup

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

yeah, when i first started at my job i still looked very feminine and didn’t pass at all, but wore a name tag with the name “will” on it, i got a lot of questions about it. i’ve since shaved my head and gotten an actual binder so i pass pretty well now

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

i don’t think so

Who gives you the most gender envy?

a LOT of people but mainly awsten knight, idk i wanna look like him

Any tips for passing?

uh funky button ups are great they make me look super flat, also just anything baggy, try to get a masc haircut, or just shave your head like me lol

Do you wish you were never born trans?

sometimes, but i’m proud to be out as trans and be confident in who i am and not letting anything anyone says change that


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Reply by will

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What is your gender?

trans masculine 

What are your pronouns?

he/him

When did you first realise you were trans?

when i was a freshman in highschool

Did you change your name?

yup

Are you out to your family?

yup, but they’re not supportive

Are you out to your friends?

yup

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

my parents weren’t happy, but my friends were and still are super supportive of me

Do you have trans friends?

yup

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

no, my sexuality is unlabeled

Did/do you take hormones?

i take hormone balancers (idk what they’re actually called) because of a hormone condition i have, not to transition 

Do you have penis envy?

ya

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

yup

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

yeah, when i first started at my job i still looked very feminine and didn’t pass at all, but wore a name tag with the name “will” on it, i got a lot of questions about it. i’ve since shaved my head and gotten an actual binder so i pass pretty well now

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

i don’t think so

Who gives you the most gender envy?

a LOT of people but mainly awsten knight, idk i wanna look like him

Any tips for passing?

uh funky button ups are great they make me look super flat, also just anything baggy, try to get a masc haircut, or just shave your head like me lol

Do you wish you were never born trans?

sometimes, but i’m proud to be out as trans and be confident in who i am and not letting anything anyone says change that


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Reply by Arik Ozotf

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What is your gender? Male

What are your pronouns? He/him/they

When did you first realise you were trans?  I did not feel like a girl as a kid but I didn't have the words so I didn't think about it. I started realizing that I was seen as one at 12, and it annoyed me. Settled on nonbinary at 14.

Did you change your name? Not legally, but socially. Extended version of nickname which rooted from incorrect pronunciation of deadname. Fun origins /srs

Are you out to your family? Yes

Are you out to your friends? Yes

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)? All eventually accepted me. Some got on really quickly with the pronouns, which was a relief. And some kept messing up and trying to defend themselves. The mistakes aren't annoying, their defenses were.

Do you have trans friends? I have one.

Did your sexuality change when you came out? Went from lesbian to heteroflexible. As I transition, I can get over envy and appreciate the personality of everyone.

Did/do you take hormones? No, planning to.

Do you plan on medically transitioning? Yes. T is in the process, top surgery is planned, and bottom surgery I originally planned, but I will see how I feel down the line when I am less dysphoric.

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)? Sometimes people treat me as a little weird when I try and fail to pass. 

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols? Headcanon Cirno as transmasc nonbinary purely for comfort.

Who gives you the most gender envy? Enrico Pucci and random skinny cis guys I see.

Any tips for passing? Appear more chill. Meaning be more confident, put less energy into your stances and movements, and appear slightly apathetic.

Do you wish you were never born trans? Yes. I haven't gained enough in my life to say otherwise. Although I guess I do have the ability to empathize with trans people on a level cis people can't, I'd rather be born a guy.


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Reply by zombiieluv

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What is your gender? genderfluid !!


What are your pronouns? he/him


When did you first realise you were trans? around 9 


Did you change your name? yes... many times 


Are you out to your family? no


Are you out to your friends? yes


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)? no


Do you have trans friends? yes


Did your sexuality change when you came out? yes


Did/do you take hormones? no


Do you have penis envy? yes?  i think


Do you plan on medically transitioning? yes


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols? yes !! if i like a character their trans, ion make tha rulez 


Who gives you the most gender envy? johnnie guilbert


Any tips for passing? uuuhhhhhhhhh


Do you wish you were never born trans? yes all the time 


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Reply by slippy

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What is your gender?

genderfluid

What are your pronouns?

he/they

When did you first realise you were trans?

i considered it at 12 but i only rlly knew at 16

Did you change your name?

nop

Are you out to your family?

sorta but not rlly

Are you out to your friends?

yezza

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?


Do you have trans friends?

yes

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

nop

Did/do you take hormones?

nop

Do you have penis envy?

absolutely

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

maybe

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

hmmmmm i dont think so, maybe just alan from barbie lol

Who gives you the most gender envy?

frank iero maybe, just any scrawny teen/20s emo boy rlly

Any tips for passing?

(trans masc) straight leg jeans that sit on ur hips, sock as a packer

Do you wish you were never born trans?

absolutely


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Reply by tisteatime

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What is your gender?

male, i also identify with one xenogender (generigender)



What are your pronouns?

he/him



When did you first realise you were trans?

4th or 5th grade, i didn't have the word to describe how i felt and just thought i was crazy though



Did you change your name?

yes



Are you out to your family?

yes



Are you out to your friends?

yes



What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

my family isn't supportive but like they don't care if as an afult i transition or change my name, my friends are mostly trans and thus are fully supportive



Do you have trans friends?

yeah, the majority of my friendgroup



Did your sexuality change when you came out?

i mean it didn't change but i did realize i was bi and not lesbian (i am now in a relationship with a guy)



Did/do you take hormones?

no but holy shit do i wish i did



Do you have penis envy?

fuck yeah, i want a goddamn dick and it feels weird that i don't



Do you plan on medically transitioning?

yes absolutely 100% asap



Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

i'm socially transitioned and i feel like people view me as like... delicate? if thta makes sense? almost like they have to walk on eggshells around me



Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

cesare from bigtop burger is trans bc i said so and i love elyotto's music if that counts as an idol lol



Who gives you the most gender envy?

peter murphy from bauhaus, rozz williams from christian death, jonny slut from specimen, and robert smith from the cure



Any tips for passing?

if your transmasc talking in a monotone voice helps you be percieved as masculine even if the voice is pretty high pitched



Do you wish you were never born trans?

i... honestly don't know. on one hand, i like who i am, but also god i wish i was born as a cis guy. i want to experience the childhood of a boy, i want to go through male puberty, i want to be able to be feminine without being viewed as a woman or a "trender". i wish i didn't have to go through the dysphoria i have, or the belief that i was a freak i held prior to knowing what transness was. but also, i like me, and don't really know if i'd want to change something fundamental about myself


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Reply by xX_z4n4_Xx

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What is your gender?

genderfluid (not really trans but under the umbrella)

What are your pronouns?

all of them idrc

When did you first realise you were trans?

I don't know I never really felt like a girl but in 2020 (15y) the feeling became stronger

Did you change your name?

nope, my name is rare and i think it fits all genders :)

Are you out to your family?

no my parents would be okay with it but i'm scared of other members of my family bc I love them but they would never accept me :(

Are you out to your friends?

one of them!! 

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

my friend is cool with it!!!

Do you have trans friends?

the friend i came out to is agender!!

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

kind of but not because of my gender... i used to think I was pan but im aroace lolz

Did/do you take hormones?

no :(

Do you have penis envy?

YEZZ OMG I WANT ONE

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

idk since im genderfluid i do want too

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

/

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

YES diper from gravity falls, also i do not believe Butters is 100% cis 

Who gives you the most gender envy?

Jeff the killer... also Dazai from BSD 

Any tips for passing?

uhm not really sorry

Do you wish you were never born trans?

yes honestly it's draining sometimes...


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Reply by Arctic

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  1. What is your gender?
    Transmasc nonbinary guy

  2. What are your pronouns?
    he/they

  3. When did you first realize you were trans?
    I had known since about 8 years old that something was off in the gender department, but I knew next to nothing about anything LGBT until I was around 14, and that's when I figured out I was trans.

  4. Did you change your name?
    Legally? No. Unofficially? Sorta. I still don't really know what my name is, and I've been searching for almost 10 years now lmao.

  5. Are you out to your family?
    Partially. Immediate biological family knows, but none of my step family knows.

  6. Are you out to your friends?
    Yes

  7. What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?
    My dad was "supportive", but in reality he just ignores it lol. But honestly it's probably the best outcome I could've asked for, so I'm chill with it.
    My brothers were supportive, much more than my dad.
    My grandparents (who basically acted as my parents growing up, so I include them in "immediate family") were supportive and literally just told me they weren't surprised LMAO.

  8. Do you have trans friends?
    All 3 of my close friends are trans.

  9. Did your sexuality change when you came out?
    I didn't even know my sexuality before coming out, so... Technically it didn't?

  10. Did/do you take hormones?
    I took testosterone for a handful of months a few years ago. I ended up stopping and putting it on hold for mental heath reasons and to also give me more time to figure out what I really want in my transition.

  11. Do you have penis envy?
    No lol. Honestly they seem really inconvenient, so I'll gladly continue life dick-free.

  12. Do you plan on medically transitioning?
    Partially, maybe. The most likely medical transition thing I'd pursue would be top surgery. But even then, who knows!

  13. Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?
    Yes. I get picked by TSA for pat-downs and additional searches more often than the average person. I've been indirectly threatened with violence. I've been followed by the staff of places into the bathroom to make sure I was going into the "correct" one. People tend to treat me in an awkward manner as I pass as pretty androgynous, so they aren't sure what to do with me. Etc, etc.

  14. Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?
     Headcanons: 
    Chuuya Nakahara from BSD is a trans man <3
    Sigma from BSD is nonbinary <3
    Link from LoZ: BotW/TotK is nonbinary and had top surgery without nipple grafts, so that's why he has none <3
    Zelda from LoZ as a whole is genderfluid <3
     Idols:
     
    I don't care for celebrities and the like <3

  15. Who gives you the most gender envy?
    ... Kanae from NIJISANJI

  16. Any tips for passing?
    Be conventionally attractive or play into certain gender stereotypes so heavily there's no room for guessing </3. But actually, I don't have any real tips. Just make sure you're safe, and if anyone tries to be a jackass to you, I give you permission to go for the jugular :)

  17. Do you wish you were never born trans?
    Sometimes, yeah. Though even if I was AMAB, I think I'd still be trans. I'm not enough of a guy to feel comfortable being treated as a binary man. So to no longer be trans, I'd have to be another gender, too.


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Reply by frankie ♱

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What is your gender?

male (ftm)

What are your pronouns?

he/him

When did you first realise you were trans?

maybe 13 years old? im 16 now.

Did you change your name?

Yes.

Are you out to your family?

Hell no.

Are you out to your friends?

Hell yes.

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

they lowkey did not care.

Do you have trans friends?

Yes.

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

No. (Bi pride stand up)

Did/do you take hormones?

No.

Do you have penis envy?

Sometimes.

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

When im an adult :)

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

Not really.

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

Nico Di Angelo from PJO :)

Who gives you the most gender envy?

not anyone i can think of rn.

Any tips for passing?

dont EVER use tape that isnt specifically for binding or bind unsafely.

Do you wish you were never born trans?

Sometimes.


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Reply by Bones 0-\\

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What is your gender? Male

What are your pronouns? He/they 

When did you first realize you were trans? late 12's to early 13's

Did you change your name? I've gone through plenty of name's but I've found one that really sticks with me

Are you out to your family? Only to my sister

Are you out to your friends? Online yes, I don't have any in person friends 

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)? My friend's are supportive

Do you have trans friends? I do

Did your sexuality change when you came out? Sort of?

Did/do you take hormones? I'm unable to :(

Do you have penis envy? Yeah

Do you plan on medically transitioning? I hope to be able to someday

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)? I'm only out to my close social media friends and sister, I'm unable to come out at school/in public because of the way my parents would react

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols? Plenty of them

Who gives you the most gender envy? Gerard Way 100%

Any tips for passing? I barely pass myself haha

Do you wish you were never born trans? I wish I were born a cis male


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Reply by animals

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What is your gender?

male

What are your pronouns?

he/him :D

When did you first realise you were trans?

at most, since elementary; i did not know you could be trans until i was 11.

Did you change your name?

yes, but not legally yet

Are you out to your family?

not all of them lol! (Dread.) only my parents.

Are you out to your friends?

yess. but not online unless i say it outwardly or if they ask.

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

my friends or family? both were a bit slow. my friends were accepting; some didn't understand initially. family, not so much in the beginning (it has been about a year or so since i came out to my parents and theyve mostly warmed up to it i think. my dad still sees me as a woman but he's been better about using my name :) ).

Do you have trans friends?

i have trans acquaintances. i dont keep people super close in general

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

nope!

Did/do you take hormones?

not yet. i wish...................................... might have to go through online providers like plume or something... mfw..

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

yesss

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

i still get treated like a girl lol and the only way ive been able to transition is socially. luckily no one outside my family has done the whole 'oh you should love your body as it is.....' 'dont transition pleeeasee youre such a pretty giirrllll.' people i know irl have been really chill with it (surprisingly, for a quite conservative area)

Who gives you the most gender envy?

i dont know <3 biggest ones this year were harrier du bois and kim kitsuragi. other than that, any fictional middle aged man and irl guys in their thirties. almost anyone in the world at this point.

Do you wish you were never born trans?

only when i feel really bad. feeling that way was suuuper common when i first accepted it myself but lately ive been a lot better in that regard.


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Reply by ✿moths.asleep✿

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What is your gender?

Nonbinary / transmasc


What are your pronouns?

They/it + flower neos


When did you first realise you were trans?

When I was around fourteen, fifteen?

But I’ve been rejecting being female since I was around ten. Just didn’t know what being trans / enby was


Did you change your name?

Yes


Are you out to your family?

Yes, but no


Are you out to your friends?

Yeah


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

I realise I have no real recollection


Do you have trans friends?

Yuh


Did your sexuality change when you came out?

I had already been guessing, but didn’t really care. I’m now out as aroace, as I feel that fits me best


Did/do you take hormones?

No


Do you have penis envy?

No.

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

GIVE ME TITTY REMOVAL PLEASEEEE

THATS ALL I WANT


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

Yeah. People at school and family suck sometimes


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

No idols. But I look up to many lads who are <3

As for headcanons, yes. Many.


Who gives you the most gender envy?

Hanabishi from Chinchikurin


Any tips for passing?

Fuck norms, be who you please.


Do you wish you were never born trans?

Nah I’m chilling


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Reply by ✿moths.asleep✿

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What is your gender?

Nonbinary / transmasc


What are your pronouns?

They/it + flower neos


When did you first realise you were trans?

When I was around fourteen, fifteen?

But I’ve been rejecting being female since I was around ten. Just didn’t know what being trans / enby was


Did you change your name?

Yes


Are you out to your family?

Yes, but no


Are you out to your friends?

Yeah


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

I realise I have no real recollection


Do you have trans friends?

Yuh


Did your sexuality change when you came out?

I had already been guessing, but didn’t really care. I’m now out as aroace, as I feel that fits me best


Did/do you take hormones?

No


Do you have penis envy?

No.

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

GIVE ME TITTY REMOVAL PLEASEEEE

THATS ALL I WANT


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

Yeah. People at school and family suck sometimes


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

No idols. But I look up to many lads who are <3

As for headcanons, yes. Many.


Who gives you the most gender envy?

Hanabishi from Chinchikurin


Any tips for passing?

Fuck norms, be who you please.


Do you wish you were never born trans?

Nah I’m chilling


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Reply by Demorenai1

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What is your gender?

Male

What are your pronouns?

He/Him

When did you first realise you were trans?

10

Did you change your name?

Legally, I wish

Are you out to your family?

Yeah

Are you out to your friends?

Also yes

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

Some thought I was silly but still respected me and others straight up respected me.

Do you have trans friends?

Nah, online I do tho.

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

Nah, ace and uhh don't need the other label as always.

Did/do you take hormones?

No, I eat them.

Do you have penis envy?

Nah, idc rlly

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

Yeah,only top and hormones cz i dont need bottom

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

Yeah

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

Yuppp

Who gives you the most gender envy?

My bf (he is very pretty)

Any tips for passing?

More stinky = more masc/s 

Do you wish you were never born trans?

If I wasn't born trans I would still be trans but the other way LOL ( like gender-bend me would be a trans gal ) ,if I wasn't trans tho I would probs be a feminist or like a very girlboss type ,if i was a cis man tho I would still be like very gay ( im very gay still in this life )



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Reply by vialvalentine

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What is your gender?

gnc agender

What are your pronouns?

ze/hir, xe/xem, occasionally he/him

When did you first realise you were trans?

could be earlier but i first used the label at 11 yrs old (i am 18 now)

Did you change your name?

yes. (working on legal change)

Are you out to your family?

yes, but it wasn't my decision at first

Are you out to your friends?

yea

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

family: either very unsupportive or just didn't know anything about it, dad threatened to kick me out time and time again

friends: my friends now are all cool with it. but i have lost former and potential friends over it

Do you have trans friends?

yes

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

no. i don't believe my sexuality ever "changed" i just think i found better words to describe it

Did/do you take hormones?

i am hoping to start after February (we'll see, appt. keeps getting rescheduled.)

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

i am going to

Do you wish you were never born trans?

yes but mostly no. i don't heavily associate myself back to humanity anyway and things would be complicated either way. even so, i would've rather been amab just based off some aspects of dysphoria.


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Reply by Aradia

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What is your gender?

Transfem!

What are your pronouns?

She/they

When did you first realise you were trans?

About 20

Did you change your name?

Yup! Took the name of a witch

Are you out to your family?

Yuppers

Are you out to your friends?

Yuuuup

What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

Mum & little brother were cool about it, the rest of my family not so much. Most of my friends were pretty supportive but some of them got really nasty about it.
Also I lost my job :p

Do you have trans friends?

Yeah, a couple IRL & a few online. You have to *really* go searching for people IRL though.

Did your sexuality change when you came out?

Nope! I've always been bi as hell lmao

Did/do you take hormones?

Yup, intramuscular estradiol cypionate.

Do you have penis envy?

Transfem so,, no :v

Do you plan on medically transitioning?

Yeah, but the surgeries are expensive.

Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

Yeahhhh, I lost my job & finding work that I'm not discriminated in became *really* difficult. I get a few odd comments on the street/shithead teenagers shout at me & I have to be careful at night or when there's a public event like a football game. That being said, I've met a lot of really supportive and sweet people, both cis and trans.

Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

Not really? I related a lot to Rose from Homestuck when I was like 13 so I guess that could count as a trans-headcanon.

Who gives you the most gender envy?

I don't really get gender envy, per se. I have a few friends who I'm like "oh my god you're gorgeous, I wish I looked as good as you" but less envy & more appreciation.
I used to *really* wanna be Aerith from FF7 when I was a kid though lmao

Any tips for passing?

Confidence!
I think it's different for trans-masc people so I can't give any advice there but like, for transfem passing it's mostly a case of being really good at makeup and knowing how to dress.
If you're newly out & trying to dress fem avoid the "Amazon Basics" fit, you wanna find a blouse that changes your torso silhouette & a good skirt that's reasonably long - foam breastforms are also great for wearing underneath dresses & blouses that go up to your neck.
There are a bunch of great makeup tutorials for trans girls on youtube too, especially if you get beard shadow sob sob

Do you wish you were never born trans?

Nothing quite so severe. I would have liked to have been born a girl, gone through childhood as a girl & not made such a mess of my early life, but I'm happy that I'm trans. I wouldn't be me if I wasn't.
There's a lot of pain involved in transitioning, but it is also something worth celebrating.


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Reply by XxDespairFactionAshtonxX

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What is your gender?

Male


What are your pronouns?

He/Him


When did you first realise you were trans?

Roughly 18 years old. I was a little late in realizing.


Did you change your name?

Yes, but not legally yet. It is a very long and tedious process to do it in the United States.


Are you out to your family?

Yes.


Are you out to your friends?

Also yes.


What did they think of your coming out (if applicable)?

My family hated it at first. My parents told me to "quit the trans bullshit or get the fuck out", so I just count that as being kicked out since I couldn't really just go back into the closet. They thought I was brainwashed by my abusive ex into thinking I was trans cause I "showed no signs" when I was a kid. I ended up being homeless and couch hopping in a totally different state with my abuser for years, almost died many times. My extended family would send me Facebook messages telling me that Satan had possessed me and was influencing me down a horrible path and to stop taking "trans pills" (I am FTM btw!!!). My parents cut me off of their health insurance so I wouldn't use it to access gender affirming care with it. It was horrible. For some reason out of nowhere...my parents came around. Now they want to be in my life and they are trying to respect my transition. At least my dad is. I don't know what happened but they're getting a lot better about things.

On the other hand, my friends have all been super accepting of me since the beginning. I was blessed to have their support during the years of abuse and harassment from my family. I probably would be dead if I didn't have them.


Do you have trans friends?

Most of my friends fall under the trans umbrella. I feel safer around other trans people because they understand what it is like to live as a trans person in a heternormative society. Most cis people cannot relate to that experience unless they're GNC. Hell, my boss at work is a trans man.


Did your sexuality change when you came out?

No, I always identified as panromantic asexual.


Did/Do you take hormones?

I do! I have been taking IM Testosterone shots since 2018, and just last month, I switched over to subcutaneous injections because of my fear of needles. It was so bad that I would miss doses to the point I would stop taking my HRT all together. The subcutaneous pen injections are a game changer cause I don't feel the injection at all!



Do you have penis envy?

Like bottom dysphoria? Kinda, but it isn't super strong. I just hate thinking about the fact that I have a vagina moreso not having a penis. I don't know if that makes sense. It's not because of misogyny or anything, there is a genuine disconnect to my sex anatomy. Would it be nice to have a dick? Yeah, but I don't feel the need to get bottom surgery. At least not at this time.


Do you plan on medically transitioning?

I already am medically transitioning. I have been on HRT for six years. Someday I would like to get top surgery as well.


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)?

Absolutely. Since my HRT has been inconsistent over the years, I appear more androgynous, so people still clock me as female which sucks. Those who did know often assumed that I am trans due to trauma (not the case). They assume I went through some kind of sexual abuse as a child (I did not). I get blatantly misgendered. I fear using public bathrooms, if I use the men's room, I am afraid I will get harassed. I am afraid to use the women's room cause I fear someone will think I am MTF and assume I am in there to prey on women. I get treated as mentally ill based on being trans alone. Or that my actual mental illnesses are the reason WHY I am trans (it is NOT). I sometimes get infantilized like I am just some lost and confused girl. People that I thought I could trust would tell other people that I am trans without my permission. I have to be stealth to avoid transphobia, so I just pretend I am a cis man with a hormonal disorder. I live in a very protestant right wing town in rural Missouri. People are extremely ignorant or just straight up bigoted. I avoid the public as much as I can for my own safety.


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols?

I don't really have any idols...or headcanons, i don't really consume much fictional media. But I do enjoy content made by trans people. Like the YouTuber Dead Domain (they're non-binary) or Alexander Avila (trans man). Or trans musicians, like Jade, the trans vocalist of the metalcore band Lacerated. Or Connie Sgarbossa, the trans vocalist of metalcore/hardcore band seeyouspacecowboy. I love Gerard Way and Davey Havok, both were extremely GNC and LGBTQ+ advocates.


Who gives you the most gender envy?

Myspace emo boys. Randy Romance, Brandon Killen, Adeon Angelic, Michael Macabre, Rudy Muerte, Shawn Milke...hell even old photos of Andy SIxx, even though I do not like him as a person.


Any tips for passing?

I don't want to tell people to pass when they don't feel the need to. If they want to be GNC, they're still valid. But for those who WISH to look more masculine...don't wear your pants high waist. that will make you look curvier. Avoid super tight shirts. Try to wear baggier pants, nothing super form fitting. Be mindful of your mannerisms, the cadence of your speech, and the way you stand. Don't shave your arms, legs, or armpits. Keep your hair cut short, make sure bangs don't go past lips. (No longer than nose is best option.) Sideburns are also quite masculinizing. With luck, people will assume you're a teenage boy pre-HRT. If you can afford it, try using contour makeup too!


Do you wish you were never born trans?

I used to wish I was cis a lot when I was younger. I went through a really bad transmed phase as a late teen/young adult that I deeply regret. While being trans in a non-accepting society isn't fun at all, being trans has given me a unique perspective that I would not have as a cis person. It made me more attune to social causes and more empathetic to the causes of other targeted marginalized groups. I realize that there is nothing wrong with being trans. It's society not offering acceptance and accommodations for us, they're refusal to allow us to liberate our community...that's the problem. I no longer wish to assimilate. I love ALL of my trans siblings, yes even those who identify as xenogenders and use neopronouns. Them expressing themselves aren't causing the harm, it is the transphobic legislation that are the real harm. I turned my sights towards fighting THEM, the ones actually causing tangible harm and using those who are expressing their identities in unconventional ways as scapegoats. I love that I am trans. It is a core part of who I am. It is something that cannot be changed about me. People are gonna have to suck it up and accept that. I am just trying to live my best life as my authentic self. I am not free until ALL trans people are free.


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Reply by Carson

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What is your gender? Male


What are your pronouns? He/Him


When did you first realise you were trans? when i was 12


Did you change your name? yes


Are you out to your family? some of it


Are you out to your friends? yes (most)


Do you have trans friends? Yes


Did your sexuality change when you came out? yes


Did/do you take hormones? no


Do you have penis envy? yes


Do you plan on medically transitioning? no


Upon transitioning, did you notice a difference in the way society/the public treats you (if applicable)? i get called slurs alot


Do you have any trans headcanons or idols? headcanon: Mikan Tsumiki is TransFemme idol Madison Werner


Any tips for passing? No (>.<)


Do you wish you were never born trans?  yes because of slurs

Gender envy: jake webber and johnnie guilbert 


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